bet not many women are privy to this method of privately testing you to
see if you have good deen or not. After a couple has married the
husband may pose an otherwise haram situation to his wife to test her
with her reaction. Whether her reaction would be in line with Islam or
falling into haram, this lead me to hearing about two stories where
women have been tested and alhamdollilah passed with flying colors.
Wife number one is a Lawyer from Egypt. Her husband first told his Mom about his plans to test her.
Then he planned a scenario where he said he received a large sum of
money from Saudi Arabia from someone he knows to buy something using
that money, but instead of buying that item he planned to keep the money
in their bank account to accrue interest from the Bank. In Egypt
apparently you can become quite well off by keeping money in their banks
if you have a large sum of money to deposit. He said he would keep that
money in their account and keep telling his friend that he could not
find the item he was speaking about allowing them to earn a lot of money
from his money. The wife reacted, “That is Haram! I am going to tell my Mother, Sisters and brother and have them divorce you at once!”
Obviously she did
not partake in the haram idea and he laughed and said I was just testing
you that he told his Mother that he would test you!
Wife number two, a
Wife and Mother from USA. While in Las Vegas with her husband at a
Merchandise Show, the husband planned to say to his wife to walk through
to see the Casino’s because he said he never seen one. They did and
then he asked her if she like to gamble and she said, “No.” He
persisted, “Come on I will give you money to gamble, I do not mind.” She
said, “No.” As they walked through the many machines lights blinking
and buzzing noises he pulled her arm to sit at the machine to play, she
felt very annoyed like a rush feeling to want to leave and he kept
pushing her and she said, “If we play our kids could be born with a
birth defect, do you really want to screw up your kids’ lives to
gamble?! Let’s leave now! If you do not leave with me, I will leave
without you!” He laughed and hugged her and said oh how much he trusted
her. She had no clue he was testing her but again and again certain
situations presented them to her from him to test her Iman. She passed
all the time. Alhamdollilah.
To me this all
sounds a little back handed and deceptive but if a women or man is to do
haram actions then there may be great reasons to doubt their sincerity.
I know as a female that I have watched how my husband would handle
himself in situations where other women were around. He drops his head
and look at the ground. Wow a man who actually lowers his gaze. In all
the years I have been married, I have never seen other men do this and
so it is with extreme pleasure to know I can trust my man!
What do you think? Has this ever happened to you and if so what’s your story?
Jazak Allah Khair
Courtesy of http://www.habibimatrimonials.com/m/articles/view/Did-Your-Spouse-Test-YOU%20 - Habibi Matrimonials
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