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Category: Culture & Community
Forum Name: Family Matter
Forum Discription: Discuss Family Issues
Printed Date: 21 October 2016 at 2:08am
Topic: Famly problems.
Posted By: Saffie
Subject: Famly problems.
Date Posted: 01 September 2012 at 3:02pm
Aslamualaykum, I'm here because I don't know what else to do.
My brother who is 15 now, doesn't listen to my parents. He always causes
frustration and sadness in our family. He yells, forces people to do things
his way and if we don't, he will take it out on my other brothers, who are
younger than him. I see that my parents are at their wits ends because of
all that. And because of his attitude, my other brothers are starting to act
like him. Me and my mom have sat down with him so many times and
confront him of his behavior, but it doesn't seem to work at all. He has
caused my mother to cry many times and I feel helpless becasue I can't do
anything about it. It feels like he doesn't care about hurting people as
long as he is happy. We fight EVERYDAY with him. I wish we didn't have to.
It's very saddening. I have prayed so many many times for him. He fights
and 'blackmails and threatens'
my other brothers if they don't do what he wants. I want him to see and
acknowledge what he does wrong and do something positive about it. I
know he isn't a bad person. But I want to know why he does all these
Posted By: Chrysalis
Date Posted: 25 October 2012 at 9:05am
He needs some tough love and discipline. The parents should take away privileges like cellphones, internet, pocket money etc and EXPECT him to earn his privileges. If there are no negative consequences to his actions, he won't learn.
"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."