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Topic: So lonely on foreign land
Posted By: salwa
Subject: So lonely on foreign land
Date Posted: 29 July 2012 at 10:50am
Assalammualaikum wa rahmatullah wabarakatuh

Hello all

I live in USA for 5 years now but from S.E.Asia.   When my parents died, I felt lonely, unmarried and after some years, I got married in USA.  Now I have never been more lonely in my life.  I feel I am on a different planet. 
 
 



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Posted By: peacemaker
Date Posted: 29 July 2012 at 1:25pm
Walaikum Salam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

Welcome to the forum! May Allah (Exalted is He) guide us all. Ramadan Kareem!

Peace

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Posted By: Caringheart
Date Posted: 29 July 2012 at 4:52pm
Originally posted by salwa

Assalammualaikum wa rahmatullah wabarakatuh

Hello all

I live in USA for 5 years now but from S.E.Asia.   When my parents died, I felt lonely, unmarried and after some years, I got married in USA.  Now I have never been more lonely in my life.  I feel I am on a different planet. 


Greetings salwa,

I am sorry to hear of your troubles.  I hope that you can find friends and support, and a way to feel fulfilled and less lonely.
I have heard it said that there is no loneliness worse than feeling lonely in a relationship.  I think we feel all our problems are at an end when we marry.  When we are alone and lonely at least we feel there is something we can do about it.  You need to have that same attitude even though you are married.  Seek things outside yourself... things that serve God.
Blessings and peace to you.
Heart


Posted By: flyffdzd
Date Posted: 31 July 2012 at 12:21am
Welcome and say something you want to know.

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Posted By: flyffdzd
Date Posted: 01 August 2012 at 11:33pm
I hope that you can find friends and support, and a way to feel fulfilled and less lonely.

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Everything is good!


Posted By: Nemart
Date Posted: 09 August 2012 at 12:36pm
welcome to the forum..i hope u find loads of friends here. 

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Posted By: shaheed
Date Posted: 12 August 2012 at 1:48am
Dear Bro.,

A Muslim should never feel " that" lonely, you could recite Quran be with Allah, learn more about Islam, join some Islamic centers, I'm sure there are many in US where you can learn more about islam and meet new Muslims and even make new friends.

God Bless you.


Posted By: salwa
Date Posted: 12 August 2012 at 5:37am
Assalammualaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh
Thank you for voice of concern.  I am a born Muslim sister and quite old, over 40.  I married a convert Muslim American.  Although he is a generally a good Muslim, but we have differences and dispute. Poor communication by him.  The bottom strong point is I cannot live with him anymore. I always want to go but no money, nowhere to go and with lots of personal stuff. I seek help from Muslim organization but they are not willing to offer help but open to receive donation. 
HASBUNALLAH WA NIKMAL WAKIL ..... being in a terrible emotional situation, alhamdulillah I seek ALLAH's help with desperation.  Alhamdulillah, I have a place to keep my stuff with a non-Muslim organization, and get a loan from a non-Muslim friend (of my origin country) who instantly said YES to help. 
I am on my way to another state and into a home Muslim shelter, alhamdulillah.  I seek ALLAH'S help again to find my independence soonest and can get my stuff back.  
 
Ramadan Mubarak to all brothes/sisters
 
 


Posted By: Idil
Date Posted: 18 September 2012 at 12:55pm
Asalamu Calykum my dearest sister,.

May ALLAH take away the loneliness that you are experiencing. Know that as individuals life takes us through different stages, it may be that this situation that you are in is just temporary. May ALLAH change your condition as soon as possible and please do not occupy yourself with this problem fully, rather focus on something else. Hope this helps.


Posted By: Idil
Date Posted: 18 September 2012 at 1:03pm

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Greetings salwa,

I am sorry to hear of your troubles.  I hope that you can find friends and support, and a way to feel fulfilled and less lonely.
I have heard it said that there is no loneliness worse than feeling lonely in a relationship.  I think we feel all our problems are at an end when we marry.  When we are alone and lonely at least we feel there is something we can do about it.  You need to have that same attitude even though you are married.  Seek things outside yourself... things that serve God.
Blessings and peace to you.
Heart
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Masha allah , you are giving great advice. Many times I see brothers and sisters rushing into marriage in order to escape their problems when in fact, marriage will not solve their problems. It is very important for us sisters to have something going on for our self in life before one commits. Often I see sisters giving up everything just because they are getting married when in fact in most cases men in general want to have their own space and time even when they are married and for this reason it is important for sisters to focus on other areas of their life.


Posted By: Purple Cup
Date Posted: 24 September 2012 at 8:06pm
There is an organization here in Northern California which helps women found in abusive relationships. Maybe you want out but feel trapped. They can provide you a place to stay and train you in some job. I know the founder personally of this project and so you would be in good hands.

The sites organization is called NISA and its founder is Dr. Fareeda Rajabally.

I am sorry I do not know her web address. I keep trying to find it but it is not coming to my mind.


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