Originally posted by ma84

Asalaamu alaikum,

I have alot of concerns in my marriage and am trying to come up with a solution to make my marriage bearable...ive been married 10 months, im educated I have a degree and I worked for 6 years before my marriage, before marriage my husband agreed to let me work after marriage..but now he doesnt want me to work..his family is completely and heavily dependant on him financially even though he has a father and brother they dont work...which leaves me with very less..also I get very frustrated sitting at home because his mother is always creating problems in the house...even though he knows that me getting a job will keep me busy and avoid conflicts at home,he still wont allow me..also it will help me financially...i want to know if I can work get a job even if he doesnt allow me? I knw I shouldnt be disobeying him but I have no choice, he doesnt provide for me and makes excuses when I ask for money so I dont ask because he works hard and i dont want him to borrow money for m..ive also been so independant before marriage asking him again n again makes me nervous...his family takes all the money and live very well..we have no savings nothing planned for the future...me getting a job can help with savings as well...plz help im very depressed and I get sick all the time, my health is being affected to the point where I wont be able to have kids from the stress...thanks