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Topic: Hijab,how does it feel?
Posted By: Serrrendipity
Subject: Hijab,how does it feel?
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 11:46am
Salam, hello, I'm a non-Muslim female who has always been curious about Isalm. I'm wondering how it feels to wear the hijab, especially as a revert for the first time?. I'm trying to learn more about Islam, possibly with a view to reverting. I've read discussion about the hijab many times. I'm wondering how it feels to wear it?. How does it feel removing a part of oneself from public view? and did your social interactions change?. Thanks

S



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Posted By: semar
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 10:39pm
Salam/Peace.
 
Welcome, hoep you enjoy your stay.
Some ladies on this forum may share their feelings about it.
 
 


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Salam/Peace,
Semar
The Prophet said: "Do not eat before you are hungry, and stop eating before you are full"
"1/3 of your stomach for food 1/3 for water, 1/3 for air"


Posted By: Moly
Date Posted: 07 April 2011 at 1:33am
Salam Alikum
 
Well it feels special that you feel you are not for general view to all ppl. I have been wearing it for 8 years now, I dont feel socially shut away.. and by time you will feel it isbecoming part of you....
 
Salam


Posted By: haniyyya
Date Posted: 08 April 2011 at 2:34am
hi.... when i was 9 my dad forced me to wear a scarf when i would go to school i hated this but had no choice otherwise my dad was going to beat me i would enter the gates of school imbaraced and the only muslim girl ppl stared at me this made me feel ashamed i was forced to wear it for three years later i got use to it it was like part o my flesh i began to love it just like that and whenever the school kids threatened to pull it off i would cry and feel so hurt i wore a trouser to school not a skirt so that was a start when i turned 13 i was told to wear hijaab so i wore it and whenever i would go out i felt shy but as the years went by again i got used to it now to hell with what everybody thinks i love my scarf and hijaab and i will wear it even if im the only one i just simply cannot live without it honestly hijaab makes me feel humble whenever im sad or upset even if im in the house i put on my hijaab and it makes me feel better its like lighting up a cigarette and then feeling at ease because of it ,,,, alot of my friends felt imbarassed when i would go out with them coz of my hijaab so i told them straight i dont like you anymore your not a true friend if you dont accept my hijaab and i ended alot of so called friendships, i got so use to hijaab i began feeling comfortable sleeping with it ,,,,


Posted By: still.learning
Date Posted: 29 April 2011 at 7:53am
I love the Hijab!
 
Although about the first month wearing it it was not smooth sailing
Since i reverted to Islam when i was 18 in a western country people were "Shocked" i was covering myself up because i had a body and hair woman would "die" for.
haha...
 
Personally
The hijab make me comfortable, like i have Islam wrapped all around me.
It reminds me I am a muslim.
I have a husband and i dont want others looking at me. I love my husband. I love Islam.
My body is my business.
 
Socially
I hated it. Children looked at me, teens my age looked and laughed and pointed, middle aged men are the worst, staring, gawking, rude old men.
 
but then I think, they are looking at my hijab, not my hair, neck, shoulders nothing. and that made me happy, more confident.
 
Islam gives woman a VOICE, not a "body"
 


Posted By: azizah nich
Date Posted: 03 May 2011 at 6:54am
salam !!!!!
it really feels special and descent after ur used it , if one understands wat faith means then she wd nt go in for what the public wd say hence deen says or the quarn chap 24:31 states "and tell the believing women to lower their gaze and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except that which is apparent.........." really their is a reward for that in paradise. sometimes its not abt wat u feel but doing the right thing.


thanks !!!!!!


Posted By: seeja
Date Posted: 15 May 2011 at 4:51am

Asslamu Alaikum

Muslim women are enjoined to "draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty" except in the presence of their husbands, other women, children, eunuchs and those men who are so closely related to them that they are not allowed to marry them



Posted By: seeja
Date Posted: 15 May 2011 at 4:54am

The term Hijab, includes not only dress and covering the body, but methods of behavior before members of the same and/or opposite sex, promoting privacy for females and prohibiting loose intermingling between males and females, and thereby encouraging modesty, decency, chastity and above all, respect and worship of Allah.



Posted By: seeja
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 4:00am

Allah Ta'ala says: "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts from sin and not show of their adornment except only that which is apparent, and draw their head covers over their necks and bosoms and not reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women (i.e., their sisters in Islam), or their female slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants free of physical desires, or small children who have no sense of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah altogether, O you Believers, in order that you may attain success.[An-Nur, 24:31]



Posted By: honeto
Date Posted: 26 May 2011 at 3:43pm
Salam,
I am a 'brother' but I have a wife and four daughters and I know I can be of some help in this issue.
First, the purpose of Hijab is to fulfill God's command, to please God. In doing so we may displease some people who lack the understanding of its purpose.
Second, how it is defind. What is to be covered in order to be Islamic.
I see some ladies covering their head but wear tight pants and short shirts that reveal the sensitive front and back contours.
I come to understand that the purpose to cover is simply not to reveal what would be sexually inviting to the other sex. So wearing cloths that instead of revealing the body shape cover it. God made woman beautiful and gave her body more attraction and thus it might take more for her to not reveal that attraction and beauty that is only for her spous to enjoy.
Here in the West, the reaction toward somone in symbolic Islamic scraf or hijab has changed after 9/11. I remember how it was before, but now this change of attitude has caused many Muslim women to take off their scarf/hijab. My wife, who after becoming Muslim was considering to wear scraf, and sometimes wear it in public also decided not to wear it. She and our dauhgter dress very modest with long full arm shirts and full length pants or skirts with the intention to not be revealing what Allah does not want them to. One of our daughters the 2nd one, who decided when she was little that she will start to wear scarf when she turns ten. She proved that what she said was real, she has been wearing scarf since then. And she makes no exceptions, I could not believe myself that she was that serious. We fully support her, and admire her courage. She is very girly girl, love pink and very senstive but rock solid will, she does not change once she decides.  My older daughter says: " I wish I could be as courageous"
Public response is sometimes an issue since it affects all of us. I remember before, when we use to go out. Dressing moderately but girls without scarfs, without getting noticed. Now because one with scarf is enough to get noticed right away and prople's reaction, sometimes shows in their being nervous, or simply just a strange look, as if we just landed from Mars is sometimes a concern but I guess the best way is to ignore it. If things were as before 9/11, I would say a lot more Muslim women would wear hijab.
Hasan
 


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39:64 Proclaim: Is it some one other than God that you order me to worship, O you ignorant ones?"


Posted By: Chrysalis
Date Posted: 27 May 2011 at 6:09am
Hello Serendipity!

I chose to wear the Hijab when I was 14, my decision alone. And I've been wearing it for 10years now alhamdulilah. We are three sisters, and uptil now I was the only Sister wearing it... but just a month ago my younger sister took it up too. Alhamdulilah me, my Sister and my mom wear it of our own choice. My sister made the decision on her own too, out of the blue after attending an Islamic seminar. Our parents have never enforced any sort of dress code on us, but as Muslims we have always dressed modestly even when not wearing Hijab. Our parents never made us feel as if it was something we were 'supposed' to do. I think that helped a lot.

I personally didn't find it hard to take up Hijab, at the time I was reading about Islam and feeling 'spiritually moved'. I think it was the best decision! Surprisingly any negative comments I got only strengthened my decision. I was personally very happy with Hijab - but a few people (some relatives) would say you're too young, it'll make you look older, you have a lot of time, guys won't like you (lol!). But it does make you feel special, you know you are breaking the social mould.

Naturally there will be a few occasions when you may think oh that hairstyle would look cool at a wedding or party, or that slim-fitting/sleeveless would look so pretty...  ofcourse Islam doesn't prohibit us from any of that, we are not supposed to flaunt our body to the public. At home within our blood relatives we can wear whatever we like.

I also love how the Hijab makes you feel special, protected and modest. Most of the time I feel that men give me the respect I deserve and try not overstep their boundaries. Wearing the Hijab also helps put things into perspective. Covering up you realize you don't need to primp and preen for strangers or the society. My body and what I look like is my concern. Society really pressures women into 'looking good' all the time and displaying themselves for attention. The value/popularity of a women nowadays is directly proportionate to her dressing, beauty and appearance. This should not be so! I mean I was just on Yahoo News right now and they were covering the Obama visit to Europe... there was a special piece on Michelle Obama and how she dressed and looked throughout the visit! Michelle is an intelligent, educated woman! Yet the only news about her was the dresses she wore and how she looked!!!







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"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."


Posted By: Chrysalis
Date Posted: 27 May 2011 at 6:13am
Oh and contrary to popular belief it doesn't feel 'hot' or uncomfortable. You get so used to it that you don't even notice. Of course as a revert or someone who takes up the Hijab much later, they may feel uncomfortable at first. But it depends on what materials, length and colors u use. You can adapt it to your climate, weather, culture...


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"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."


Posted By: seeja
Date Posted: 27 May 2011 at 11:21am

Allah Almighty says: "O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies." (Al-Ahzab:59)" 



Posted By: seeja
Date Posted: 27 May 2011 at 11:28am

Bismillahir-RaHmanir-RaHeem. 

While considering the proper dress for a Muslima one should strictly follow the below points

1- It must cover the whole body. 
 
2- It must not be tight or transparent. 
 
3- It must not delineate the parts of the body, especially those parts that are sexually attractive. 
 
4- It must not be a dress that is usually worn by men. 



Posted By: seeja
Date Posted: 27 May 2011 at 11:36am
Originally posted by Chrysalis

Hello Serendipity!

I chose to wear the Hijab when I was 14, my decision alone. And I've been wearing it for 10years now alhamdulilah. We are three sisters, and uptil now I was the only Sister wearing it... but just a month ago my younger sister took it up too. Alhamdulilah me, my Sister and my mom wear it of our own choice. My sister made the decision on her own too, out of the blue after attending an Islamic seminar. Our parents have never enforced any sort of dress code on us, but as Muslims we have always dressed modestly even when not wearing Hijab. Our parents never made us feel as if it was something we were 'supposed' to do. I think that helped a lot.

I personally didn't find it hard to take up Hijab, at the time I was reading about Islam and feeling 'spiritually moved'. I think it was the best decision! Surprisingly any negative comments I got only strengthened my decision. I was personally very happy with Hijab - but a few people (some relatives) would say you're too young, it'll make you look older, you have a lot of time, guys won't like you (lol!). But it does make you feel special, you know you are breaking the social mould.

Naturally there will be a few occasions when you may think oh that hairstyle would look cool at a wedding or party, or that slim-fitting/sleeveless would look so pretty...  ofcourse Islam doesn't prohibit us from any of that, we are not supposed to flaunt our body to the public. At home within our blood relatives we can wear whatever we like.

I also love how the Hijab makes you feel special, protected and modest.
Most of the time I feel that men give me the respect I deserve and try not overstep their boundaries. Wearing the Hijab also helps put things into perspective. Covering up you realize you don't need to primp and preen for strangers or the society. My body and what I look like is my concern. Society really pressures women into 'looking good' all the time and displaying themselves for attention. The value/popularity of a women nowadays is directly proportionate to her dressing, beauty and appearance. This should not be so! I mean I was just on Yahoo News right now and they were covering the Obama visit to Europe... there was a special piece on Michelle Obama and how she dressed and looked throughout the visit! Michelle is an intelligent, educated woman! Yet the only news about her was the dresses she wore and how she looked!!!


"Jazakullah."

You are absolutely correct. In our society woman always dressed modestly. But now a day’s more and more women prefer to wear Hijab (some even covering the faces also) which gives them more respect from others than before when they are wearing other dress.

For the working women who are mingling with opposite sex Hijab is the proper dress as this covers their entire body.






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Islam (Total Surrender, Submission, Obedience, Sincerity and Peace with Allah) is for all people, in all places and in all times


Posted By: honeto
Date Posted: 27 May 2011 at 3:09pm
Jazakallah,
may Allah give us all 'tufeek' to fulfill our obligations to Him.
Hasan


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39:64 Proclaim: Is it some one other than God that you order me to worship, O you ignorant ones?"


Posted By: lorry
Date Posted: 25 August 2011 at 8:30pm
ConfusedConfusedAngryAngry i have been a muslim for a year now bu do not feel like a real muslim as i am not allowed to cover as i should i am married  have been 25 yrs in october ] my husband is not muslim we do not have a marraige anymore do not share same bathroom or bedroom he will not let me out house if i wear abay or long dress or cover hair . i wish i was brave and knew what to o i thought i wanted a divorce but have been with him so long i am scared also have health problems and have anurse who has to help me wash and dress hate tis too as its not right id like to live a lone andd have a muslim sister help me with the jobs i need bit how would i do that ????
 
sorry gone off track i want to wear one but scared and not allowed if you can do it and want to please do it ConfusedEmbarrassed


Posted By: Hayfa
Date Posted: 27 August 2011 at 4:30pm
Salaams Sister,

That is very difficult. And remember intentions are very important in Islam. A situation may prevent us from fulfilling a duty. And Allah knows your thoughts. 

For many reverts we do the changes "in pieces." Like having longer pants and long-sleeve shirts. Many Muslims wear pants and long-sleeves. Do it very casually and over time he may not notice. 

Why does a Muslim sister need to help you with a job? Are you a British citizen?  Can't you apply for jobs on your own? I am confused as to why you need a Muslim sister to do this for you?

Sadly many women are dependent financially upon men / or someone else, and thus they cannot always do what they would like or is best for themselves.

Keep praying to Allah and Allah knows your heart and intentions sister.

Hayfa



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When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi


Posted By: lorry
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 10:37am
when i said i need a muslim sister to help me with jobs i need to do i am disabled and need help with washing and dressing due to limited use off arms and legs as a muslim woman this is very hard as i know i am not ment to show my body to anyone else it also means i need help with removing body hair o it is embarrassing and hard for me  i do have a nurse she is very nice was my friend before my nurse but again it doe not feel right to ask her to help with more personal tasks like shaving  i hope this clears up that point


Posted By: Lalli36
Date Posted: 31 August 2011 at 10:00am
Hello!

I am also a non-Muslim who has chosen to wear hijab for 1 month and report my findings for my school as a social experiment. My month of wearing hijab has been going on for several months now since I haven't worn it every day, and also because I just don't want to take it off when I do wear it!

I have always been fascinated with hijab. It's beautiful, modest and very very practical. Although my catholic husband does not approve of my wearing it for fear of discrimination (something he is subject to anyway as he is a foreigner) he really can't argue with the fact that I am covering myself up. Catholics believe in modesty too- in fact so does almost every religion.

I was just a little bit uncomfortable at first, wondering what people would think of me. I did face a few negative reactions, but there have been so many positive ones! In line at the supermarket, a Muslim woman spoke to me in her language. When I indicated that I didn't understand, we started conversing about my reason for trying the hijab. She was so supportive and ended the conversation with a "you go girl!" I've also had incredible support from the wonderful community on this board.

In short, wearing hijab feels wonderful. I don't feel the shame of incurring comments from men, something that I've suffered with internally for some time. Of course men must have control of themselves and their thoughts and are responsible for them, but knowing that I was just following the skimpy modern fashions made me feel responsible to a degree as well. That's just me though =)

I also feel like I am more confident and conscious of my actions. As I said, I am not Muslim, but I do not want to misrepresent the community by doing something inappropriate while in hijab. It's something I take very seriously.

I could go on and on. I just love it.

Lalli


Posted By: seeja
Date Posted: 27 March 2012 at 10:40pm

Salam sister

Congrats for finding the beauty of “hijab”. Keep going ahead. Surely Hijab will give you pleasure in this world, freedom and so many other things and rewards are waiting you from the almighty. Be strong with wearing the Hijab and make it your dress for all the occasions. Meantime you and your husband can start understanding the great religion Islam. Like Hijaab you will welcome this belief also once you come across its taste. Information’s are available all over the internet. I am sure both you will like this great religion of almighty god. Be in touch………



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