Salaams,

I really think people who become Muslim who are married to nonMuslim people or nominal Muslims face a hard choice. Especially if kids are invovled. But it’s the same if one person’s life is traveling in a far different direction, be it involve Muslims or not.

Obviously you know that you will not be able to make anyone else do their prayers, be more dutiful etc. Is he actually a Muslim? If not than that may be a big issue…

If he is a Muslim then there are rights and duties that Muslims are obligated to do and/or attempt to do. This is why education is very important for people. For us ‘new’ Muslims we are a blank slate gaining knowledge. For born Muslims, they too, may have to override cultural norms and relearn true Islamic knowledge.

Level 1 would seem to be, is he preventing you from fulfilling your basic obligations-prayers, fast etc. If so, then you may have a stronger obligation to leave. Assuming that is not the case you go to the next level.

Level 2: the ability to live in an Islamic environment-our home. What it sounds like, is that you want to be moving towards creating a true Islamic home in which your children will be raised in. For women with children, raising those children to be good Muslims, with the right values is their jihad. It is what Allah is entrusting women to do.

Whether you wait or not, no one else can make that call for you. I would think that if he is not a Muslim then this would affect things more. There are plenty of Muslims, who go through ups and downs. But if he is not a Muslim, he may never become one, not that you don’t keep praying for HIS sake.

I think you are facing a tough decision... keep praying to Allah to guide you and make your hourney easier

Please keep us posed on how things are going.

Hayfa