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   Sisters, I am a sister of 3 months to Islam. I am true and give my heart to Allah. I met a muslim man in Thailand, who said he wanted me to follow him in order to marry and begin a life with him. I did research in Canada and accepted Islam as my faith. I returned to Thailand to marry. My husband was not very clear about the mika and at first said we only need go to a mosque, say a few quran with an Iman and thats all. The day we "wed" a friend of his from islam took us to some mans house. I was asked if I accepted him as my father, I said yes. I was asked to repeat some of the Quran, the man held my husbands hand shook it and that was all. I was not given any thing from my husband but a 10 dollar ring to signify marriage. there was no paper signed. Now 3 weeks later, after I paid for a trip for the 2 of us to Nismuddin in India, my husband says he does not love me, never has. I am nothing to him. But he will not divorce me because he wants to try to immigrate to canada. Can somebody please help me. I mean give advise as to how I can be free from this situation where not only do I not live with this man because of immigration, but he does not follow quran with support of me, or kindness. I am not even sure if the wedding was a true wedding. How can I proceed?
Thank you. 
Sister Kadijah

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sageesage Starter Joined: 13 March 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1	Topic: Fake Mika Posted: 15 April 2007 at 3:17am
	Sisters, I am a sister of 3 months to Islam. I am true and give my heart to Allah. I met a muslim man in Thailand, who said he wanted me to follow him in order to marry and begin a life with him. I did research in Canada and accepted Islam as my faith. I returned to Thailand to marry. My husband was not very clear about the mika and at first said we only need go to a mosque, say a few quran with an Iman and thats all. The day we "wed" a friend of his from islam took us to some mans house. I was asked if I accepted him as my father, I said yes. I was asked to repeat some of the Quran, the man held my husbands hand shook it and that was all. I was not given any thing from my husband but a 10 dollar ring to signify marriage. there was no paper signed. Now 3 weeks later, after I paid for a trip for the 2 of us to Nismuddin in India, my husband says he does not love me, never has. I am nothing to him. But he will not divorce me because he wants to try to immigrate to canada. Can somebody please help me. I mean give advise as to how I can be free from this situation where not only do I not live with this man because of immigration, but he does not follow quran with support of me, or kindness. I am not even sure if the wedding was a true wedding. How can I proceed? Thank you. Sister Kadijah
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Aminah07 Senior Member Joined: 17 March 2007 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 219	Posted: 16 April 2007 at 5:42am
	WAS, if you were married in Canada i'm not sure if you have counties or regions but in the USA every state has cities and county offices that manage a certain amount of cities in that state. even if you were wed in a house their would have to be a record of it at the county office papers would have to be filed to have it reacognized as a legal documented wedding or else you would not be able to share medical insurance, bank accounts, and you would not be able to help with his immigration. I don't know about the ceremony I was married at a local mosque but a day or so before the Imam brought the paperwork to my families house and had it witnessed and notarized and recorded before we had the ceremony at the mosque. I waived a dowry simply because my husband didn't have very much money he did pay for our appartment and furnishings and purchased for me some vacant land a few years after our marriage since I told him I didn't wear bangles and earings. you need to do some research if you never signed a marriage license or legal paperwork that was recorded i can't imagine under the countrys laws where you were married that it could be legal? Aminah
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Abeer23 Senior Member Joined: 28 September 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 493	Posted: 17 April 2007 at 12:17am
	As salamu alikum, sis. Aminah has given you some really good advice/information. It sounds like your father (or a wali) was not present at the wedding. Is this your first marriage? If so, the marriage is not valid without your father's consent (if you follow the hanafi madhhab then I believe it's still "valid"). This man sounds a bit dangerous to me. I wouldn't advise you to stay with him or travel with him. Perhaps you could get your family involved. Some men respond better when dealing with male in-laws. May Allah make things easier for you. Salaam
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Hayfa Female Islam Senior Member Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 2370	Posted: 17 April 2007 at 5:52am
	I'd conslt an Islamic scholar and legal council in Canada. And like Abeer said, I'd get away as fast as possible. Sorry to hear you are going through this. I will pray for you. And welcome to the web site. Hayfa
	When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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shaheed Newbie Joined: 29 March 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 25	Posted: 26 May 2007 at 3:22am
	Assalamu Alaykum Sister Khadija, I'm so sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Think this man is so dangrous, I would advise you to make sure if that was a legal marrage, consult an islamic scholar, in the meantime you go back to Canada behind his back (without informing him) I'm sure u will dicide correctly when u r away from him. pray to Allah to free you from this bad person. we too will pray for you, and don't get a bad impression about Islam, it's not Islam but it's he (the guy) who is sick and mean and dangrous too God bless you
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