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Quote Israfil Replybullet Posted: 11 September 2006 at 4:57pm
There are a variety of opinions here, but I've come up with my own
theory. I believe that "love" is both cumulative and accumulated through a
series of emotions. Love can be seen as cumulative because when we
meet someone we "develop" feelings for them. With success, our
compatibility will lead our thoughts to develop a positive image of the
person. Along with this comes the variety of emotions we develop such as
affection, sensitivity, trust, loyalty. Of course with luck (and God's help)
these emotions over time sustain themselves which leads me to the
sustained, or accumulated emotions. Over time, our emotions are
solidified and amplified. Of course the prior does not explain how we
show how we "truly" love someone but usually the measurement of our
love is our behavior towards the person whom is being loved.

The fact that we show a behavior "not typical" of a friend which reflects
more affection, and passion is usually our gauge for "love" of the person.
I choose not to include loyalty because loyalty cannot be measured in
degrees. It's black and white. You are either loyal or not. The same can be
said for trust as well, you either trust the person or you don't. Of course
one can make the argument of wariness of trust, but when it comes to
love trust is absolute and even if one is wary of the person this is part of
the cumulative process of love. We cannot semi trust someone and say we
love them. We either trust them or not.

I can take love as how my friends take it. "Love is like biter beer, you have
to have an acquired taste to enjoy it."

For those who hold love as undefinable the theory still holds since we
define our love for someone as part of our emotion it is still categorized
in this theory. Love in it of itself is not abstract from ourselves it is apart
of our emotions. In essence it is what we've developed.

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Quote Israfil Replybullet Posted: 11 September 2006 at 5:03pm
My above theory doesn't contradict my earlier post since "love" is a choice
that we make when partaking in our marital relationships. Our even before
marriage it is something that we choose to develop.
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Quote Angel Replybullet Posted: 12 September 2006 at 2:48am

Originally posted by Israfil

My above theory doesn't contradict my earlier post since "love" is a choice
that we make when partaking in our marital relationships. Our even before
marriage it is something that we choose to develop.

What happens with the saying "can't help feeling the way we/I do"

~ Our feet are earthbound, but our hearts and our minds have wings ~
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Quote Israfil Replybullet Posted: 12 September 2006 at 4:24pm
Can't help feeling the way you/we do about what? Love?

If that is the case then that feeling would be nothing more than just an
overwhelming effactuation of someone. Such as the case "love at first
sight." I'm sure in some rare cases individuals do see something in
somone and say "I'm in love." However, what we define as true love is the
quantitative truth within our "accumulated" feelings. Our longevity within
a relationship is also another maxim of this. If I see a stranger and I
introduce myself and we click and we find within each something we are
fond about this is the start of cumulative feelings, but this should not be
mistaken for love as some people do. Even if I were to say I "love" this
person we must test ourselves when saying this. I don't think no person
can find true love in a perfect stranger even when striking a conversation.
Even in the rare case where it does happen you cannot know if that is true
love because like most (if not all relationships) there is no determination
that shows whether we will be with this person forever.
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Quote rookaiya Replybullet Posted: 05 January 2007 at 4:02am

does true love mean u have to be with the person forever, is it not possible to experience love that is true for only a brief time. what does true love have to do with the amount of time u spend with the person.

two people can live unhappily together for years making each other miserable, as opposed to 2 others who share a brief encounter. will the former be true love cos of the duration of time spent togther. i dont agree with that line of thinking.

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Quote candid Replybullet Posted: 06 January 2007 at 9:06pm
Originally posted by rookaiya

does true love mean u have to be with the person forever, is it not possible to experience love that is true for only a brief time. what does true love have to do with the amount of time u spend with the person.

two people can live unhappily together for years making each other miserable, as opposed to 2 others who share a brief encounter. will the former be true love cos of the duration of time spent togther. i dont agree with that line of thinking.

First of all, I distinguish between love and 'romance'. Love is durable and commital. It is a responsibility(and its not just between romantic 'lovers' (if at all), it can be between siblings, parents and children or between friends).

Romance is fleeting and delusionary. Romance might mean challenging the world but it does not mean struggling against hardships.

 

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Quote Patty Replybullet Posted: 30 January 2007 at 4:54pm

There are many kinds of love.  What I am describing is romantic or emotional "love", which becomes something much more.  I believe many times we confuse "love" with infatuation.  Infatuation is that "oh my gosh, I've got to marry him/her or I'll just absolutely die" type of feeling.  After a period of time it dies down.  Even if we do marry this person we "just can't live without", we lose that immense passion we felt in the beginning of the relationship....and we're supposed to.  What happens is we enter into a much deeper emotion....the real, true, and everlasting feeling we have named "love".  We develope great respect and admiration for that person.  Putting their feelings above our own many times.  As time goes by in the land of true love, usually after we have been married for some time, we find great peace and happiness just being with that person, because now we have "bonded" and we are very much connected emotionally to one another.  This is how it is meant to be......and it's wonderful.  It's not now all about s-x....it's much deeper than that.  Once you really find it, you don't have to ask.....you know.

Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Peace and Joy to All.

Patty

I don't know what the future holds....but I know who holds the future.
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Quote .:: SoHaIB ::. Replybullet Posted: 24 March 2007 at 8:53am

Have only loved three things iin my life

AllAH ( SWT)

Prophet Muhammad ( PBUH)

My good Ol'Gramps ( HEs THE BEST!! )

Not really into romance and all that mushy stuff

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