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Um Ayaan Noor mharrison1@shaw.ca · Saturday, January 31, 2004 12:18 AM

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From: 

Um Ayaan Noor mharrison1@shaw.ca 

Date: 

Saturday, January 31, 2004 12:18 AM 

Asalamu Alaikum

Every day I'm filled with so much gratitude for Allah showing me the right path. Two weeks ago, after intense study and prayer I took my Shahada. I started studying Islam when I had met someone who made a tremendous impact on my life with the wisdom he imparted me. When I found out that he was muslim, I started thinking that it had to be God that had given him all of this wisdom and it started me thinking. You see...I was raised in a Christian home and it's all I've ever known until now. All I knew about Islam is the stereotypes and myths that are projected by the media in my society. In spite of that, I began to think. I had to ask myself if I am so prideful that I think I know all there is to know about God and the way He wants me to live my life. Not to mention, that all of this occurred at what was probably the most depressed time in my life. All thanks to Allah that He opened my eyes. 

It's not been easy though. My family is very unhappy with my decision. They don't understand it and are so upset that I would do this and bring my two little girls into it. I've also had a few uncomfortable encounters with sisters, who upon learning that I'm not married, and have 2 children, have drastically changed their attitudes towards me. Sometimes I feel like a divorced white woman who is a mother of two doesn't "fit in", but then I remember that Allah knows better. 

So...I'd really love to meet some sisters here. I really am yearning to get to know my fellow sisters. I also appreciate any advice that anyone would have for dealing with the above situations. May Allah reward you greatly.

Your sister, Noor

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From: 

pathseeker111

Date: 

Wednesday, February 04, 2004 12:49 AM 

On 1/31/2004 12:18:00 AM, Um Ayaan Noor wrote:

>I've also had a few
>uncomfortable encounters with
>sisters, who upon learning
>that I'm not married, and have
>2 children, have drastically
>changed their attitudes
>towards me. Sometimes I feel
>like a divorced white woman
>who is a mother of two doesn't
>"fit in", but then I remember
>that Allah knows better.

Assalamoalikum sister,

HE (ALLAH) saves whomsoever HE Wills. Alhamdolillah for this reversion of yours. 

Sister do realise that the community who calls themselves Muslims (those who submit to HIS Will) may be different from the community HE shall label as Muslims on the day of Judgement.

Ignore reactions of people who ever they identify themselves as, bond with those who are humble, kind, honest, soft and gentle, sacrificing, and firmly devoted in the quest to please Allah. I think they are the ones who will question themselves before one questions them.....and will guard themselves from uncertainties.

Just persevere.............may you be with GOD, Ameen. You have willfully chosen a path that is steep :) 

(AL-QURAN--85:21,22) Nay, this is a Glorious Qur'an. (Inscribed) in a Tablet Preserved! 

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From: 

peaceinislam

Date: 

Wednesday, February 04, 2004 05:17 AM 

On 1/31/2004 12:18:00 AM, Um Ayaan Noor wrote:
>Asalamu Alaikum<

Wa laikuma salam wa ramatullahi wa barakatuhu.

>Every day I'm filled with so much gratitude for Allah showing me the right path. Two weeks ago, after intense study and prayer I took my Shahada.<

Alhamdu lillah and mabrook (congratulations). As with many reverts to Islam, you and I have had similar enough backgrounds before we became Muslim: raised in Christianity, feeling lost (religiously) a good deal of the time, etc. Alhamdu lillah, I found Islam. I don't ever feel I can be grateful enough for finding Islam, though I try to be.

>It's not been easy though. My family is very unhappy with my decision. They don't understand it and are so upset that I would do this and bring my two little girls into it.<

I understand this only to well. Many reverts (myself included) have had the same (or similar) problems with their family accepting them becoming Muslim. While some families accept that decision (over time), other families don't. It depends upon the family. I happen to be one of the luckier ones. My family is rather open minded (well, at least after the initial shock wore off). They listened to Islam and some of it's views. I'm still the only Muslim in my family, but I continue (every now and then) to talk to them about Islam.

>I've also had a few uncomfortable encounters with sisters, who upon learning that I'm not married, and have 2 children, have drastically changed their attitudes towards me. Sometimes I feel like a divorced white woman who is a mother of two doesn't "fit in", but then I remember that Allah knows better.<

Know that when one accepts Islam (whole-heartedly and without compulsion), it's as if that person is born again: all their previous sins have been wiped clean. This is how merciful Allah is to those who listen and accept Islam.

Unfortunately, people aren't the same. In Islam, we Muslims should accept you with open arms, help guide you to greater Islamic knowledge, and leave all cultural issues aside.

There is a verse that helped me when I first became Muslim, and I'll pass it along to you:

2:153 O ye who believe! seek help with patient perseverance and prayer; for Allah is with those who patiently persevere.

>So... I'd really love to meet some sisters here. I really am yearning to get to know my fellow sisters. I also appreciate any advice that anyone would have for dealing with the above situations. May Allah reward you greatly. Your sister, Noor<

I can't help you with all of the situations you're dealing with, but insha Allah, I'll always be here for you if you need someone to talk to. BTW: I'm a Sis. Again, welcome and congrats. Maa salama.

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