Amah,

I noticed this forum when I was checking PMs.  I should point out in both fatwas, they discuss the mans sperm entering the surrogates womb.  I think I need to educate you on how surrogating works.

First, the mother is given injections of a potent hormone.  From this she hyperovulates producing many eggs.  Around a dozen are harvested and then frozen. (there is a surgery involved here) The husband then donates the sperm, which is also frozen. (this is a man, a cup and a private room, or a man, his wife, a cup and a private room, either way, the doctor doesn't see his privates)  Then in a lab, in a dish, the eggs and sperm are introduced together.  At that time, a blastocyst is formed.  A multicelled organism.  These are then encouraged to split to a certain size and that is then implanted in the surrogate.  The baby is already growing before it ever gets into the surrogate mother.  There is no sperm introduced into her body.  The baby is completely, 100% genetically the mother and father's baby.  When the child is born, the baby has no genes from the surrogate.  The baby was implanted in the womb, nestled into the side of her uterus and continued its growing that started in the test tube.  The same procedure is used in IVF for infertile women.

In this case, the surrogate woman would never  have the sperm of the man touch her, only the forming child.  In a way, like a nursemaid who feeds a child who is not her own, a surrogate mother is feeding a child who is not her own through the rich blood of her womb. 

Now, on that note.  My church forbids this for a spiritual reason, not for a biological reason in which the Sheik used.  The Mormon Church believes in Eternal families and child born of a woman is spiritually bound to her for eternity...therefore in our theology, the lineage would get confused.  But, that's an LDS view of the spiritually eternal families and since Islam doesn't teach that...it wouldn't apply in this argument.

Amah,

That's nice, not all women.  Myself included have that opportunity.  My husband would like a biological child, one I cannot give him.  So, where do we turn.  If we were muslim, then we could not adopt a child for our own, that is forbidden.  We could foster an orphan, but its not the same.  Again, its forbidden, but I can completely sympathize with a man and a woman wanting a child of their own. 

I wonder what the answer would be if it was a man's second wife in a polygnous marriage?  Just a curiousity.  Its illegal in the US, but in other countries????