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Quote Jenni Replybullet Topic: Stop Letting Boys Run Wild!!!
    Posted: 26 April 2006 at 8:07am

This is a Request for all Muslim Families in the west Especially but all over the world. PLEASE WATCH YOUR SONS, they are running wild!!! Most Muslim families are concerned with thier childerens piety, especially with thier daughters. They watch them closely, how they dress, who are thier friends, where they go ect. But what about the boys??? The sons especially teenagers are allowed MUCH MORE FREEDOM! They are allowed to roam around alone or with friends, stay at friends houses, travel ect ect. Meanwhile I am sorry to say Most families, ESPECIALLY IMIGRANTS are totally clueless to what thier sons are really doing. Well, and an American who went to college and high school with Muslim boys let me tell you-

1. They are getting in fights and becoming friends with the wrong crowd.

2. They are smoking and drinking, sometimes doing drugs.

3. THEY ARE CHASING GIRLS!!!! Yes, they are chasing girls and trying to get in thier pants. I am just being honest!!

4. THEY ARE BEING CHASED BY AGGRESIVE GIRLS!!! Don't be out in the dark and think that girls in the west won't go after your son with all they have and try to seduce him. THEY WILL!!! ANd most parents have no idea that thier sons are having sex with a girl or many girls.

5. They are getting girls pregnant. LET ME WARN YOU PEOPLE, in a Western country just because the youngsters aren't married means nothing. It is not like in a Muslim country that a man can deny he slept with a woman and not support the child. IN THE WEST HE WILL PAY!!!  Even if he is 16 years old, he will have to submit D>N>A be tested and if proven the father pay child support for 18years. Needless to say you will be ashamed, the child will be confused and most likely if the girl is not Muslim, the child wont be either.

Lastly a nice story. At my Masjids' sunday school a little seven year old boy told us a sweet little story the other day. He is from a nice Somali family. His brother was playing basketball with friends and another group of boys, they got into a fight and HE GOT STABBED IN THE CHEST!!! One of his brothers friends got stabbed in the back. Now where were these boys hanging out, with who? I bet the parents had no idea.

Meanwhile the daugthers were probably closely watched at home, while the brothers are IN THE HOSPITAL.

Wake up people, this culture of letting boys have thier fun is UNISLAMIC and has to stop!!!!

You cant be a good muslim if you are not decent and have a cold heart. Be a decent and kind person and care for women and children and the elderly.
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Quote ak_m_f Replybullet Posted: 26 April 2006 at 8:10am
Originally posted by Jenni

This is a Request for all Muslim Families in the west Especially but all over the world. PLEASE WATCH YOUR SONS, they are running wild!!! Most Muslim families are concerned with thier childerens piety, especially with thier daughters. They watch them closely, how they dress, who are thier friends, where they go ect. But what about the boys??? The sons especially teenagers are allowed MUCH MORE FREEDOM! They are allowed to roam around alone or with friends, stay at friends houses, travel ect ect. Meanwhile I am sorry to say Most families, ESPECIALLY IMIGRANTS are totally clueless to what thier sons are really doing. Well, and an American who went to college and high school with Muslim boys let me tell you-


1. They are getting in fights and becoming friends with the wrong crowd.


2. They are smoking and drinking, sometimes doing drugs.


3. THEY ARE CHASING GIRLS!!!! Yes, they are chasing girls and trying to get in thier pants. I am just being honest!!


4. THEY ARE BEING CHASED BY AGGRESIVE GIRLS!!! Don't be out in the dark and think that girls in the west won't go after your son with all they have and try to seduce him. THEY WILL!!! ANd most parents have no idea that thier sons are having sex with a girl or many girls.


5. They are getting girls pregnant. LET ME WARN YOU PEOPLE, in a Western country just because the youngsters aren't married means nothing. It is not like in a Muslim country that a man can deny he slept with a woman and not support the child. IN THE WEST HE WILL PAY!!! Even if he is 16 years old, he will have to submit D>N>A be tested and if proven the father pay child support for 18years. Needless to say you will be ashamed, the child will be confused and most likely if the girl is not Muslim, the child wont be either.


Lastly a nice story. At my Masjids' sunday school a little seven year old boy told us a sweet little story the other day. He is from a nice Somali family. His brother was playing basketball with friends and another group of boys, they got into a fight and HE GOT STABBED IN THE CHEST!!! One of his brothers friends got stabbed in the back. Now where were these boys hanging out, with who? I bet the parents had no idea.


Meanwhile the daugthers were probably closely watched at home, while the brothers are IN THE HOSPITAL.


Wake up people, this culture of letting boys have thier fun is UNISLAMIC and has to stop!!!!



I blame 50cent and G unit for this .





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Quote herjihad Replybullet Posted: 26 April 2006 at 8:38am

Bismillah,

Many is the time I tracked my boys down to let them know that yes, Allah, SWT, is watching them, but I'm keeping track as best as I can on this earth also!  (Whew!  This is tiring.  Sure wish I had some help!)

I'll just add to your superb list, Sister Jenni:  Check your internet browsers and temporary internet files and subfolders et cetera.  And those handheld game systems can have porn files on them. 

And why does your 12 year old need a phone?  Whatever reason he gives you, it's possibly to call his girlfriend in secret. (See dating in Islam.)  It's okay to listen in to check on your kids.  I'm not a nosey person, just doing my job of child-rearing.  For example, the door WILL come off if it is locked too many times and not opened immediately when I knock.

It's a drag to be the tough guy, but it will help our kids set higher standards, ISA.

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Quote Jenni Replybullet Posted: 26 April 2006 at 9:30am

herjihad, good point. Why does a teenager or preteen need a cel phone, or a computer in thier own room? If your kid walks alone and needs a cel thier is a great one for kids, it has maybe five buttons. You program the numbers it calls and it recieves. It can also call 911 with one button.

On a final note, I think you should allways be prepared to take action, or go commando on a kid out of control. If my son were out of control we would have him on a plane to Pakistan before he knew what was happening. Meanwhile he would either be milking cows in a village or in military boarding school. This will be very clear to him. First time you get busted drinking or doing something really bad, you're out of here. And I would move too if needed!!! Peace

You cant be a good muslim if you are not decent and have a cold heart. Be a decent and kind person and care for women and children and the elderly.
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Quote -ArabianKnight- Replybullet Posted: 26 April 2006 at 1:59pm
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Many is the time I tracked my boys down to let them know that yes, All, SWT, is watching them, but I'm keeping track as best as I can on this earth also!  (Whew!  This is tiring.  Sure wish I had some help!)

 

Just out of curosity.. how do you end up tracking them down?...

I have this image in my mind of you running down the street chasing after some boy.. haha..  but I doubt thats true...

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Quote ak_m_f Replybullet Posted: 26 April 2006 at 2:36pm

For how long and to waht extent you can keep tab on 'em?

you cant win.
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Quote ak_m_f Replybullet Posted: 26 April 2006 at 2:39pm
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Originally posted by herjihad


Many is the time I tracked my boys down to let them know that yes, All, SWT, is watching them, but I'm keeping track as best as I can on this earth also!  (Whew!  This is tiring.  Sure wish I had some help!)




 


Just out of curosity.. how do you end up tracking them down?... I have this image in my mind of you running down the street chasing after some boy.. haha..  but I doubt thats true...



she tracks them down using GPS.
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Quote herjihad Replybullet Posted: 26 April 2006 at 2:42pm

Bismillah,

 

Originally posted by -ArabianKnight-

Originally posted by herjihad

Many is the time I tracked my boys down to let them know that yes, All, SWT, is watching them, but I'm keeping track as best as I can on this earth also!  (Whew!  This is tiring.  Sure wish I had some help!)

 

Just out of curosity.. how do you end up tracking them down?...

I have this image in my mind of you running down the street chasing after some boy.. haha..  but I doubt thats true...

Not just "some boy", my son!  I don't have much chance of chasing and catching him because at 12 he's faster than me!  For example, he went to his friend's to get a homework list and didn't come back for 30 minutes.  So I went looking for him and found him in the neighborhood playing on the edge of the woods with the other kids.

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