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Quote Israfil Replybullet Posted: 08 April 2006 at 1:16pm
That is a good point Rami brought up from Hadith. Shyness is a quality which also shows the person ability of being humble. Also being shy llows some mystery to be involved without expressing oneself entirely.
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Quote salman Replybullet Posted: 09 April 2006 at 4:09am
brother Israfil, can you elaborate on this topic ' shyness '?
It is better to be alone than to be in bad company.
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Quote Israfil Replybullet Posted: 09 April 2006 at 5:14pm

Wa alaikum Salaam Salman,

the topic is not about shyness but about the qualities that are important in a woman. Also before I answer you let me remind the brothers that I difn't mention deen as a quality here because I assume that we all know that a woman's deen and her Iman are important.

Now to answer your question Salman what do I mean by shyness? Well Rami brought up that quality and I merely commented in saying that, that too is a good quality to have. A woman who is shy is not as forthcoming about herself than a woman who is not shy. Being forthcoming is not a bad quality, but without revealing much of herself and her character it leaves a mystery which allows ambition on the man's part to exist and it gives the man more ambition ot get to know the woman better. He strives to know her. Know things about her and strives to be the things she detest.

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Quote ak_m_f Replybullet Posted: 09 April 2006 at 5:35pm
Originally posted by Israfil

That is a good point Rami brought up from Hadith. Shyness is a quality which also shows the person ability of being humble. Also being shy llows some mystery to be involved without expressing oneself entirely.



I thought taht salman was talking about point number 1.


Main Entry: shy
Pronunciation: 'shI
Function: adjective
Inflected Form(s): shi·er or shy·er /'shI(-&)r/; shi·est or shy·est /'shI-&st/
Etymology: Middle English schey, from Old English scEoh; akin to Old High German sciuhen to frighten off
1 : easily frightened : TIMID
2 : disposed to avoid a person or thing <publicity shy> <book-shy children>
3 : hesitant in committing oneself : CIRCUMSPECT
4 : sensitively diffident or retiring : RESERVED <a shy seclusive person>; also : expressive of such a state or nature <spoke in a shy voice>
5 : SECLUDED, HIDDEN
6 : having less than the full or specified amount or number : SHORT <just shy of six feet tall> <the stew is a little shy of seasoning>
7 : DISREPUTABLE <gambling hells and shy saloons -- Blackwood's>
- shy·ly adverb
- shy·ness noun
synonyms SHY, BASHFUL, DIFFIDENT, MODEST, COY mean not inclined to be forward. SHY implies a timid reserve and a shrinking from familiarity or contact with others <shy with strangers>. BASHFUL implies a frightened or hesitant shyness characteristic of childhood and adolescence <a bashful boy out on his first date>. DIFFIDENT stresses a distrust of one's own ability or opinion that causes hesitation in acting or speaking <felt diffident about raising an objection>. MODEST suggests absence of undue confidence or conceit <very modest about her achievements>. COY implies an assumed or affected shyness <put off by her coy manner>.   
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Quote salman Replybullet Posted: 15 April 2006 at 6:24am
Originally posted by Israfil

Salaam,

We live in a vain world.

We live in a world where money is important and not kindness.

We live in a world where culture is important and not goodness.

We live in a world where deeds are done for other than humane reasons and not for humane purposes.

In knowing this,we men should be careful of choosing our mate. Of course we have talked about this before but sometimes what we talk about we don't put them into application in our daily lives so I hope you brothers lend an ear here. In this life I personally don't think I'll find a woman who fits my qualities but here is my list

1.Intelligent

2.Sensitive

3.Open minded

4. Loving

5. Someone who sees beyond your flaws.

6. Someone who loves you for you

7. Someone who prioritizes with you

8. Communication* This is number 8 on my list because intleligence is most important because you cannot have communication without intelligence because communication is not common to everyone.

9. Someone who is diverse mentally*

I mean, a woman who is not always orthodox in the sense of the spectrum of life. A woman who can compromise some ideas with her man without compromising her ideals.

 

assalamualaikum brother israfil

you missed one very important point.

a muslim woman should be religious and pious.

It is better to be alone than to be in bad company.
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Quote Israfil Replybullet Posted: 16 April 2006 at 10:39am
Well Salman I left that out because I feel that it is common sense for an observant Muslim man that, hat are important qualities that he should look for in a woman.
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Quote fistofallah Replybullet Posted: 16 April 2006 at 4:18pm
First and foremost, a woman needs to know her place. Allah, peace and blessings upon him, saw to it that this world will be ruled by men.
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Quote Jenni Replybullet Posted: 17 April 2006 at 5:52pm
fistofallah, mayge you men need to start doing a better job, it seems to me you have really messed it up for all of us women, children and the elderly!!!
You cant be a good muslim if you are not decent and have a cold heart. Be a decent and kind person and care for women and children and the elderly.
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