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Quote IslamicGirl Replybullet Posted: 07 April 2005 at 8:27am
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Quote alaa_k Replybullet Posted: 11 April 2005 at 3:28am

Salam, brother...

I agree with the many things that have been said above.

I believe that in most instances you should obey your parents.  But this is one where, if you think, you parents decision is not right, you should not obey it.  Thik about it...  A marriage is for life.  Once you marry this girl (whom at this point you don't even know), she will be in your house, in your life, all the time every where...  If you decide that there's something you don't like about her later on, there's nothing you can do.  So, my suggestion is, listen to your parents, but be very careful.  I can understand your fathers concerns about you getting married, but remember, he will not need to live or deal necessarily with the person you marry, so he will not be as careful and thoughtful in this area.  This is an area where you have to think for yourself and maybe stand up for yourself.  You should get married, when you want to and to whom you want to and not before.  Otherwise, you may be stuck with a woman - who may be good in many respects - but who you will not like and not be happy with FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. So listen to your father, but be cautious.

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Quote jalillah Replybullet Posted: 11 April 2005 at 4:10am

my oppinion may or maybe not suited to your issue but here... it is any way...just do your study, marry who ever you please where and when to who for what and why but whatever it is make it.. that it will please everyone including yourself...and dont forget to seek allahs guidance before you begin any journey in making

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May Allah Bless those who seek the truth......Allah Stands Alone in truth..
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Quote falcon_shark Replybullet Posted: 14 May 2005 at 2:30pm

Salaam all!

Speak to the girl like your father asked. Get to know her and then decide if you want to take it further. If not explain this with your reasons to your father. At least you'll have given her a chance.

Who knows she might be really nice. Get to know her and try to relax into the conversations. Don't, deliberately be difficult and talk about what interests both of you.

You might just fall in love anyway. Try not to think of it as 'Oh this is all being forced upon me.' Act like this is what you want to do.

Hope this helps.

Goodluck in life and always turn to Allah and the Qur'an. There is where the true answers lie.


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