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Quote firewall3 Replybullet Posted: 15 March 2006 at 6:39pm
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[002:280] If the debtor is in a difficulty, grant him time till it is easy for him to repay. But if ye remit it by way of charity, that is best for you if ye only knew.

[002:282] O you who believe! when you deal with each other in contracting a debt for a fixed time, then write it down; and let a scribe write it down between you with fairness; and the scribe should not refuse to write as Allah has taught him, so he should write;

and let him who owes the debt dictate, and he should be careful of (his duty to) Allah, his Lord, and not diminish anything from it; but if he who owes the debt is unsound in understanding, or weak, or (if) he is not able to dictate himself, let his guardian dictate with fairness;

and call in to witness from among your men 2 witnesses; but if there are not 2 men, then 1 man and 2 women from among those whom you choose to be witnesses, so that if 1 of the 2 errs, the second of the 2 may remind the other; and the witnesses should not refuse when they are summoned;

and be not averse to writing it (whether it is) small or large, with the time of its falling due; this is more equitable in the sight of Allah and assures greater accuracy in testimony, and the nearest (way) that you may not entertain doubts (afterwards),

except when it is ready merchandise which you give and take among yourselves from hand to hand, then there is no blame on you in not writing it down; and have witnesses when you barter with one another,

and let no harm be done to the scribe or to the witness; and if you do (it) then surely it will be a transgression in you, and be careful of (your duty) to Allah, Allah teaches you, and Allah knows all things

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Quote Alwardah Replybullet Posted: 16 March 2006 at 6:37am

As Salamu Alaikum

Sis Zainaaa, you have being given very good advice here by the members.

I only want to add that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala tells us in His Book that money is Fitnah so please be careful how you handle this situation. I don't think you will want to start a new life on a sour note. Marriage is starting a new life and I advice you to avoid any unnecessary ill-feelings with your future mother in law. After your marriage she becomes a very important part of your new life. Don't let hatred develop between the three of you (your fiancé, his mother and yourself) due to the debt. A very bad start to a new life.

If your family can forgive and pardon her the debt for the sake of Allah, Insha Allah their reward will be with Him, or else try to get a third party involved who can talk to her sensibly. Emotions normally run very high where money matters and family relations clash. Sometimes things end with a big bang and remember "words once spoken or eggs once broken cannot be mended again."

May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala help you make the right decision. Ameen!

Wa Alaikum Salam



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“Verily your Lord is quick in punishment; yet He is indeed Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful (Surah Al-An’am 6:165)
"Indeed, we belong to Allah and to Him is our return" (Surah Baqarah 2: 155)
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