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Quote ayesha17 Replybullet Posted: 20 February 2006 at 6:41pm

 you think I deserve it?

 

 Asking for and wanting Allah's love is a big thing. I don't even know where to start, from the beginging I guess.



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Quote fatima Replybullet Posted: 21 February 2006 at 4:16am

bismillah irrahman irrahim

Assalamu alaikum

Allah swt says in Quran "say (O Muhammad), if you love Allah swt, then follow me, Allah swt will love you and forgive you your sins, for Allah swt is forgiving and merciful" (3:31)

Alhamdulillah sis we are been shown a clear path, all u have to do is try wiv sincerity cos Allah swt makes his path easy for people who want to follow it.

Now on the point of Zina, im sure i read it or heard it from a shaykh bout this whole issue but cant remember where so inshaAllah will do some research. but i know zina punishable by had rulings only if there was a sexual intercourse, it is said looking at some1 na-mehram with desire or touching or even kissing is zina of that particular part in a sense that even that is haram but it does not come under major sin so i dont think this would come under zina in which case for an unmarried person, punishment is eighty lashes and stoning is for married people, this comes under minor sins in which case u have to repent to ur lord sincerely and inshaAllah with time scars would heal.

this is what i think from few things iv read in books and heard from scholars in few speeches but Allah swt knows best. it will be good if brother rami r some1 could find something regarding this

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Quote rami Replybullet Posted: 21 February 2006 at 4:59am
Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem

it is a major sin sister just not punishable with the same punishment.

a women not wearing the hijab is a major sin how much more is kissing and fondeling another person.

Rasul Allah (sallah llahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Whoever knows himself, knows his Lord" and whoever knows his Lord has been given His gnosis and nearness.
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Quote Mishmish Replybullet Posted: 21 February 2006 at 2:23pm

Sister Ayesha:

If you feel this guilty now, how much worse would you feel if you do this again? If you truly wish to repent, then ask Allah to forgive you, and Allah is the MOST MERCIFUL, MOST FORGIVING, and then remove yourself from the temptation.

It is only with the heart that one can see clearly, what is essential is invisible to the eye. (The Little Prince)
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Quote ayesha17 Replybullet Posted: 22 February 2006 at 7:31pm

ok, now how do I stay away from th guys????????

 I wear hijab, abaya, i never really talk, but they always flirt with me or near me...what i do???

 I don't want to be temtaped to do it again...

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Quote Mishmish Replybullet Posted: 22 February 2006 at 7:45pm

Sister,

If a building was on fire you wouldn't stand close to it as it burned because you might get caught in the fire. If the guys come around you, leave.

One of my best friends has 6 very beautiful daughters, Masha'Allah. All of them went or go to public school and all of them wear hijab and jilbab. The oldest is now 24 and not one of them has ever had a boyfriend, or even been alone with a boy. They just don't do it. They don't look at boys, they don't talk with boys, and if a boy tries to talk with them, they walk away.

If you don't give them some type of an opening, then they can't come through the door. 

If you think you can't walk away, then maybe you should really think about returning to Morocco where you won't have the temptations.

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Quote ayesha17 Replybullet Posted: 22 February 2006 at 7:47pm
 Is my faith just weak???????????????
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Quote Mishmish Replybullet Posted: 22 February 2006 at 7:56pm

I think you are a young woman and young women have feelings and perhaps you like the attention a little bit. But Sister, it's definitely not worth continuing or going further down this path. It is something that will affect you forever. It is much easier to stop something at the beginning than to try to go back and change something that has already been done.

If you are 17, then perhaps it is time you start to think about marriage. I know that is young but it is halal, and a safety and a protection for us.

You know that it is wrong, and you feel guilt for your actions already, you should not make it worse.

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