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Topic: Renewing wedding vows for converts
Posted: 06 January 2006 at 2:27am

Salaam,

I would have posted this in the new muslim section, but I was not allowed to post there, so maybe admin can move it for me.

My husband and I have decided to embrace Islam and will be saying Shahada tomorrow. We have been married since May 2004 and were married by a justice of the peace in a small courthouse. We always wanted to have an official marriage ceremony and now that we have embraced Islam we thought about being "remarried" in the Mosque. Does anyone know if this is allowed or encourage for converts?

Any information would be greatly appreciated.

Melody

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Posted: 06 January 2006 at 5:45am

Bismillah,

I personally know people who have done this with a sheikh from the Mosque. I am not sure that the words were the same as an original marriage ceremony. Make sure that if the sheikh doesn't speak a language you understand that you get it translated into one that you do.

Congratulations on your reversion to Islaam. May Allah, SWT, bless and guide you both. We look forward to seeing you on Islamicity more often, Melody!

Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.

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Posted: 07 January 2006 at 11:01pm

Herjihad,

Thank you. I only speak english, but my husband, although american speaks, reads, and comprehends Arabic fluently, ma sha Allah. Our sheikh does speak english himself. We have several americans that attend the local masjed. The sheikh always recites/prays in arabic then translates into english.

I will discuss with my husband and the sheikh about a ceremony, insha Allah.

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Posted: 11 January 2006 at 8:39am

Congratulations sis Searching for searching the right path. As for as renewing of marriage is concerned, I don't think there is any requirement from Islam. Atleast I don't know of it happening in the life time of Prophet Mohammad that any couple who became Muslim needed to renew their marriage, if they were officially married before accepting Islam. However, wishing to celebrate it again or openly is more from personal reasons than the requirements of the new relegion. I hope you do know this. Anyhow, wishing you the best of your journey in Islam.

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Posted: 11 January 2006 at 9:25pm

AhmadJoyia,

I do know that renewing our wedding vows as Muslims is not required. We just never had a wedding, only married by a judge without family or friends present and we always wanted to have a public renewing of our vows. We both thought that doing this in the Mosque with our new faith would be a wonderful way to celebrate both our marriage and our faith in front of friends and family.

Thank you,

Melody

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Posted: 12 January 2006 at 9:52am

Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem

Married Converts and their Marriage
Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Do married converts have to enter into a new marriage contract with themselves upon accepting Islam, or are their pre-Islam marriage valid?

Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I pray that this finds you well, and in the best of health and spirits. May Allah grant you all good and success in this life and the next.

In the Hanafi school, converts who married before Islam don't have to renew their marriages--rather, their marriages are considered valid. [ Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar ] However, it has to have been a "marriage" union, rather than simply some form of living together.

And Allah alone gives success.

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Posted: 15 May 2012 at 11:05am

My husband and I were also "Christian" when we were originally married. We never had a real wedding and now, just for our own pleasure and to please Allah, though I know it is not required, I would love to "renew" our vows or rather renew our commitment to each other. I am just wondering if the procedure would be the same as for a new marriage or if there are differences.

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Posted: 15 May 2012 at 4:54pm

Salam,

As far as I know it's not required, because of that there is no prescribed procedure. However you can visit a local mosque/Imam they should give you the "procedure" that perhaps just based on "regular" marriage procedure. Islamically it's very simple anyway, just need an Imam (or anybody who will lead the ceremony), witnesses, mahar (dowry) that's all. It should finish less than 10-15 minutes. That make the ceremony becomes complicated and consumes a lot of time are tribal traditions (Indonesian, pakistani, Indian, persian, midle eastern etc).

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Searching Newbie Joined: 26 December 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 8	Topic: Renewing wedding vows for converts Posted: 06 January 2006 at 2:27am
	Salaam, I would have posted this in the new muslim section, but I was not allowed to post there, so maybe admin can move it for me. My husband and I have decided to embrace Islam and will be saying Shahada tomorrow. We have been married since May 2004 and were married by a justice of the peace in a small courthouse. We always wanted to have an official marriage ceremony and now that we have embraced Islam we thought about being "remarried" in the Mosque. Does anyone know if this is allowed or encourage for converts? Any information would be greatly appreciated. Melody
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herjihad Senior Member Joined: 26 January 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 2473	Posted: 06 January 2006 at 5:45am
	*Bismillah,* I personally know people who have done this with a sheikh from the Mosque. I am not sure that the words were the same as an original marriage ceremony. Make sure that if the sheikh doesn't speak a language you understand that you get it translated into one that you do. *Congratulations on your reversion to Islaam. May Allah, SWT, bless and guide you both. We look forward to seeing you on Islamicity more often, Melody!*
	Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.
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Searching Newbie Joined: 26 December 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 8	Posted: 07 January 2006 at 11:01pm
	Herjihad, Thank you. I only speak english, but my husband, although american speaks, reads, and comprehends Arabic fluently, ma sha Allah. Our sheikh does speak english himself. We have several americans that attend the local masjed. The sheikh always recites/prays in arabic then translates into english. I will discuss with my husband and the sheikh about a ceremony, insha Allah.
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AhmadJoyia Senior Member Joined: 20 March 2005 Location: Pakistan Online Status: Offline Posts: 1161	Posted: 11 January 2006 at 8:39am
	Congratulations sis Searching for searching the right path. As for as renewing of marriage is concerned, I don't think there is any requirement from Islam. Atleast I don't know of it happening in the life time of Prophet Mohammad that any couple who became Muslim needed to renew their marriage, if they were officially married before accepting Islam. However, wishing to celebrate it again or openly is more from personal reasons than the requirements of the new relegion. I hope you do know this. Anyhow, wishing you the best of your journey in Islam.
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Searching Newbie Joined: 26 December 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 8	Posted: 11 January 2006 at 9:25pm
	AhmadJoyia, I do know that renewing our wedding vows as Muslims is not required. We just never had a wedding, only married by a judge without family or friends present and we always wanted to have a public renewing of our vows. We both thought that doing this in the Mosque with our new faith would be a wonderful way to celebrate both our marriage and our faith in front of friends and family. Thank you, Melody
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rami Male Islam Senior Member Senior Member Joined: 01 March 2000 Online Status: Offline Posts: 2550	Posted: 12 January 2006 at 9:52am
	Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem Married Converts and their Marriage Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani Do married converts have to enter into a new marriage contract with themselves upon accepting Islam, or are their pre-Islam marriage valid? Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah, I pray that this finds you well, and in the best of health and spirits. May Allah grant you all good and success in this life and the next. In the Hanafi school, converts who married before Islam don't have to renew their marriages--rather, their marriages are considered valid. [ Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar ] However, it has to have been a "marriage" union, rather than simply some form of living together. And Allah alone gives success. Faraz Rabbani
	Rasul Allah (sallah llahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Whoever knows himself, knows his Lord" and whoever knows his Lord has been given His gnosis and nearness.
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mommakmoore Female Islam Starter Joined: 15 May 2012 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 1	Posted: 15 May 2012 at 11:05am
	My husband and I were also "Christian" when we were originally married. We never had a real wedding and now, just for our own pleasure and to please Allah, though I know it is not required, I would love to "renew" our vows or rather renew our commitment to each other. I am just wondering if the procedure would be the same as for a new marriage or if there are differences.
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semar Senior Member Senior Member Joined: 11 March 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1234	Posted: 15 May 2012 at 4:54pm
	Salam, As far as I know it's not required, because of that there is no prescribed procedure. However you can visit a local mosque/Imam they should give you the "procedure" that perhaps just based on "regular" marriage procedure. Islamically it's very simple anyway, just need an Imam (or anybody who will lead the ceremony), witnesses, mahar (dowry) that's all. It should finish less than 10-15 minutes. That make the ceremony becomes complicated and consumes a lot of time are tribal traditions (Indonesian, pakistani, Indian, persian, midle eastern etc).
	Salam/Peace, Semar The Prophet said: "Do not eat before you are hungry, and stop eating before you are full" "1/3 of your stomach for food 1/3 for water, 1/3 for air"
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