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Quote ZamanH Replybullet Posted: 26 May 2005 at 11:47am

their marriege didn't work out because Allah has set their marriege as an example to muslims.

Nothing, whether its good or evil happens whithout Allah's consent, anyway. There were clearly differences between Zainab(R.A) and ZAid(R.A). I don't know why you don't understand piety and comptibility as marriage partners are two different things. Do you really think a woman should marry a impotent man if he is pious??

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Quote firewall Replybullet Posted: 27 May 2005 at 4:41pm
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Do you really think a woman should marry a impotent man if he is pious??


well, in Islam, isn't giving nafkah to his wife is a prerequisite? it is. so Islam has set the best guidelines already.


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Quote ZamanH Replybullet Posted: 28 May 2005 at 11:58am

What is nafkah by the way??

Also, to be more articulate let me put it this way, my question was between two equally religious woman, one of whom works out of home and other does not, who will be a better wife??



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Quote ummziba Replybullet Posted: 29 May 2005 at 4:07am

Assalamu alaikum, brother Zaman,

I think the answer to your question might be that the better wife would be the one who is happy and content with what she is.

A woman who stays at home, but wishes she had a career will not be happy.  A woman who stays at home, and is content with that lifestyle will be happy.

A woman who works but wishes she could stay home will not be happy.  A woman who works, and is content with that lifestyle will be happy.

So, the job here is to thoroughly question and get to know any prospective spouse to see what her hopes and dreams of the future are, what she is happy doing and so on.

Simply, the better wife will be the one who is satisfied with her role in life, no matter what that role is!

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Quote ZamanH Replybullet Posted: 29 May 2005 at 12:19pm

Walai Kum As Salaam Ukhti Ummziba,

Thanks for your reply.

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Quote ZamanH Replybullet Posted: 30 May 2005 at 11:15am

& thank you for thanking Ummziba. maybe i'm not worth to be thanks to.

As Salaam Alaikum,

C'mon, I am profoundly grateful to you for holding this dicussion with me. I didn't thanked you earlier because I thought I will do that in the end. That's it.

Also, I am sorry if you feel I was reacting angrily with you. You might be feeling that way because I might have been too much frank in those messages, as I am often tempted to not spending much time while composing my messages.

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