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ZamanH

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Posted: 09 April 2005 at 1:14am

Originally posted by semar

Salam,

ZamanH, why you even bothered to find a bride for your brother here?

Walaikum As salaam,

YA ALLAH, Everyone is misunderstanding me. I am NOT looking for a bride for my brother in this forum. I am just asking your opinion whether we should approach a professional woman or a housewife type.

He will certainly marry a girl form the city of my parents i.e. Bhopal (we have been living there for generations).

An enemy of an enemy is a fickle friend.
There will be more women in hell than men.
..for persecution is worse than the slaughter of the enemy..(Quran 2:191)
Heaven lies under mother's feet

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Posted: 11 April 2005 at 4:14am

It seems that you should ask your brother. What kind of girl does he want as his wife? That seems to me to be the most important consideration.

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Posted: 11 April 2005 at 4:30am

who cares if she's home bound or busy getter kind of a person its upto your brother to make his own decision that best suit his character...

May Allah Bless those who seek the truth......Allah Stands Alone in truth..

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Posted: 11 April 2005 at 5:41am

You guys are living a very sheltered life!

My family have lived in a Western nation for over 2 decades now... I have (Masha Allah) beautiful sisters who have NEVER been involved with men and are at the age of marrying. They too are scared to just marry anyone, they have university qualifications and are very attractive.

However, I do not understand & it makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the WRONG places.

As for finding someone for your brother, what.. he has no preference in a girl what-so-ever?? If he wanted to marry that bad, he'd find a partner himself. I don't mean to sound like i'm mad at anyone, but people in this forum are jumping too all sorts of unrealistic assumptions.

The problem with Islamic society in the West today is.. we young girls are bright, educated and respectful towards Islam and our parents.. however, when it comes to finding a partner for life, we are just as stuck as some of you men are.

*Islamic Girl*

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Posted: 11 April 2005 at 6:02am

Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem

assalamu alaikum

One disadvantage of marrying a career woman is that they may become to busy for each other, which will eventually impact on any kids they have since niether will form the crucial bonds that are nesessary between a child and its parents. If they are not there at an early age you can not develop them latter since the child is constantly developing and that phase in the childs life will be over.

>>>However, I do not understand & it makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the WRONG places.<<<

To be blunt sister you need to get out more...probably not a good idea islamicaly

Muslim girls in the west are increasingly choosing a western lifestyle over that of Islam, alhamdulillah you havnt noticed this yet sister but for some of us this is clear as day.

>>>we young girls are bright, educated and respectful towards Islam and our parents<<<

Shyness is a highly desired quality in muslim women as it is a sign of inteligence, patiance and self control, being asertive is not and that is a common quality. As for respectfull that is different from one family to another.

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Rasul Allah (sallah llahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Whoever knows himself, knows his Lord" and whoever knows his Lord has been given His gnosis and nearness.

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Posted: 11 April 2005 at 6:55am

rami, rami, rami.. I have a life besides being here..

We are not shy girls either!

*Islamic Girl*

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Posted: 12 April 2005 at 9:14pm

Where did I say anything like that??

for finding someone for your brother, what.. he has no preference in a girl what-so-ever?? If he wanted to marry that bad, he'd find a partner himself. I don't mean to sound like i'm mad at anyone, but people in this forum are jumping too all sorts of unrealistic assumptions.

I guess 'we' includes my brother, too. And he is as much confused as us.

An enemy of an enemy is a fickle friend.
There will be more women in hell than men.
..for persecution is worse than the slaughter of the enemy..(Quran 2:191)
Heaven lies under mother's feet

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Posted: 12 April 2005 at 11:27pm

It may be possible for him to find someone who is _currently_ working, but who may be thinking about becoming a housewife later when the children come along.

More and more women nowdays are thinking like that - they discover that working fulltime is so much work and so stressful, they decide that when their children eventually come along, they will give up work to bring the kids up.

Kim...

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ZamanH Guest Group Account Suspended Joined: 21 July 2004 Location: India Online Status: Offline Posts: 448	Posted: 09 April 2005 at 1:14am
	*Originally posted by semar* Salam, ZamanH, why you even bothered to find a bride for your brother here? Walaikum As salaam, YA ALLAH, Everyone is misunderstanding me. I am NOT looking for a bride for my brother in this forum. I am just asking your opinion whether we should approach a professional woman or a housewife type. He will certainly marry a girl form the city of my parents i.e. Bhopal (we have been living there for generations).
	An enemy of an enemy is a fickle friend. There will be more women in hell than men. ..for persecution is worse than the slaughter of the enemy..(Quran 2:191) Heaven lies under mother's feet
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alaa_k Starter Joined: 11 April 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 5	Posted: 11 April 2005 at 4:14am
	It seems that you should ask your brother. What kind of girl does he want as his wife? That seems to me to be the most important consideration.
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jalillah Groupie Joined: 10 April 2005 Location: Antarctica Online Status: Offline Posts: 77	Posted: 11 April 2005 at 4:30am
	who cares if she's home bound or busy getter kind of a person its upto your brother to make his own decision that best suit his character...
	May Allah Bless those who seek the truth......Allah Stands Alone in truth..
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IslamicGirl Senior Member Joined: 13 March 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 120	Posted: 11 April 2005 at 5:41am
	*You guys are living a very sheltered life!* My family have lived in a Western nation for over 2 decades now... I have (Masha Allah) beautiful sisters who have NEVER been involved with men and are at the age of marrying. They too are scared to just marry anyone, they have university qualifications and are very attractive. However, I do not understand & it makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the WRONG places. As for finding someone for your brother, what.. he has no preference in a girl what-so-ever?? If he wanted to marry that bad, he'd find a partner himself. I don't mean to sound like i'm mad at anyone, but people in this forum are jumping too all sorts of unrealistic assumptions. The problem with Islamic society in the West today is.. we young girls are bright, educated and respectful towards Islam and our parents.. however, when it comes to finding a partner for life, we are just as stuck as some of you men are.
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rami Male Islam Senior Member Senior Member Joined: 01 March 2000 Online Status: Offline Posts: 2550	Posted: 11 April 2005 at 6:02am
	Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem assalamu alaikum One disadvantage of marrying a career woman is that they may become to busy for each other, which will eventually impact on any kids they have since niether will form the crucial bonds that are nesessary between a child and its parents. If they are not there at an early age you can not develop them latter since the child is constantly developing and that phase in the childs life will be over. >>>However, I do not understand & it makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the WRONG places.<<< To be blunt sister you need to get out more...probably not a good idea islamicaly Muslim girls in the west are increasingly choosing a western lifestyle over that of Islam, alhamdulillah you havnt noticed this yet sister but for some of us this is clear as day. >>>we young girls are bright, educated and respectful towards Islam and our parents<<< Shyness is a highly desired quality in muslim women as it is a sign of inteligence, patiance and self control, being asertive is not and that is a common quality. As for respectfull that is different from one family to another. Edited by rami
	Rasul Allah (sallah llahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Whoever knows himself, knows his Lord" and whoever knows his Lord has been given His gnosis and nearness.
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IslamicGirl Senior Member Joined: 13 March 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 120	Posted: 11 April 2005 at 6:55am
	*rami, rami, rami.. I have a life besides being here..* *We are not shy girls either!*
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ZamanH Guest Group Account Suspended Joined: 21 July 2004 Location: India Online Status: Offline Posts: 448	Posted: 12 April 2005 at 9:14pm
	However, I do not understand & it makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the WRONG places. Where did I say anything like that?? for finding someone for your brother, what.. he has no preference in a girl what-so-ever?? If he wanted to marry that bad, he'd find a partner himself. I don't mean to sound like i'm mad at anyone, but people in this forum are jumping too all sorts of unrealistic assumptions. I guess 'we' includes my brother, too. And he is as much confused as us.
	An enemy of an enemy is a fickle friend. There will be more women in hell than men. ..for persecution is worse than the slaughter of the enemy..(Quran 2:191) Heaven lies under mother's feet
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kim! Senior Member Joined: 17 September 2001 Location: Australia Online Status: Offline Posts: 2390	Posted: 12 April 2005 at 11:27pm
	It may be possible for him to find someone who is _currently_ working, but who may be thinking about becoming a housewife later when the children come along. More and more women nowdays are thinking like that - they discover that working fulltime is so much work and so stressful, they decide that when their children eventually come along, they will give up work to bring the kids up. Kim...
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