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Quote Big Mo Replybullet Topic: How do i Tell my parents.
    Posted: 15 December 2005 at 9:35pm
How do i tell my parents that i have fallen in love. Although it is with a women not from our culture but has become a muslim in every sense of the word. My relationship with her is very strong but my parents are rejecting her because of a lie that i had made when i found my self cornered. I just want them to lover her or at least give her a chance. How do i convince them to try to see that she is good. She is a new addition to our religion and is finding it very hard to get along with me because they will not see the good in her.
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Quote Angel Replybullet Posted: 16 December 2005 at 4:08am

Have you told your parents that you lied and that there is nothing wrong with the girl. I think your parents should be angry with you that you lied than with the girl.

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Quote ak_m_f Replybullet Posted: 16 December 2005 at 8:37am

I agree with angel
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Quote herjihad Replybullet Posted: 16 December 2005 at 10:34am

Bismillah,

This story needs more details for fully beneficial advice to be given.  Are you financially independent from your parents?  If so, stand up, be a man, a Muslim man, marry the girl announcing your intentions to your parents and giving them the opportunity to participate in the wedding.

Do not cave in to any pressures regarding her, because as her husband, you need to protect her from your family until they also accept her.  They usually do after time.  I've seen some really stubborn families.  See this depends on if you are the oldest or just one of many kids. 

But I reiterate that you need to stand up as a Muslim man and do the Islamically correct thing and support your wife.

However, if this is too much for you to do, recognize it now.  Don't let her down when she needs you most.  If you can't committ to sticking beside her the rest of your married lives, then you need to speak about that openly.  She deserves a man to stand beside her and cover her with love and devotion.

Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.
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