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sonia_islam

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Topic: love between a male n female
Posted: 12 November 2005 at 4:19am

is loving the other sex is haram

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aishag88

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Posted: 16 November 2005 at 11:52am

I have been intersted in that too

If you talk to another muslim guy (in interst of marrying him) and find yourself drawn to him, is that haraam?

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Posted: 17 November 2005 at 7:03pm

ur not supposed to talk to guys even if muslim. If u want to marry a guy get ur parents to talk to him first.

"Words have Power" ex: The Quran

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Dayem

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Posted: 17 November 2005 at 9:19pm

ur not supposed to look at a person from opposite sex if u dont have any blood relation.

Quoting,

024.030
YUSUFALI: Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.
024.031
YUSUFALI: And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.

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Posted: 18 November 2005 at 11:30am

Wow I think thats kind of hard. I mean theres school, how you not look at another person of the opposite sex? any ideas?

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Posted: 18 November 2005 at 7:34pm

i would like to know the same thing too. In where i live not looking at someone is concidered rude. My classmates and teachers get annoyed at me not looking at them. But sometimes we have class discussions and u have to look at people.

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Posted: 18 November 2005 at 8:30pm

Actually, I am myself confused.

Maybe, not to look at a person from opposite sex is to insure that u dont get wrong ideas, or get influenced(like faling in love, etc.).But if it is necessary-like in school-then u will have to be on your guard, and ask for the forgiveness of Almighty.

(It will need backing up-its only my opinion).

Regards,Dayem.

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Posted: 18 November 2005 at 9:52pm

Originally posted by aishag88

Wow I think thats kind of hard. I mean theres school, how you not look at another person of the opposite sex? any ideas?

We need some scholar to interpert those ayats, they can explain when they apply and under what circumstances. We cannot understand quran by simply reading the translation, its too dense

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sonia_islam Newbie Joined: 07 November 2005 Location: Bangladesh Online Status: Offline Posts: 8	Topic: love between a male n female Posted: 12 November 2005 at 4:19am
	is loving the other sex is haram
	salma
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aishag88 Groupie Joined: 27 August 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 97	Posted: 16 November 2005 at 11:52am
	I have been intersted in that too If you talk to another muslim guy (in interst of marrying him) and find yourself drawn to him, is that haraam?
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Amina16 Groupie Joined: 22 October 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 85	Posted: 17 November 2005 at 7:03pm
	ur not supposed to talk to guys even if muslim. If u want to marry a guy get ur parents to talk to him first.
	"Words have Power" ex: The Quran
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Dayem Senior Member Joined: 23 August 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 520	Posted: 17 November 2005 at 9:19pm
	ur not supposed to look at a person from opposite sex if u dont have any blood relation. Quoting, 024.030 YUSUFALI: Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. 024.031 YUSUFALI: And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.
	"the mooslims! they're heeere!" LOONWATCH.COM
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aishag88 Groupie Joined: 27 August 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 97	Posted: 18 November 2005 at 11:30am
	Wow I think thats kind of hard. I mean theres school, how you not look at another person of the opposite sex? any ideas?
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Amina16 Groupie Joined: 22 October 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 85	Posted: 18 November 2005 at 7:34pm
	i would like to know the same thing too. In where i live not looking at someone is concidered rude. My classmates and teachers get annoyed at me not looking at them. But sometimes we have class discussions and u have to look at people. Edited by Amina16
	"Words have Power" ex: The Quran
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Dayem Senior Member Joined: 23 August 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 520	Posted: 18 November 2005 at 8:30pm
	Actually, I am myself confused. Maybe, not to look at a person from opposite sex is to insure that u dont get wrong ideas, or get influenced(like faling in love, etc.).But if it is necessary-like in school-then u will have to be on your guard, and ask for the forgiveness of Almighty. (It will need backing up-its only my opinion). Regards,Dayem.
	"the mooslims! they're heeere!" LOONWATCH.COM
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ak_m_f Senior Member Joined: 15 October 2005 Location: Canada Online Status: Offline Posts: 3274	Posted: 18 November 2005 at 9:52pm
	*Originally posted by aishag88* Wow I think thats kind of hard. I mean theres school, how you not look at another person of the opposite sex? any ideas? We need some scholar to interpert those ayats, they can explain when they apply and under what circumstances. We cannot understand quran by simply reading the translation, its too dense
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