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Quote abuali Replybullet Posted: 21 May 2014 at 1:49am
Your Nikah is valid because you both did it in the right way but the problems you are facing are because of mis commitment and weakness of your husband and your husband family, May Allah guide them because they didn't think about this all before marry you which is direclty impacting you now. You are legally his wife now so i pray that all problem will be solved and your husband handle this all issues.
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Quote Nausheen Replybullet Posted: 02 June 2014 at 1:15am

May Allah help you in these troubled times.

First of all, as stated earlier by two people, your nikah is valid.

Second, what do you want to do? Search yourself and ask this question.

you said "My husband, however is saying that he would not leave me and take care of both wives. "

If so, is this situation too bad for you? ie you cannot accept being a second wife?

Its hard to give you any advise based on your story, because as you have said there has been mis-communication and change of words on the side of your husband's family. However, if your husband is a good muslim and wants to give you and his first wife the rights due according to sharia then I think on your family's part its but an ego hassle.
Islam allows multiple marriages. Your inlaws are your aunt and cousins, If you go back to your husband's home and accept your situation and status things can settle down in due course of time, Allah willing.

Talk to your husband and decide the matter without forcing him to divorce his first wife. He does not have to if he does not want to and no one has the right to ask him to do that.

And Allah know best.

Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa
Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena
wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.
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