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Quote christainwoman Replybullet Topic: I am so depressed
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I don't know who to talk to or what to do with my life. I am so depressed and want to be happy again. I try to read bout Islam because I really want to learn...but I can never consentrate. I donno what to Do I am so lost and confussed. Can someone please help me? I just need to fully love Islam to be happy and can't.    Please someone help me!!!!!!!!
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Quote Abeer23 Replybullet Posted: 11 October 2005 at 10:46am

May Allah guide you.  Sis, none of us can make you love Islam.  You have to love it for yourself.   We can't make you study, you have to want to and then study for yourself.   But, if you have any questions, we'll all do our best to answer

Have a blessed Ramadan

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Quote Jenni Replybullet Posted: 11 October 2005 at 12:29pm
Take it easy sister, try to just read the Quran and go to www.soundvision.com and look through all the books, dvds ect and you can order some things that seem interesting to you. It is ok to learn little by little, learn to pray, understand ramadan and paying zakat(charity) all converts go through a learning period an no one should expect too much from you. Don't get discouraged and you can allways make Dua(pray in your own words or in your heart) any time you need to. It doesn't have to be just in the formal prayer. Inshalla you will feel better... Peace
You cant be a good muslim if you are not decent and have a cold heart. Be a decent and kind person and care for women and children and the elderly.
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Quote karimah Replybullet Posted: 11 October 2005 at 2:35pm

Salam Alaikum

I would just like to say you cant love something until you understand it. The more you learn about Islam the more you will love it dont give up trying we all had to start somewhere and remember everything takes time

 

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Quote herjihad Replybullet Posted: 11 October 2005 at 5:48pm

Bismillah,

I learn a very little bit at a time.  Keeping at it over time has helped me learn more than I thought I could have.

I heard a story, which I think was about Omar, May Allah, SWT, listen to him.  The point was that he didn't study something new in the Holy Quran until he had implemented what he had just learned.

You could pm me or someone else to help keep your spirits up.  We all need each other.  May Allah, SWT, our creator and supporter give you strength, wisdom, and comfort.

Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.
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Quote queenie Replybullet Posted: 12 October 2005 at 7:58am
i am speaking from experience here and think you should increase doing good deeds and decrease your bad deeds. good deeds are not always big things like giving charity but they can be the smallest of actions like smiling at a sister for the pleasure of allah swt, or removing an obstacle from someones path to please allah. to pray regularly on time and to keep company with people who act as a reminder of allah. Before I felt like this at once stage in my life too. It was really weird because I was extremely popular, had so many friends and I would always be out socialising with them. But whenever i would get a minute to myself i would feel really sad. Like as if I'm in search of somthing. It sounds weird...but I can't explain. then somthing major in my life happened and i went into deppression. soon after that one of my close friends started practising islam for a while and then she leaft it. I think that was due to her company which included me. Then I don't know why i started to dislike her because she turned away from islam yet i didn't understand because i was not very islamic myself. slowly slowly i started to learn about islam i started going to talks and there i would often here the importance of good deeds and how action you should do should be for the sake of allah and allah alone. so this made me change my lifestyle. sis i can't explain but i think it made me a more humble person and i tried to do things that i would never have done before because i never use to think they were a big deal. i started reciting the prayers before eating, before entering the house, before making a journey. I would constantly try to remember allah. Because at talks I heard that Allah swt says that he will remember those who remember him, praise him and thank him. then i tried to be friends with these people and practise my religion at the same time. but everytime i sat down to learn i'd get confused or lose concentration. because i was distracted by my social life. it was like i was leading a double life. so automatically i drew further away from my crowd. because i felt it was the right thing to do. i stopped going out late at night with them, parties everything. they all thought i was going mad but i wasn't. they were. i was content. and i wasn't deppressed any longer. i could be on my own and not feel sad. so sis there can be a number of things why you feel like this. but from my experience it was my lifestyle and the lack of islam. reading the qu'ran really early in the morning and really late at night really helped. i think islam is practical more than theoretical. implement it in your life everyday and insha allah you will experience and notice a difference. so seek knowledge and use it is my advice.
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Quote Abeer23 Replybullet Posted: 12 October 2005 at 10:15am

Queenie, Ma sha allah beautiful post.  I agree with you 100%

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Quote karimah Replybullet Posted: 12 October 2005 at 12:59pm

Salam Alaikum

Queenie i wish you were around a few years ago you would have made my life so much easier.

 

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