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Quote sanaqueen Replybullet Posted: 11 September 2013 at 5:11am
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Quote mother-in-law Replybullet Posted: 11 September 2013 at 1:31pm
Hello everyone! Thank you for all who were encouraging before the wedding, it was wonderful! And to janmarie, I'll tell you about it... dress as we said in earlier posts... First of all, more people in our family came than I expected. All the elder women came, and my sister, which I was very touched by. We all thought they would not be interested in the religious ceremony and only come to the reception (next year), but they were happy to be there (and curious, too).
As for covering our heads, I offered to but one woman who was helping run things said, no, don't worry about it! and led me to my seat where I saw my family all with THEIR heads covered! I was embarrassed at first but after a few minutes a few other women entered without their heads covered; they were some non-muslim friends, and some of my family took them off because it was hot and they saw quite a few others with no head scarf. No one seemed to care either way after all!
I was told to sit to one side of the bride, up front. I did not have to do or say anything... my son was up front with the men, and did the men's part with the bride's father and a small group of men. The words spoken by the imam were wonderful, I was moved to tears during the ceremony. It didn't last long, and then the bride & her mother went up front as well, followed by some other women of the bride's family, and eventually it all sort of broke down into picture-taking and congratulating me & her mother until we all made our way into the community room of the mosque. There was a LONG line of tables covered with desserts... anything you can name! The baklava was the best and they made sure to send me home with enough to last for weeks! While everyone snacked, I met some of her family and mingled, and worked my way to the imam to thank him.
I'd like to add, my son's wife doesn't normally cover her head in every day life, so it was the first time I saw her dressed like that and she was BEAUTIFUL!!! She looked like a goddess, and I am so happy to have pictures to remember it by; it was truly a wonderful day and a great new experience for those of us who are not Muslim.

Thank you again to those on this board who were supportive!
Janmarie- do you have any specific questions? I'll try to check back here frequently over the next few days; ask anything, and then tell us how it went.

Peace and health and happiness to all!
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