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Quote irfiaffu123 Replybullet Topic: Wife Who Beats Husband
    Posted: 08 April 2013 at 1:09am

My wife beats/scold(harsh bad words) me whenever I get a phone call from my parents.

 

When I say, This is haram.

She reply:- Yes I know, any how I am going to hell only because I made sin by beating you.

So I will repeat the same because punishment remains same.

 

How to correct her, how can I make her to follow quran?


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Quote shakirahmed12 Replybullet Posted: 09 April 2013 at 5:47pm
First you should to start reading quran and offer her reading about quran. Take of hadis book about husband and wife Right, gift her. I think it will better for you.

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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 10 April 2013 at 7:53am
Perhaps the frequency of these phone calls and bad timing in which you take the calls, is causing problems in your marriage, therefore you may want to correct your own behavior.  It certainly seems this would be an easier task than how to correct your wife.
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Quote irfiaffu123 Replybullet Posted: 10 April 2013 at 8:02am
Thanks abuayisha ,
 
The problem is , i wont atten or call my parents in bad timings.
 
I will call and speak with them only when my wife is in  happy mood.
 
But after i keep the phone, she again go for sad and aggressive mood.
 
Now she is in her mom's home and saying me, if i leave my parents only i will come back, otherwise she saying like she will  divorce me.
 
I love her to the core at the same time i would like to fullfill my islamic duties to my parents also..
 
I am dieing daily, i dont kw wt to do, pls help

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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 11 April 2013 at 8:02am
What has your parents and her parents suggested to solve this issue?  How long have you been married?  Do you have children? I assume your parents are not in Saudi; does your wife accompany you when you visit them?
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Quote irfiaffu123 Replybullet Posted: 11 April 2013 at 4:12pm
She is the only daughter for their parents.
 
her father said:- "his daughter's wish is his wish"
 
her mother :- trying to convince her but afraid to send her alone...
 
so what i have done is, i have sent visa for her parents also . but her mom is thinking like what will happen when they return back to india frm saudi.
 
my parents :- i made them clear,that now i ammarried so we will maintan limits, dont behave like before, they are ok with tat.
 
we have married before 6 months only, no children...
yes in our last vacation she came with me to my parents house,
Problems happend at that time, their parents living in 45 mins drive frm our home in india..
 
yesterday also, i spoke with her tru phone, we had a chat for 2 hrs,
out of 2 hrs, shw was spoke abt my parents for 1 h 50 mins.like,  ur parents done tat,done this,people speaking abt ur mom and dad like this, tat etc,i am not worried for that but where is love here?
 
only question what she asked about me was, had food ?...
but still i love her so much, she is living in my thoughts in each and every second.
 
i tot like i can talk with their parents to convice her, but no use,
she wont listen her parents also ...  what to do?

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Quote irfiaffu123 Replybullet Posted: 11 April 2013 at 4:19pm
i have started reading quran, she is in india now.
 
so i have send those hadis tro mail...
 
her reply is :-
 
Dont irritate me, by taking abou islam.
i am dennying the rights, so marry some one.
 
When i said start reading quran,
 
she :- i know you dont say that, you started reading now only
but i have done with that in my chilehood itself.
 
what can i reply?
if i reply anything, i know well, she will raise her voice and will start using bad words.... so i will be silent.

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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 12 April 2013 at 10:19am
Why does your wife's mother fear sending her alone? 
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