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Idil
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Topic: Culture is it Women`s Worst Enemy!!
Posted: 25 December 2012 at 3:18pm

Asalamu Calykum All,

Hope you all are doing great and are in good emaan and health. So here goes out my question. Is culture really women`s worst enemy? Throughout my life I have observed that the cultures that many Islamic countries have is not really kind and good to women in terms of giving them their equality and rights. Also in many of these cultures the boys/men get away with a lot. I myself come from a culture whereby a lot is expected from women and was brought up in a household whereby my brothers were treated differently say like they were disabled [only from household chores of course]. To me it is very important that individuals are self sufficient and independent can look after themselves whether they are male or female. Also if we are really claiming to be Muslims is it not time that we followed the teachings of our beloved prophet. He was a prophet, spreading the religion, going on war and he still was helping out his households.Look forward to reading our thoughts on the matter.

Edited by Idil - 25 December 2012 at 3:23pm

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Posted: 25 December 2012 at 9:05pm

Originally posted by Idil

Asalamu Calykum All,Hope you all are doing great and are in good emaan and health. So here goes out my question. Is culture really women`s worst enemy? Throughout my life I have observed that the cultures that many Islamic countries have is not really kind and good to women in terms of giving them their equality and rights. Also in many of these cultures the boys/men get away with a lot. I myself come from a culture whereby a lot is expected from women and was brought up in a household whereby my brothers were treated differently say like they were disabled [only from household chores of course]. To me it is very important that individuals are self sufficient and independent can look after themselves whether they are male or female. Also if we are really claiming to be Muslims is it not time that we followed the teachings of our beloved prophet. He was a prophet, spreading the religion, going on war and he still was helping out his households.Look forward to reading our thoughts on the matter.

Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barkatuhu dear Idil,

Am well Alhamdulillah, and hope the same for you through Grace and Mercy of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Guess Im seeing you after a long time ...

I strongly believe culture is an enemy of women. Islam is a very flexible way of life thus wherever it spread, got dyed in the culture of that place. In India, Muslims do a lot of things culturally rather than Islamically. Sadly most of these cultural norms deprive women of their equal rights.

Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa
Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena
wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.

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Posted: 27 December 2012 at 1:38am

Walecum As Salaam.i totally agree with U but today unfortunately most people are way away from Deen.many people think that just by reading Qur'an they are free from Satan but that's not the point understanding it is more important,by an example I can explain to U I went to recieve my cousin sister to station and I was shocked that she herself was carrying the whole luggage until I took over from her,her adult son was just wandering without any realisation.so in this situation if he could have understand Qur'an he could have remember that Allah says in Surah An Nisa ch 4 v 34,that Allah has created men more stronger than women,so in order to improve the current situation we should create awareness among people of understanding Qur'an.i hope with this post many people should start thinking about understanding Qur'an.Allahfiz

Edited by NABA - 27 December 2012 at 1:40am

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Posted: 16 January 2013 at 5:29am

Yes, this applies to all cultures which are not evolving, but more and more cultures do. When it comes to women the best cultures are probably Scandinavian. In terms of religion, I'd say European Protestants. Women even become bishops.

A religion that's intolerant of other religions can't be the world's best religion --Abdel Samad
Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people--Eleanor Roosevelt

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Posted: 27 January 2013 at 7:32pm

Salam Alaikum all,

I think not all aspects of culture are bad for women. I think some aspects of culture can be good too. I used to be all anti-culture, but then I realised that we shouldn't outright reject everything. Some things are part of 'traditions' that can be pretty cool. For e.g. in Pakistan the culture is supposed to be generally chivalrous. (Which is something inherent in Islam), yet it is also 'culture' because even the non-muslims in Pakistan observe that behaviour. For example it is so common in Pakistan for a lady to ask any random male standing nearby to help park her car for her, and they gladly do it. Some even offer to help if they see a lady struggling with a difficult parking spot.

Some aspects of culture can go hand in hand with our religion...

"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."

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Idil Female Islam Groupie Joined: 12 September 2012 Location: United Kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 44	Topic: Culture is it Women`s Worst Enemy!! Posted: 25 December 2012 at 3:18pm
	Asalamu Calykum All, Hope you all are doing great and are in good emaan and health. So here goes out my question. Is culture really women`s worst enemy? Throughout my life I have observed that the cultures that many Islamic countries have is not really kind and good to women in terms of giving them their equality and rights. Also in many of these cultures the boys/men get away with a lot. I myself come from a culture whereby a lot is expected from women and was brought up in a household whereby my brothers were treated differently say like they were disabled [only from household chores of course]. To me it is very important that individuals are self sufficient and independent can look after themselves whether they are male or female. Also if we are really claiming to be Muslims is it not time that we followed the teachings of our beloved prophet. He was a prophet, spreading the religion, going on war and he still was helping out his households.Look forward to reading our thoughts on the matter. Edited by Idil - 25 December 2012 at 3:23pm
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Nausheen Female Islam Senior Member Senior Member Joined: 10 January 2001 Location: Japan Online Status: Offline Posts: 4146	Posted: 25 December 2012 at 9:05pm
	*Originally posted by Idil* Asalamu Calykum All,Hope you all are doing great and are in good emaan and health. So here goes out my question. Is culture really women`s worst enemy? Throughout my life I have observed that the cultures that many Islamic countries have is not really kind and good to women in terms of giving them their equality and rights. Also in many of these cultures the boys/men get away with a lot. I myself come from a culture whereby a lot is expected from women and was brought up in a household whereby my brothers were treated differently say like they were disabled [only from household chores of course]. To me it is very important that individuals are self sufficient and independent can look after themselves whether they are male or female. Also if we are really claiming to be Muslims is it not time that we followed the teachings of our beloved prophet. He was a prophet, spreading the religion, going on war and he still was helping out his households.Look forward to reading our thoughts on the matter. Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barkatuhu dear Idil, Am well Alhamdulillah, and hope the same for you through Grace and Mercy of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Guess Im seeing you after a long time ... I strongly believe culture is an enemy of women. Islam is a very flexible way of life thus wherever it spread, got dyed in the culture of that place. In India, Muslims do a lot of things culturally rather than Islamically. Sadly most of these cultural norms deprive women of their equal rights.
	Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.
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NABA Male Islam Senior Member Joined: 13 December 2012 Location: India Online Status: Offline Posts: 105	Posted: 27 December 2012 at 1:38am
	Walecum As Salaam.i totally agree with U but today unfortunately most people are way away from Deen.many people think that just by reading Qur'an they are free from Satan but that's not the point understanding it is more important,by an example I can explain to U I went to recieve my cousin sister to station and I was shocked that she herself was carrying the whole luggage until I took over from her,her adult son was just wandering without any realisation.so in this situation if he could have understand Qur'an he could have remember that Allah says in Surah An Nisa ch 4 v 34,that Allah has created men more stronger than women,so in order to improve the current situation we should create awareness among people of understanding Qur'an.i hope with this post many people should start thinking about understanding Qur'an.Allahfiz Edited by NABA - 27 December 2012 at 1:40am
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Matt Browne Male Christian Senior Member Joined: 19 April 2010 Location: Germany Online Status: Offline Posts: 755	Posted: 16 January 2013 at 5:29am
	Yes, this applies to all cultures which are not evolving, but more and more cultures do. When it comes to women the best cultures are probably Scandinavian. In terms of religion, I'd say European Protestants. Women even become bishops.
	A religion that's intolerant of other religions can't be the world's best religion --Abdel Samad Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people--Eleanor Roosevelt
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Chrysalis Senior Member Joined: 25 November 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 2031	Posted: 27 January 2013 at 7:32pm
	Salam Alaikum all, I think not all aspects of culture are bad for women. I think some aspects of culture can be good too. I used to be all anti-culture, but then I realised that we shouldn't outright reject everything. Some things are part of 'traditions' that can be pretty cool. For e.g. in Pakistan the culture is supposed to be generally chivalrous. (Which is something inherent in Islam), yet it is also 'culture' because even the non-muslims in Pakistan observe that behaviour. For example it is so common in Pakistan for a lady to ask any random male standing nearby to help park her car for her, and they gladly do it. Some even offer to help if they see a lady struggling with a difficult parking spot. Some aspects of culture can go hand in hand with our religion...
	"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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