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I am married since last 2 yrs. My husband is the only son with 3 married elder sisters who keep interfering & visiting regularly at my place.My father in law is ill. My mother in law abuses & expects me to do all the household chores, cook thrice a day & be ready for everyones service all the time. I am a working women. she doesn't give me importance in any thing.She keeps on taunting along with her daughters. they humiliated me right after 3 mnths of marraige. I've tried my best to win their hearts but regular interference puts all my efforts in vain. I had a fight with them and i was told to leave the house and all of them told us to stay seperately. but after all arrangements my husban backed out bcoz of their emotional drama. I am staying at my moms place for more than a month now. My husband is not ready to seperate and wants me to cum in that house again. What should i do ?
I dont want to live in that house again as i am vvv frustrated staying there due to behaviour of everyone towards me. I feel i am a servant in their house. I got no life of my own, no own space,no freedom.Plz help me.
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Quote Nausheen Replybullet Posted: 09 January 2013 at 6:13am
A husband is responsible for all needs of his wife, including mental peace.

Your needs are his duty and for him to provide with kindness.

Try to explain to your husband how mentally disturbing is the behavior of his family and that you are not asking to cut cords, rather to build a prosperous home for yourself and him which is free of unwanted interferences.

Persuade him with patience

Edited by Nausheen - 09 January 2013 at 6:14am
Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa
Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena
wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.
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Quote XTREME Replybullet Posted: 09 January 2013 at 6:54am
Originally posted by dreams

I am married since last 2 yrs. My husband is the only son with 3 married elder sisters who keep interfering & visiting regularly at my place.My father in law is ill. My mother in law abuses & expects me to do all the household chores, cook thrice a day & be ready for everyones service all the time. I am a working women. she doesn't give me importance in any thing.She keeps on taunting along with her daughters. they humiliated me right after 3 mnths of marraige. I've tried my best to win their hearts but regular interference puts all my efforts in vain. I had a fight with them and i was told to leave the house and all of them told us to stay seperately. but after all arrangements my husban backed out bcoz of their emotional drama. I am staying at my moms place for more than a month now. My husband is not ready to seperate and wants me to cum in that house again. What should i do ?
I dont want to live in that house again as i am vvv frustrated staying there due to behaviour of everyone towards me. I feel i am a servant in their house. I got no life of my own, no own space,no freedom.Plz help me.


Walaikum Assalam sister!

May Allah give them hidayah and protect your eman. Insha Allah there would be some way out. I pray for your better future family-life. Contact my Sheikh, Muhammad Ajmal

+92 315 5136887
+92 300 5136887
sahibzadaajmil1@gmail.com

He is a pious person masha Allah just tell him your situation, he would pray for you and all of your problems would be solved.

jazak Allah
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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 09 January 2013 at 8:30am
Originally posted by Nausheen

A husband is responsible for all needs of his wife, including mental peace.
 
"......including mental peace."   Wow! Now that's a tall order.
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Quote Chrysalis Replybullet Posted: 27 January 2013 at 8:36pm
Does your husband pay heed to religious advise? I remember watching a lecture by Mufti Ismail Menk in which he beautifully dealt with in-law problems. He strongly advised men to give their wives space from their in-laws. I will try to find that lecture for you inshAllah.

https://twitter.com/muftimenk/status/254455754537435138

Edited by Chrysalis - 27 January 2013 at 8:38pm
"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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Quote Chrysalis Replybullet Posted: 28 January 2013 at 1:48am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsqHqFN4Wk8
"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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