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Quote newmuslimah2012 Replybullet Posted: 05 November 2012 at 3:09am
I am grateful for all the responses. i definitely have many things to consider. In these past few weeks since my conversion, my life has changed so so much. i cant even begin to put into words how different my life is. i am not worried anymore about the situation, I know now that Allah is the one who is in control, and I have nothing to worry about at all. i trust that if it is meant to be it will and if not it is because Allah has something else planned for me. My boyfriend is moving towards telling his parents, it will take time. i have no plan to rush him. he is in Morocco, just accepted into the Université Ibn Tofail in Kenitra. he will finish his studies,InshaAllah. in this time Allah will open the doors as HE wills them to open. my boyfriend has shown me over and over that i can trust him also. there is a woman who was my very best friend who is dating my boyfriends cousin. she is also a evangelical christian woman and her boyfriend is a Muslim. when i converted she stopped speaking to me and tried to do many many things to separate me and my boyfriend. her situation is much much stranger then mine, she has been divorced 4 times and has two children both of whom are in jail. she is raising her two grandchildren and dating my boyfriends cousin who is 25 years old and she is 51.   the other thing is that my boyfriend would really prefer not to leave morocco at all. he wants to stay there and have me there with him. i will trust him as he has not given me reason not to. over and over he has shown his honesty even as this woman tries her best to interfere with lies. and trust me i investigated the things she said, i will not go into details here but they were blatant lies from her and her boyfriend. so again thank you all for all your responses. i am so grateful you all took time to respond. "dear Allah,when i lose hope please help me remember that your love is greater then my disappointment, and Your plans for my life are better then anything i could dream."
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Quote semar Replybullet Posted: 05 November 2012 at 5:15pm
Assalamu alaikum (peace be upon you).
 
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Quote Chrysalis Replybullet Posted: 07 November 2012 at 11:21pm
Salam Alaikum Sis,

How long have you known him?
If you are planning on moving to Morocco after marriage, and your in-laws won't even know about you, will you be able to manage in a strange country without a support system? How will you cope? Consider practical aspects of your marriage before making any commitments. If he is not planning on telling his parents, how will he deal with them when they try to marry him off thinking he is single?

Of course it is possible that your boyfriend is a trustworthy person... but make sure you analyse your relationship very carefully.

I know a non-muslim girl who has been in a relationship with a muslim guy for the past 10 years! They were together when he was studying in her country. She trusts him a lot, but he had another 'muslim' girlfriend on the side because his parents would never accept a nonmuslim daughter-in-law. (I know because we were in the same univ). From this poor girl's perspective, she has no reason to think he is not serious. He even sends flowers to her from his home country. He says he will marry her, but its been 10 years and he is now back in his home country.... I feel this girl has wasted 10 years of her life on him... and still thinks he is the one. People can be two-faced and have split personalities.

Just be very careful with your decision. May Allah bless you and help you make the correct decision, whatever it is.
"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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Quote newmuslimah2012 Replybullet Posted: 08 November 2012 at 4:21am
he has changed his mind! i ma so excited. he told them. they were not nearly a upset as he assumed they would be. they are still adjusting but it is going to be ok. thank you all for your wonderful advice.
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Quote samirfaithful Replybullet Posted: 29 November 2012 at 6:05am
assalam aleikoum brothers and sisters,Smile

i agree with u sister NausheenSmile

Please do istekharah before making any decision.

May Allah be your Protector and Guide, Ameen. Smile
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