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Originally posted by abuayisha

Well in some Muslim cultures the cost of the wedding alone makes marriage somewhat prohibitive.
And that I find absurd. I read that the mahr in those cultures can be unreasonably high also, so that it's not uncommon to start saving up money as early as in your teens, and that some men work (abroad) for years just to save up more money, so that they can afford get married, basically. 

Originally posted by abuayisha

Other places if he has a paycheck-to-paycheck salary, but is making a living wage relative to her expectations then there shouldn't be a problem.  I left what Muslim women are attracted to blank because it undoubtedly differs greatly.

And let's be thankful that it is so. I don't want to seem stingy, and of course one would want one's wedding to be nice and everything, but the cost if it all should be kept within the bounds of reality. At least in my case it'd have to. 

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W.S. Guest Group Joined: 14 August 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 88	Posted: 20 July 2012 at 10:50am
	*Originally posted by abuayisha* Well in some Muslim cultures the cost of the wedding alone makes marriage somewhat prohibitive. And that I find absurd. I read that the mahr in those cultures can be unreasonably high also, so that it's not uncommon to start saving up money as early as in your teens, and that some men work (abroad) for years just to save up more money, so that they can afford get married, basically. *Originally posted by abuayisha* Other places if he has a paycheck-to-paycheck salary, but is making a living wage relative to her expectations then there shouldn't be a problem. I left what Muslim women are attracted to blank because it undoubtedly differs greatly. And let's be thankful that it is so. I don't want to seem stingy, and of course one would want one's wedding to be nice and everything, but the cost if it all should be kept within the bounds of reality. At least in my case it'd have to.
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abuayisha Senior Member Joined: 05 October 1999 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3992	Posted: 20 July 2012 at 2:34pm
	Yeah, sadly, high mahr and wedding costs, are likely a reason for much fitnah in society. Wallahu Mustaan.
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fais Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Online Status: Offline Posts: 281	Posted: 22 July 2012 at 3:30pm
	Salam alaikum and ramadan mubaraq hope u remeber me,the one whose wife asked divorce. Like u now I also have a pretty daughter,I am abu juveria now. Regards Faisal
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abuayisha Senior Member Joined: 05 October 1999 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3992	Posted: 22 July 2012 at 8:45pm
	wa alaikum salaam Faisal/Abu Juveria! Allah bless your family with good in this life and the next. Welcome back.
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