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   I am in my first marriage and in the 5th year of it. Things have gone dead and all dried up, all we do is make life miserable for us and her children who is 13, and 14. She has done just about everything within he last 2 marriages and doesn't want to try them with me. I don't have kids and want some but she cant and interferes too much between me and her kids who I have a nice relationship with. Sometimes she tells me to go and look for a different wife and move on but all my $$ is invested in this relationship and cant afford to restart. ARE THERE SISTERS WHO WOULD ACCEPT ME WHEN I NOW LIVE PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK. I think that the way that we were brought up from 2 different ways have clashed rather than add taste.

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harun1209 Male Islam Starter Joined: 02 May 2012 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 6	Topic: HELP! what 2 do ?? Posted: 03 May 2012 at 3:09am
	I am in my first marriage and in the 5th year of it. Things have gone dead and all dried up, all we do is make life miserable for us and her children who is 13, and 14. She has done just about everything within he last 2 marriages and doesn't want to try them with me. I don't have kids and want some but she cant and interferes too much between me and her kids who I have a nice relationship with. Sometimes she tells me to go and look for a different wife and move on but all my $$ is invested in this relationship and cant afford to restart. ARE THERE SISTERS WHO WOULD ACCEPT ME WHEN I NOW LIVE PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK. I think that the way that we were brought up from 2 different ways have clashed rather than add taste.
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Full of Hopes Female Islam Senior Member Joined: 06 August 2009 Online Status: Offline Posts: 860	Posted: 17 July 2012 at 10:48pm
	I wish I could help but somehow I can't understand your problem clearly. Maybe if you explain more someone might give an advice. Edited by Full of Hopes - 17 July 2012 at 10:48pm
	And whoever seeks a religion other than Islâm, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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lady Senior Member Joined: 20 September 2006 Online Status: Offline Posts: 240	Posted: 18 July 2012 at 12:02am
	Assalaamoalaikum Harun. *Originally posted by Full of Hopes* I wish I could help but somehow I can't understand your problem clearly. Maybe if you explain more someone might give an advice. I agree. I hope that you will continue to work things out with your wife. Are you asking, if you get a divorce, then would there be another muslim sister who will be willing to marry you after having the knowledge that you are living from pay check to pay check? Hmmm. if this is your question, then yes, there are plenty of sisters who will marry a GOOD MUSLIM brother who is struggling financially. I hope that you have now found more peace in your marriage.
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abuayisha Senior Member Joined: 05 October 1999 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3993	Posted: 18 July 2012 at 8:41am
	....and pay check to pay check is indeed relative to your profession. Keep in mind that most Muslim women are attracted to.....
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W.S. Guest Group Joined: 14 August 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 88	Posted: 19 July 2012 at 11:59am
	*Originally posted by abuayisha* Keep in mind that most Muslim women are attracted to..... Would you be so kind as to spell that out for me?
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abuayisha Senior Member Joined: 05 October 1999 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3993	Posted: 19 July 2012 at 2:11pm

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W.S. Guest Group Joined: 14 August 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 88	Posted: 20 July 2012 at 12:26am
	I was actually being serious. You're saying it's a guy with a high salary they want?
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abuayisha Senior Member Joined: 05 October 1999 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3993	Posted: 20 July 2012 at 7:41am
	Well in some Muslim cultures the cost of the wedding alone makes marriage somewhat prohibitive. Other places if he has a paycheck-to-paycheck salary, but is making a living wage relative to her expectations then there shouldn't be a problem. I left what Muslim women are attracted to blank because it undoubtedly differs greatly.
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