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Quote harun1209 Replybullet Topic: HELP! what 2 do ??
    Posted: 03 May 2012 at 3:09am
I am in my first marriage and in the 5th year of it. Things have gone dead and all dried up, all we do is make life miserable for us and her children who is 13, and 14. She has done just about everything within he last 2 marriages and doesn't want to try them with me. I don't have kids and want some but she cant and interferes too much between me and her kids who I have a nice relationship with. Sometimes she tells me to go and look for a different wife and move on but all my $$ is invested in this relationship and cant afford to restart. ARE THERE SISTERS WHO WOULD ACCEPT ME WHEN I NOW LIVE PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK. I think that the way that we were brought up from 2 different ways have clashed rather than add taste.
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Quote Full of Hopes Replybullet Posted: 17 July 2012 at 10:48pm
I wish I could help but somehow I can't understand your problem clearly. Maybe if you explain more someone might give an advice.

Edited by Full of Hopes - 17 July 2012 at 10:48pm
And whoever seeks a religion other than Islâm, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Quote lady Replybullet Posted: 18 July 2012 at 12:02am
Assalaamoalaikum Harun. 
Originally posted by Full of Hopes

I wish I could help but somehow I can't understand your problem clearly. Maybe if you explain more someone might give an advice.
 
I agree.
 
I hope that you will continue to work things out with your wife. 
 
Are you asking, if you get a divorce, then would there be another muslim sister who will be willing to marry you after having the knowledge that you are living  from pay check to pay check?
 
Hmmm. if this is your question, then yes, there are plenty of sisters who will marry a GOOD MUSLIM brother who is struggling financially. 
 
I hope that you have now found more peace in your marriage. 
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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 18 July 2012 at 8:41am
....and pay check to pay check is indeed relative to your profession.  Keep in mind that most Muslim women are attracted to.....
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Quote W.S. Replybullet Posted: 19 July 2012 at 11:59am
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Keep in mind that most Muslim women are attracted to.....
 
Would you be so kind as to spell that out for me?
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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 19 July 2012 at 2:11pm
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Quote W.S. Replybullet Posted: 20 July 2012 at 12:26am
I was actually being serious. You're saying it's a guy with a high salary they want?
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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 20 July 2012 at 7:41am
Well in some Muslim cultures the cost of the wedding alone makes marriage somewhat prohibitive.  Other places if he has a paycheck-to-paycheck salary, but is making a living wage relative to her expectations then there shouldn't be a problem.  I left what Muslim women are attracted to blank because it undoubtedly differs greatly.
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