assalam walaikum
since the incident happened with me the lost of my new born baby boy,my husband's family no more likes me.They even told my husband to leave me and come back home they will do another marriage of my husband.from that time my husband is not taking to me,i asked him why he is doing like this to me firstly i lost my child and now ur behaving like this he said i dont feel like taking to u,he also told me that whatever you want to do in ur life do it,i dont care.after that i caried a lot but he didnt say a single word to me,i think this all is because of his family.please help me what should i do.i cant stay without my husband.my mom told me to try to conve my husband Allah doesn't like the fight between husband and wife for long time.tell me plz what should i do.its 17 days past we haven't talk to eachother

Edited by zoha - 08 April 2012 at 4:03am

Salam Alaikum Sister!

I am very sorry for your loss - take solace in knowing that if you are patient and have faith in Allah - He shall give you a lot of reward for the troubles you went through. There is a lot of reward for parents who lose a child - yet remain patient and steadfast.

Your husband is being very inconsiderate. I would suggest that you try and not worry about HIS mood-swings and focus on your health and well-being. Although it doesn't excuse his behavior, he is probably also grieving for the loss of the baby, maybe he also needs time. If he blames you again - You should gather up the confidence to  tell him that its not your fault, and he should have faith in the Qadr (Will) of Allah. Stand up for yourself (choose your tone wisely ofcourse) but don't sit there taking the blame for something that was never in your hands.

Its DEFINITELY not your fault. Whatever people say out of ignorance - don't let that effect you. Life and Death is in the hands of Allah. If Allah did not Will the baby to live - nothing could have prevented it.

The Prophet did not tell us of any days that are bad for a pregnant mother, or that she shouldn't go out. These are all ignorant misconceptions.

Take Care Sister.

As Salamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah

How are you doing now Zoha ? How is your health ?

Don't care for the words of your husband's family who are very much into ignorance { Jahilliyah } What if his family tells him any, does your husband not know you ? May Allah swt grant him hidayah. Instead of being a moral support, he is infact creating more stress. Khayr, as said by our members, it was all destiny. Its time of your test from Allah swt, so kindly be with patience. May Allah swt grant you sabr.Ameen

Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah