IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum: is masturbation haram?

Author

Message

imane
Female Islam
Starter
Starter

Joined: 11 May 2011
Location: United Kingdom
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 1

Topic: is masturbation haram?
Posted: 11 May 2011 at 4:02pm

Hi,

I am a Muslim married woman. I masturbated while away from my husband. I wasn't sure that was a mistake. I did a research and found out that some say its haram. I hated myself for what I did. I will never do it again.
My question is if a married woman has masturbated, does that make her marriage invalid. am I still considered a wife to my husband or not? can I continue on living with my husband as his wife?

am so bewildered and lost!!!

Thank you,

IP Logged

abuayisha

Senior Member
Senior Member

Joined: 05 October 1999
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 3997

Posted: 11 May 2011 at 9:58pm

As you pointed out the people of knowledge differ whether masturbation is forbidden, however it doesn't invalidate your marriage. Even if you take the opinion that it is forbidden, simply seek forgiveness and don't mentioned this to anyone. If you take the opinion it is permissible, than like relations with your husband, keep it a private matter and don't stress yourself.

IP Logged

Matt Browne
Male Christian
Senior Member
Senior Member

Joined: 19 April 2010
Location: Germany
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 755

Posted: 12 May 2011 at 5:55am

It might interest you that EU Nations include masturbation in their sex education and promote the practice.

There are several health benefits. Sexual climax, from masturbation or otherwise, leaves one in a relaxed and contented state. This is frequently followed closely by drowsiness and sleep – particularly when one masturbates in bed. Some professionals consider masturbation to function as a cardiovascular workout.

It is my limited understanding of Islam that only obsessive, compulsive and excessive masturbation is considered haram.

Otherwise it's really harmless.

Whatever you decide it's nobody's business except yours. No religion has a right to impose any rules about such private matters when no harm is done.

A religion that's intolerant of other religions can't be the world's best religion --Abdel Samad
Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people--Eleanor Roosevelt

IP Logged

honeto

Senior Member
Senior Member

Joined: 20 March 2008
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 2340

Posted: 15 June 2011 at 5:36pm

Matt,

you tried to sound like an authority on the subject but you just gave your personal opinion without anything to back it up. On a similar "private" matter you would probably give similar advice of following one's own mind?

Of course every matter for a believer is a matter on which he/she makes sure its not going to be against what Creator has prescribed. But at the end it is the person who is of course free to decide what they want, and that will affect their destiny.

Hasan

Edited by honeto - 15 June 2011 at 5:38pm

39:64 Proclaim: Is it some one other than God that you order me to worship, O you ignorant ones?"

IP Logged

Sign*Reader

Senior Member
Senior Member

Joined: 02 November 2005
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 3352

Posted: 16 June 2011 at 12:31am

Living in the west and worrying about such matters is just plain silly!
People do lot egregious things before getting on guilt trip! IMO this is a lot safer than getting carried away in the heat of desire and do adulterous stuff which is not so difficult while living in the UK! This hillaling in UK is getting to be appalling!
There is nothing in Quran about the subject but if one gets really picayune I think it would un-Islamic to live in the west where at every turn one is confronted with some sexual or skin display in one way or the other!
It is her stuff and she doesn't need to tell anyone as abuayesha said it is private business! And don't get it why did she have to come here with this quandary!
Even if it is my daughter I would NOT recommend her going to an Imam etc for this kind of stuff...I have seen the disaster that came to a community nearby for the women running to imam trivialities and then....
If God didn't want, HE could make the part insensitive and joyless, then guess what it would have been a chore for men to get to the first base, much less a home run...Last but not the least don't forget "the period" when even God doesn't want her to talk to Him and told the husband to stay out cuz never know what she can utter or be doing; So let's not be prudes Wink

Edited by Sign*Reader - 16 June 2011 at 2:50pm

Kismet Domino: Faith/Courage/Liberty/Abundance/Selfishness/Immorality/Apathy/Bondage or extinction.

IP Logged

	Active Topics Memberlist Calendar Search Help
	Register Login Old Forum

General Islamic Matter
IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Religion - Islam : General Islamic Matter

Author	Message
imane Female Islam Starter Joined: 11 May 2011 Location: United Kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 1	Topic: is masturbation haram? Posted: 11 May 2011 at 4:02pm
	Hi, I am a Muslim married woman. I masturbated while away from my husband. I wasn't sure that was a mistake. I did a research and found out that some say its haram. I hated myself for what I did. I will never do it again. My question is if a married woman has masturbated, does that make her marriage invalid. am I still considered a wife to my husband or not? can I continue on living with my husband as his wife? am so bewildered and lost!!! Thank you,
	IP Logged

abuayisha Senior Member Joined: 05 October 1999 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3997	Posted: 11 May 2011 at 9:58pm
	As you pointed out the people of knowledge differ whether masturbation is forbidden, however it doesn't invalidate your marriage. Even if you take the opinion that it is forbidden, simply seek forgiveness and don't mentioned this to anyone. If you take the opinion it is permissible, than like relations with your husband, keep it a private matter and don't stress yourself.
	IP Logged

Matt Browne Male Christian Senior Member Joined: 19 April 2010 Location: Germany Online Status: Offline Posts: 755	Posted: 12 May 2011 at 5:55am
	It might interest you that EU Nations include masturbation in their sex education and promote the practice. There are several health benefits. Sexual climax, from masturbation or otherwise, leaves one in a relaxed and contented state. This is frequently followed closely by drowsiness and sleep – particularly when one masturbates in bed. Some professionals consider masturbation to function as a cardiovascular workout. It is my limited understanding of Islam that only obsessive, compulsive and excessive masturbation is considered haram. Otherwise it's really harmless. Whatever you decide it's nobody's business except yours. No religion has a right to impose any rules about such private matters when no harm is done.
	A religion that's intolerant of other religions can't be the world's best religion --Abdel Samad Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people--Eleanor Roosevelt
	IP Logged

honeto Senior Member Joined: 20 March 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 2340	Posted: 15 June 2011 at 5:36pm
	Matt, you tried to sound like an authority on the subject but you just gave your personal opinion without anything to back it up. On a similar "private" matter you would probably give similar advice of following one's own mind? Of course every matter for a believer is a matter on which he/she makes sure its not going to be against what Creator has prescribed. But at the end it is the person who is of course free to decide what they want, and that will affect their destiny. Hasan Edited by honeto - 15 June 2011 at 5:38pm
	39:64 Proclaim: Is it some one other than God that you order me to worship, O you ignorant ones?"
	IP Logged

Sign*Reader Senior Member Joined: 02 November 2005 Online Status: Offline Posts: 3352	Posted: 16 June 2011 at 12:31am
	Living in the west and worrying about such matters is just plain silly! People do lot egregious things before getting on guilt trip! IMO this is a lot safer than getting carried away in the heat of desire and do adulterous stuff which is not so difficult while living in the UK! This hillaling in UK is getting to be appalling! There is nothing in Quran about the subject but if one gets really picayune I think it would un-Islamic to live in the west where at every turn one is confronted with some sexual or skin display in one way or the other! It is her stuff and she doesn't need to tell anyone as abuayesha said it is private business! And don't get it why did she have to come here with this quandary! Even if it is my daughter I would NOT recommend her going to an Imam etc for this kind of stuff...I have seen the disaster that came to a community nearby for the women running to imam trivialities and then.... If God didn't want, HE could make the part insensitive and joyless, then guess what it would have been a chore for men to get to the first base, much less a home run...Last but not the least don't forget "the period" when even God doesn't want her to talk to Him and told the husband to stay out cuz never know what she can utter or be doing; So let's not be prudes Edited by Sign*Reader - 16 June 2011 at 2:50pm
	Kismet Domino: Faith/Courage/Liberty/Abundance/Selfishness/Immorality/Apathy/Bondage or extinction.
	IP Logged