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Quote marie Replybullet Topic: marriage to a muslim
    Posted: 24 August 2005 at 4:49am

HELLO ALL,

   JUST WANTED TO ASK A SIMPLE QUESTION.

 I WAS BY MY B/F TO MARRY HIM. HE IS MUSLIM AND IM CHRISTIAN.

I KNOW HE LOVE'S ME AS I LOVE HIM.

MY QUESTION IS THIS........HOW CAN I CHANGE TO HIS WAY. WILL I BE ACCEPTED AS HIS WIFE.PLEASE I NEED HELP ON THIS.

 I WILL READ ALL REPLY'S.

THANKS ........MARIE

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Quote Sarkeranwar Replybullet Posted: 27 August 2005 at 9:17am

Hello Marie

Greetings to you!

Firstly, you should know that your muslim boyfriend is not allowed to have a girlfriend. It is prohibitted in Islam!

Secondly, a muslim man is allowed to marry a chaste woman from the People of the Book (i.e. Jews & Christian). However, scholars recommend muslim men not to marry Jews & Christian women because of many real disadvantages and complications arise due to the differences in faiths and other matters. In this circumstance, it would be best for you to accept Islam. If both of you practice Islam which is the religion of our Creator then you will not only be able to lead a contended life but also will be able to get salvation in the Hereafter, Insha Allah. Here is A Brief Illustrated Guide To Understanding Islam at http://www.islam-guide.com/  for you to study.

Please also study the following questions and answers from Islam Q&A which are related to your situation. The responses are scholarly and are based on the pure Islamic Shariah (Divine Law).

A Christian woman is asking whether her marriage to a Muslim is valid

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=12283&dgn=4

 

 

Are the Jews and Christians who exist nowadays mushrikeen (polytheists) and is it permissible to marry their women?

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=44695&dgn=4

 

 

Muslim forbidding his non-Muslim wife to celebrate her religious festivals

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=70177&dgn=4

 

He does not pray and he lives with his girlfriend; he wants to repent and marry her

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=50508&dgn=4

 

He has repented from a haraam relationship; should he marry his former girlfriend if she becomes Muslim?

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=20274&dgn=4

 

Marriage to a woman of the People of the Book do you advise that?

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=22661&dgn=4

 

Ruling on a Muslim man marrying a non-Muslim woman and vice versa

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=21380&dgn=4

 

Married to a Christian woman what should he do next?

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=13253&dgn=4

 

Obstacles to a Christian woman marrying a Muslim man

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=43483&dgn=4

 

A realistic look at marriage to women of the People of the Book

 

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=45645&dgn=4

If you have more questions, you can either ask us here or ask  the scholars in IslamQ&A.

I hope you find the above helpful.

"Our Lord! Give us in this world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is good, and save us from the torment of the Fire!" Quran 2:201
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Quote Lameese Replybullet Posted: 27 August 2005 at 11:47pm
Originally posted by marie

HELLO ALL,

   JUST WANTED TO ASK A SIMPLE QUESTION.

 I WAS BY MY B/F TO MARRY HIM. HE IS MUSLIM AND IM CHRISTIAN.

I KNOW HE LOVE'S ME AS I LOVE HIM.

MY QUESTION IS THIS........HOW CAN I CHANGE TO HIS WAY. WILL I BE ACCEPTED AS HIS WIFE.PLEASE I NEED HELP ON THIS.

 I WILL READ ALL REPLY'S.

THANKS ........MARIE

 

Marie,

You do not have to convert to Islam to marry your, ummmm, boyfriend and you will still be accepted as his wife. Maybe you can study Islam to understand him better and learn about his religion. Maybe after reading it and discussing it with him then you will want to convert and maybe not.

The choice is yours alone.

 

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Quote deenadict Replybullet Posted: 27 August 2005 at 11:59pm

marie
In addition to what Sarkeranwar said, I know that loving someone will push the preson to do anything whatever it is to get him or her. The most important question here is that why don't we do that for our CREATOR, who deserves our LOVE and SUBMISSION.

MArie

I appreciate your cleverness in tackling this matter the way you did so please accept Islam for it is the religion that hold no enemosity to any of the prophets. The Jews hate Jesus and Muhammad. Christians do not acknowledge Muhammad as a prophet. But by accepting Islam, you will gain many things among which are:

1. Nearnrss to God

2. believing in all the prophets including Jesus, Moses and Muhammad (peace be upon them)

3. Marrying this Muslim whom you love

Wish all the best

May Allah Guide Our Steps to Him.
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Quote deenadict Replybullet Posted: 28 August 2005 at 12:10am

If you want to take his way, just say

Ash-hadu ann La ilah illa Allah wahdahu la shareek lahu (I bear witness that there is no true God but Allah, the one who has no partners)

wa Ash-hadu ann Muhammad Abduhu wa rasuluh (I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and messenger)

wa Ash-hadu ann 'Isa (Jesus) Abduhu wa rasuluh, wa kalimatuh alqaha to Maryam al-batul (I bear witness that Jesus is His slave and messenger, and His word cast to Mary the Virgin)

By this you will become Muslim and then yo read about Islam so that you can pray.

Regards

May Allah Guide Our Steps to Him.
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Quote Ason Replybullet Posted: 05 September 2005 at 11:56pm
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If you want to take his way, just say

Ash-hadu ann La ilah illa Allah wahdahu la shareek lahu (I bear witness that there is no true God but Allah, the one who has no partners)

wa Ash-hadu ann Muhammad Abduhu wa rasuluh (I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and messenger)

wa Ash-hadu ann 'Isa (Jesus) Abduhu wa rasuluh, wa kalimatuh alqaha to Maryam al-batul (I bear witness that Jesus is His slave and messenger, and His word cast to Mary the Virgin)

By this you will become Muslim and then yo read about Islam so that you can pray.

Regards

 

saying some phrases without understanding or knowledge

I think would be rather pointless.

 

 

Allaah knows best

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Quote deenadict Replybullet Posted: 06 September 2005 at 4:31am

Assalam alaikum All

Dear Ason

That's true but I gave the meaning in brackets and that is what has practiced by the prophet.

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Quote Sajid2003 Replybullet Posted: 20 October 2005 at 2:39am

hi sister,

First of all I would like to take a permission to start commenting on what Sarkaranwar has said.

I have great doubts that this Sarkar is a Muslim, cause he was persistent and keen to let our sister" Marie" to have a wrong idea about islam and even to hate it, wat he has said is in way athe spirt of Islam, even our prophet Mohamad had a christian wife, there is no any contradicion if a Muslim marries a christian lady, and who told you that Islam prefer that a Muslim should not marry a woman from " The people of the book" IN WHICH REFERENCE OF TEXT BOOK YOU FOUND THAT, on the contrary it's highly commendable if the a person likes that woman and she likes him, cause it's probable that she convert to Islam by his help, thereby he will get high reward from Allah " Swt".

I know there are some non Muslim who work under cover pretending that they are Muslims, and their aim is to deface and defame Islam so that people and potential converters to our religion will retreat and change their mind to covert to Islam, and those non Muslims have wrong idea about Islam.

Sister Marie, marrie him (if u really love him) but plan to your life " as a Christian living in a muslim automosphere, and be sure you are not getting any harm " being a chrisian" mean while before and after marriage read thoroughly about Islam, and ask him if u have doubts with regards to any issue.

Good Luck,

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