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Quote masad Replybullet Posted: 05 September 2005 at 12:15am

Salam

Here is an article on alcohol

http://alcohol.rationalreality.com

Hope it helps.



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Quote ray045 Replybullet Posted: 09 September 2005 at 2:13pm
I have not had a drink for a week I attended jummah today Friday felt really good until someone accused me of being a Hypocrite. They said I cannot pray if I ever drink again. By Allah's Grace I will stop but this person is trying to force me to decide one way or the other which at this point in time I cannot do. What should I say to this person.
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Quote ummziba Replybullet Posted: 09 September 2005 at 2:20pm

Assalamu alaikum br. ray045,

A week - congratulations!  The first step is often the hardest.  I pray Allah grants you courage and strength to keep on the straight path.

As for the misguided brother, it may be best to ignore such ignorance, or, you might ask him politely to back up his claim with proof from Qur'an and Sunnah - of course, he will not be able to .

Peace, ummziba.

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Quote Sarkeranwar Replybullet Posted: 10 September 2005 at 12:27am

ray045 wrote:

I would like to call myself a revert muslim I said shahhadah and know my Salat, I have read and marveled at the life of the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) and truly believe that he was sent as a Mercy to mankind. However the problem is that I cannot stop drinking alcohol. I don't drink a lot but even one sipped means that I must be an unbeliever. I have no Muslim friends that I can socialise with not an excuse for my weakness but it does not help. I know it is Haram but how many Muslim shopkeepers sell alcohol. I am confused don't no what to do.

 

Assalamu Alykum brother Ray045

 

Please know that all kinds of alcoholic drinks are haram and believers should strictly guard themselves against that which is haram. Allah has commanded us to avoid such things so that we may be successful. Allah says in the Holy Quran (interpretation of the meaning):      

 

2:219. “They ask you (O Muhammad) concerning alcoholic drink and gambling. Say: ‘In them is a great sin, and (some) benefits for men, but the sin of them is greater than their benefit’”

 

5:90. O you who believe! Intoxicants (all kinds of alcoholic drinks), gambling, Al­Ansab, and Al­Azlam (arrows for seeking luck or decision) are an abomination of Shaitan's (Satan) handiwork. So avoid (strictly all) that (abomination) in order that you may be successful.

 

 

It is not correct that you are a disbeliever because you drink alcohol. However, according to the following hadith, when a drinker of alcoholic liquor drinks it, then he is not a believer at the time of drinking it.

 

Ahadith on Acoholic Drinks and Drinkers

 

Bukhary,Volume 3, Book 43, Number 655:

 

Narrated Abu Huraira:

 

The Prophet said, "When an adulterer commits illegal sexual intercourse, then he is not a believer at the time he is doing it, and when a drinker of an alcoholic liquor drinks it, then he is not a believer at the time of drinking it, and when a thief steals, then he is not a believer at the time of stealing, and when a robber robs, and the people look at him, then he is not a believer at the time of doing robbery.

 

In regard to the drinkers, here is another hadith which was narrated by Ibn Maajah (3377) from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr who said:

 

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever drinks alcohol and gets drunk, his prayer will not be accepted for forty days and if he dies he will go to Hell. But if he repents, Allaah will accept his repentance. If he again drinks alcohol and gets drunk, his prayer will not be accepted for forty days and if he dies he will go to Hell. But if he repents, Allaah will accept his repentance. If he again drinks alcohol and gets drunk, his prayer will not be accepted for forty days and if he dies he will go to Hell. But if he repents, Allaah will accept his repentance. If he commits (this sin) again, then Allaah pledges to make him drink the mud of khabaal on the Day of Resurrection.” They asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, what is the mud of khabaal?” He said, “The juices of the people of Hell.” 

 

Some more ahadith from Bukhary about drinkers of alcohol

 

Volume 8, Book 81, Number 771:

 

Narrated 'Umar bin Al-Khattab:

 

During the lifetime of the Prophet there was a man called 'Abdullah whose nickname was Donkey, and he used to make Allah's Apostle laugh. The Prophet lashed him because of drinking (alcohol). And one-day he was brought to the Prophet on the same charge and was lashed. On that, a man among the people said, "O Allah, curse him! How frequently he has been brought (to the Prophet on such a charge)!" The Prophet said, "Do not curse him, for by Allah, I know for he loves Allah and His Apostle."

 

Volume 8, Book 81, Number 772:

 

Narrated Abu Huraira:

 

A drunk was brought to the Prophet and he ordered him to be beaten (lashed). Some of us beat him with our hands, and some with their shoes, and some with their garments (twisted in the form of a lash). When that drunk had left, a man said, "What is wrong with him? May Allah disgrace him!" Allah's Apostle said, "Do not help Satan against your (Muslim) brother."

 

The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception and nothing but amusement & play

 

Yes the life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception and nothing but amusement & play. We are constantly being deceived by our worldly life and by the chief deceiver (Satan) who deceives us about Allah. We do not realize that whatever enjoyment we are enjoying in transgression against Allah’s Commands is only for a while and it will plunge us into destruction! We do not realize that this enjoyment for a while is nothing comparing to the severe torment in the Hereafter which we might suffer unless Allah forgives us. So, brother take note of the following noble Verses and let not your present to life deceive you, and let not the chief deceiver (Satan) deceive you about Allah. Allah says in the Holy Quran (interpretation of the meaning):

 

3:185. Everyone shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing).

 

57:20. Know that the life of this world is only play and amusement, pomp and mutual boasting among you, and rivalry in respect of wealth and children, as the likeness of vegetation after rain, thereof the growth is pleasing to the tiller; afterwards it dries up and you see it turning yellow; then it becomes straw. But in the Hereafter (there is) a severe torment (for the disbelievers, evil-doers), and (there is) Forgiveness from Allah and (His) Good Pleasure (for the believers, good-doers), whereas the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment.

 

10:23……O mankind! Your rebellion (disobedience to Allah) is only against your ownselves, - a brief enjoyment of this worldly life, then (in the end) unto Us is your return, and We shall inform you that which you used to do.

 

35:5. O mankind! Verily, the Promise of Allah is true. So let not this present life deceive you, and let not the chief deceiver (Satan) deceive you about Allah.

 

Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy. Allah is Oft­Forgiving, Most Merciful. Repent and then remain steadfast  

 

Dear brother in Islam, please note that none of us is perfect and all of us have committed or are committing sins knowingly or in ignorance, in secret or openly. Allah with His infinite Wisdom knows that we will transgress His Commands and will wrong ourselves by committing evil deeds and sins. Therefore, out of His Mercy for us He gave us criterions as to how we can get back to Him after committing such evil and sins against ourselves. He tells us that He is Oft­Forgiving, Most Merciful and asks us not to despair His Mercy! He tells us that if we sincerely repent then He will forgive our sins and grant us Paradise if we remain constant in worshiping Him Alone after repentance. Therefore despair not His Mercy and sincerely repent! Allah says in the Holy Quran (interpretation of the meaning):     

 

4:110. And whoever does evil or wrongs himself but afterwards seeks Allâh's Forgiveness, he will find Allâh Oft­Forgiving, Most Merciful.

 

15:56. [Ibrahim (Abraham)] said: "And who despairs of the Mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?"

 

39:53. Say: "O 'Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

 

20:82. And verily, I am indeed Forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them, (till his death).

 

40:55. So be patient (O Muhammad SAW). Verily, the Promise of Allah is true, and ask forgiveness for your fault, and glorify the praises of your Lord in the Ashi (i.e. the time period after the midnoon till sunset) and in the Ibkar (i.e. the time period from early morning or sunrise till before midnoon) [it is said that, that means the five compulsory congregational Salat (prayers) or the 'Asr and Fajr prayers].

3:135-136. And those who, when they have committed Fahishah (illegal sexual intercourse etc.) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allâh and ask forgiveness for their sins; - and none can forgive sins but Allâh - And do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know. For such, the reward is Forgiveness from their Lord, and Gardens with rivers flowing underneath (Paradise), wherein they shall abide forever. How excellent is this reward for the doers (who do righteous deeds according to Allâh's Orders).

How to Refrain from Sinful Acts

 

“If Allah helps you, none can overcome you; if He forsakes you, who is - after that - that can help you”. Therefore, strive hard and ask Allah in patience and As-Salat (the prayer) to help you to overcome your problem. Allah says in the Holy Quran (interpretation of the meaning):

 

2:45. And seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer) and truly it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khashi'un [i.e. the true believers in Allah - those who obey Allah with full submission, fear much from His Punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise, etc.) and in His Warnings (Hell, etc.)].

 

2:153. O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).

 

29:69. As for those who strive hard in Us (Our Cause), We will surely guide them to Our Paths (i.e. Allâh's Religion - Islâmic Monotheism). And verily, Allâh is with the Muhsinűn (good doers).

 

Allah loves those who put their trust in Him!

 

Insha Allah, it will not be difficult for you to refrain yourself from the sinful acts if you put your trust in Allah. First make a decision that you will never go back to drink alcohol again and then put your trust in Allah i.e. say to yourself that Allah will help you to overcome the sinful habit. And Allah is Sufficient as a Wakil (Trustee, or Disposer of affairs). Allah says in the Holy Quran (interpretation of the meaning):

 

33:3. And put your trust in Allah, and Sufficient is Allah as a Wakil (Trustee, or Disposer of affairs).

 

3:159-160. When you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah.  For Allah loves those who put their trust in Him.  If Allah help you, none can overcome you; if He forsakes you, who is - after that - that can help you?  In Allah, then, let believers put their trust"

65:3….. And whosoever puts his trust in Allâh, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allâh will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allâh has set a measure for all things.

Please also remember that if you fear Allah & keep your duty to him He will make a way for you to get out of every difficulty, make your matter easy for you and He will remit your sins and will enlarge your provision! Allah, the Most High, says in the Holy Quran (interpretation of the meaing):

65:2. ….And whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty)……

65:4……and whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will make his matter easy for him.

65:5. ….and whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will remit his sins from him, and will enlarge his reward.

May Allah help you & us to adhere to His Religion. May Allah guide us to His Straight Way.

"Our Lord! Give us in this world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is good, and save us from the torment of the Fire!" Quran 2:201
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Quote Brother123 Replybullet Posted: 19 September 2005 at 6:53pm

 A person cant pray when he /she is  drunk but one  has to pray. Pray helps  one get rid of sin and bad habbits eventually

please read why do we pray http://www.shariahway.com/pray

 



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Quote kim! Replybullet Posted: 20 September 2005 at 6:57am

To those of you who drink and want to give it up - when do you drink? In what situations do you drink? When you are doing nothing, or when you are out with friends?

Maybe you need to keep yourselves busier? Or maybe you need to be _less_ busy? Maybe you could take up some sort of active hobby. Or a _less_ active hobby, like yoga or meditation.  :)

I think the goal of "I will stop drinking" is a difficult one. You may need to change your lifestyle somewhat in order to support your aim.

I know when I took up rowing years ago, the amount of drinking I did absolutely plummeted - you can't drink and row!

Then I got my driver's licence - you can't drink and drive, either! 

It might help if you take up some sort of fitness regime - no one can criticize you for not drinking 'cos it's "fattening"!   That way, you will be busy, you will feel great AND you will find it easier to avoid the Demon Drink.

Good luck!

Kim...

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Quote AhmadJoyia Replybullet Posted: 23 September 2005 at 8:10am
Oh! I am amazed to see my sis Kim suggesting against drinking. This is indeed strange to me, though very interesting.
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Quote abubasil Replybullet Posted: 05 December 2005 at 12:26am

bismillah

salaams

dear bro & sist pay attention  to these words

there is nothing called "strong-willpower" but there is great desire and less desire so when you wish to get rid of something (act)  bad remmebr all its bad sides after that you will find no desire to do it instead the desire to remove it ...and it is clear .. when you wish to do something good but (heavy) and you feel lazy remmeber or let me say memorize all its benefits ..this mean you will stop for awhile to think ..you will get use of this new habbit .. and you will enjoy controlling yrself this is the first steps in the journy from slavery of "I" to the honorable slavery for ALLLAH (swt).. and pls excuse my bad english ..salam..

O Allah what did find he who lost you , what did lost he who find you
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