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Quote lorry Replybullet Posted: 25 August 2011 at 8:30pm
ConfusedConfusedAngryAngry i have been a muslim for a year now bu do not feel like a real muslim as i am not allowed to cover as i should i am married  have been 25 yrs in october ] my husband is not muslim we do not have a marraige anymore do not share same bathroom or bedroom he will not let me out house if i wear abay or long dress or cover hair . i wish i was brave and knew what to o i thought i wanted a divorce but have been with him so long i am scared also have health problems and have anurse who has to help me wash and dress hate tis too as its not right id like to live a lone andd have a muslim sister help me with the jobs i need bit how would i do that ????
 
sorry gone off track i want to wear one but scared and not allowed if you can do it and want to please do it ConfusedEmbarrassed
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Quote Hayfa Replybullet Posted: 27 August 2011 at 4:30pm
Salaams Sister,

That is very difficult. And remember intentions are very important in Islam. A situation may prevent us from fulfilling a duty. And Allah knows your thoughts. 

For many reverts we do the changes "in pieces." Like having longer pants and long-sleeve shirts. Many Muslims wear pants and long-sleeves. Do it very casually and over time he may not notice. 

Why does a Muslim sister need to help you with a job? Are you a British citizen?  Can't you apply for jobs on your own? I am confused as to why you need a Muslim sister to do this for you?

Sadly many women are dependent financially upon men / or someone else, and thus they cannot always do what they would like or is best for themselves.

Keep praying to Allah and Allah knows your heart and intentions sister.

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Edited by Hayfa - 27 August 2011 at 4:30pm
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Quote lorry Replybullet Posted: 28 August 2011 at 10:37am
when i said i need a muslim sister to help me with jobs i need to do i am disabled and need help with washing and dressing due to limited use off arms and legs as a muslim woman this is very hard as i know i am not ment to show my body to anyone else it also means i need help with removing body hair o it is embarrassing and hard for me  i do have a nurse she is very nice was my friend before my nurse but again it doe not feel right to ask her to help with more personal tasks like shaving  i hope this clears up that point
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Quote Lalli36 Replybullet Posted: 31 August 2011 at 10:00am
Hello!

I am also a non-Muslim who has chosen to wear hijab for 1 month and report my findings for my school as a social experiment. My month of wearing hijab has been going on for several months now since I haven't worn it every day, and also because I just don't want to take it off when I do wear it!

I have always been fascinated with hijab. It's beautiful, modest and very very practical. Although my catholic husband does not approve of my wearing it for fear of discrimination (something he is subject to anyway as he is a foreigner) he really can't argue with the fact that I am covering myself up. Catholics believe in modesty too- in fact so does almost every religion.

I was just a little bit uncomfortable at first, wondering what people would think of me. I did face a few negative reactions, but there have been so many positive ones! In line at the supermarket, a Muslim woman spoke to me in her language. When I indicated that I didn't understand, we started conversing about my reason for trying the hijab. She was so supportive and ended the conversation with a "you go girl!" I've also had incredible support from the wonderful community on this board.

In short, wearing hijab feels wonderful. I don't feel the shame of incurring comments from men, something that I've suffered with internally for some time. Of course men must have control of themselves and their thoughts and are responsible for them, but knowing that I was just following the skimpy modern fashions made me feel responsible to a degree as well. That's just me though =)

I also feel like I am more confident and conscious of my actions. As I said, I am not Muslim, but I do not want to misrepresent the community by doing something inappropriate while in hijab. It's something I take very seriously.

I could go on and on. I just love it.

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Quote seeja Replybullet Posted: 27 March 2012 at 10:40pm

Salam sister

Congrats for finding the beauty of “hijab”. Keep going ahead. Surely Hijab will give you pleasure in this world, freedom and so many other things and rewards are waiting you from the almighty. Be strong with wearing the Hijab and make it your dress for all the occasions. Meantime you and your husband can start understanding the great religion Islam. Like Hijaab you will welcome this belief also once you come across its taste. Information’s are available all over the internet. I am sure both you will like this great religion of almighty god. Be in touch………

Islam (Total Surrender, Submission, Obedience, Sincerity and Peace with Allah) is for all people, in all places and in all times
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