I am an english wife of a Muslim who is half Kurdish and Half Turkish, I have been married to him for one year, a few months into the marriage he started to beat me, kicking, punching, biting me. His reasons for doing this was stress of no work, but he would send me out looking for work for him, which on 3 or 4 occassions I found for him and he lost each job because he said he could not stand being told what to do, when he was not working he would spend most of his day on the internet playing pool also known as 8ball. If he was not winning at this game he would hit me he also gambled on football. I became so afraid to speak so i resorted to constantly sleeping my life away because that was the only place I felt safe when I was sleeping or at work. It all became to much I left and went into hiding from him because I was so afraid that I would die at his hand. But I still love him and all that know him say forgive him he says he will never do it again, he says that he has now started reading and trying to understand the quran he now wants me to join with him again, but I am so afraid he has lied to me so many times that he would not hurt me again, 2 days later he was hitting me again, when I left it was because he hurt me so badly It ended in me being in hospital and shaking so much that they had to give me an injection to make it stop, at the hospital he was very open about what had happend and that he was the cause of it, but because of this beating I have no feeling in my right leg and had a small stroke as a result. What I would like from anyone in the forum is and open minded opinion of what I should do remembering that in the end I will do what I think is best for me . why do I ask here you may ask, well the reasons are that, it has been said to me that this behaviour is very normal in the Muslim faith, I really do not believe this to be true and would like anyone to help me make up my mind what I should do. Do I trust my husband and forgive him and let him have another chance. Or do I say no I am sorry it happend too many times to continue or trust you again. I have already if I am honest and being the person that I am forgiven him as he asked me to give him halal. 

This may indeed be normal behavior for someone who was abused as a child, or one who hates women, but it is not normal for the Islamic faith.  I agree with Semar, you should press charges and leave this man before his kills you.

Edited by abuayisha - 10 January 2011 at 2:02pm

Salam

This is abuse when will you leave him ????
The day he kills you?