IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum: Sex while being pregnant

Author

Message

Pati
Female Christian
Senior Member

Joined: 10 April 2009
Location: Spain
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 305

Posted: 18 July 2010 at 3:27am

Dear,

Congratulations for the pregnancy. This is the best of God's gifts for us.

But just a small comment: sex is not a duty, but a right. You should do it whenever you want, and in this moments, you have your right to decide when you want. In case you really feel that you cannot have it for physical reasons, just tell him that you cannot.

And opposite, in case you feel you want it, ask for it, because as wife, it's your right also.

I wish you a happy pregnancy, because as far as I know, it's very special to feel how the life is growing inside you. And actually, you have two lives inside!!! God bless you all.

All the best,

Patricia

No God wants the killing, but the peace.
The weapons are carried by people, not by religions.

IP Logged

Divya_Mohammed

Groupie
Groupie

Joined: 14 July 2010
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 44

Posted: 19 July 2010 at 4:00pm

Assalam Alaikum

Thank you so much Patricia. Good to have your opinion and advice.

I am only 21 and as such cannot ask my mom, especially after my religious conversion to being a Muslim from being a Hindu. I feel ashamed when I think of asking my in-law. This is a good satisfaction for me3 to know that I have so many people who offer advice with prayers in their lips.

God bless all of you

Allah Hafiz

Divya Mohammed Iyer

IP Logged

Pati
Female Christian
Senior Member

Joined: 10 April 2009
Location: Spain
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 305

Posted: 20 July 2010 at 10:50am

Originally posted by Divya_Mohammed

Assalam Alaikum

Thank you so much Patricia. Good to have your opinion and advice.

God bless all of you

Allah Hafiz

Divya Mohammed Iyer

Hi again, dear,

It's not matter of religion, is matter of life. The wife is from the husband, and opposite, the husband is from the wife. You should never forget it.

Both of you have a duty with the other to satisfice him/her, to understand, to help, to love, and to support over everything. This is the basis of marriage, all matter of love and understanding each other.

If I can help you in any other thing, don't hesitate to ask me

... but I will talk just as woman, not as a religious person (Christian, in my case). I believe that God commandements for marriage are the same in all religions.

Hugs

Patricia

No God wants the killing, but the peace.
The weapons are carried by people, not by religions.

IP Logged

Sadia786Rabbani

Starter.

Joined: 12 January 2013
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 1

Posted: 12 January 2013 at 4:26am

Salaam alaikoom Wa Reh ma Tullahi Wa barakatuhu, sister

Alhamdulilah you have converted to islam and Mubarak to you and all your family, may Allah swt keep you guided, correctly informed about islam and protect your family in sickness and in health Ameen....

Answer:

In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,

Engaging in sexual intercourse and cohabiting with ones wife while she is pregnant is perfectly permissible from an Islamic perspective.

Sayyiduna Sad ibn Waqqas (Allah be pleased with him) reports that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) and said: I practice coitus interruptus (withdrawal method) with my wife. The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) inquired: why do you do that He replied: A man is more apprehensive regarding his child. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give peace) said: If this was harmful then it would have been harmful to the Persians and Romans (Sahih Muslim).

The great Hanafi scholar, Mulla Ali al-Qari (Allah have mercy on him) states in the explanation of this Hadith in his famous treatise Mirqat:

The statement A man is more apprehensive regarding his child is referring to the child in the stomach of the wife. Meaning, so that she does not conceive again, thus have twins, which will be a cause of both becoming weak. Or it refers to the child she is breast feeding, meaning sexual intercourse is harmful to the suckling child.

The statement of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) If this was harmful means, if sexual intercourse was harmful during the period of breastfeeding or when the woman is pregnant (Mirqat al-Mafatih, 6/238).

From the above, one may conclude that Islamically there is nothing wrong in sexual relations during pregnancy. The presence of the pregnancy does not prevent the permissibility of sexual intercourse.

What if there is harm?

However, many scholars have stated that if a particular woman is advised by a physician that it is harmful for the child or herself that she engages in sexual intercourse, then it should be avoided.

I hope this information is helpful sister, insha'Allah,
Allah hafiz

IP Logged

Aysha_kants

Starter.

Joined: 15 February 2013
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 5

Posted: 15 February 2013 at 6:07pm

Salamualaikum my name is Aysha am from nigeria pls sisters am 3 mounth pregant but I need an adivce cause in this stage I don't like sex I feel pain and my husband has never complain but can see it on his face pls I need advice on what to do so I can satisfield his need.and what I should be eating during pregancy cause is my first time.thanks may Allah reward you all

IP Logged

	Active Topics Memberlist Calendar Search Help
	Register Login Old Forum

Groups – Women (Sisters)
IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Culture & Community : Groups – Women (Sisters)

Author	Message
Pati Female Christian Senior Member Joined: 10 April 2009 Location: Spain Online Status: Offline Posts: 305	Posted: 18 July 2010 at 3:27am
	Dear, Congratulations for the pregnancy. This is the best of God's gifts for us. But just a small comment: sex is not a duty, but a right. You should do it whenever you want, and in this moments, you have your right to decide when you want. In case you really feel that you cannot have it for physical reasons, just tell him that you cannot. And opposite, in case you feel you want it, ask for it, because as wife, it's your right also. I wish you a happy pregnancy, because as far as I know, it's very special to feel how the life is growing inside you. And actually, you have two lives inside!!! God bless you all. All the best, Patricia
	No God wants the killing, but the peace. The weapons are carried by people, not by religions.
	IP Logged

Divya_Mohammed Groupie Joined: 14 July 2010 Online Status: Offline Posts: 44	Posted: 19 July 2010 at 4:00pm
	Assalam Alaikum Thank you so much Patricia. Good to have your opinion and advice. I am only 21 and as such cannot ask my mom, especially after my religious conversion to being a Muslim from being a Hindu. I feel ashamed when I think of asking my in-law. This is a good satisfaction for me3 to know that I have so many people who offer advice with prayers in their lips. God bless all of you Allah Hafiz Divya Mohammed Iyer
	IP Logged

Pati Female Christian Senior Member Joined: 10 April 2009 Location: Spain Online Status: Offline Posts: 305	Posted: 20 July 2010 at 10:50am
	*Originally posted by Divya_Mohammed* Assalam Alaikum Thank you so much Patricia. Good to have your opinion and advice. I am only 21 and as such cannot ask my mom, especially after my religious conversion to being a Muslim from being a Hindu. I feel ashamed when I think of asking my in-law. This is a good satisfaction for me3 to know that I have so many people who offer advice with prayers in their lips. God bless all of you Allah Hafiz Divya Mohammed Iyer Hi again, dear, It's not matter of religion, is matter of life. The wife is from the husband, and opposite, the husband is from the wife. You should never forget it. Both of you have a duty with the other to satisfice him/her, to understand, to help, to love, and to support over everything. This is the basis of marriage, all matter of love and understanding each other. If I can help you in any other thing, don't hesitate to ask me ... but I will talk just as woman, not as a religious person (Christian, in my case). I believe that God commandements for marriage are the same in all religions. Hugs Patricia
	No God wants the killing, but the peace. The weapons are carried by people, not by religions.
	IP Logged

Sadia786Rabbani Starter. Joined: 12 January 2013 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1	Posted: 12 January 2013 at 4:26am
	Salaam alaikoom Wa Reh ma Tullahi Wa barakatuhu, sister Alhamdulilah you have converted to islam and Mubarak to you and all your family, may Allah swt keep you guided, correctly informed about islam and protect your family in sickness and in health Ameen.... Answer: In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful, Engaging in sexual intercourse and cohabiting with ones wife while she is pregnant is perfectly permissible from an Islamic perspective. Sayyiduna Sad ibn Waqqas (Allah be pleased with him) reports that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) and said: I practice coitus interruptus (withdrawal method) with my wife. The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) inquired: why do you do that He replied: A man is more apprehensive regarding his child. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give peace) said: If this was harmful then it would have been harmful to the Persians and Romans (Sahih Muslim). The great Hanafi scholar, Mulla Ali al-Qari (Allah have mercy on him) states in the explanation of this Hadith in his famous treatise Mirqat: The statement A man is more apprehensive regarding his child is referring to the child in the stomach of the wife. Meaning, so that she does not conceive again, thus have twins, which will be a cause of both becoming weak. Or it refers to the child she is breast feeding, meaning sexual intercourse is harmful to the suckling child. The statement of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) If this was harmful means, if sexual intercourse was harmful during the period of breastfeeding or when the woman is pregnant (Mirqat al-Mafatih, 6/238). From the above, one may conclude that Islamically there is nothing wrong in sexual relations during pregnancy. The presence of the pregnancy does not prevent the permissibility of sexual intercourse. What if there is harm? However, many scholars have stated that if a particular woman is advised by a physician that it is harmful for the child or herself that she engages in sexual intercourse, then it should be avoided. I hope this information is helpful sister, insha'Allah, Allah hafiz
	IP Logged

Aysha_kants Starter. Joined: 15 February 2013 Online Status: Offline Posts: 5	Posted: 15 February 2013 at 6:07pm
	Salamualaikum my name is Aysha am from nigeria pls sisters am 3 mounth pregant but I need an adivce cause in this stage I don't like sex I feel pain and my husband has never complain but can see it on his face pls I need advice on what to do so I can satisfield his need.and what I should be eating during pregancy cause is my first time.thanks may Allah reward you all
	IP Logged