Active TopicsActive Topics  Display List of Forum MembersMemberlist  CalendarCalendar  Search The ForumSearch  HelpHelp
  RegisterRegister  LoginLogin  Old ForumOld Forum  Twitter  Facebook
Advertisement:
         

Radio, TV & Film
 IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Reviews - Media : Radio, TV & Film
Message Icon Topic: Impact of Indian Media on Subcontinental Muslims Post Reply Post New Topic
Page  of 3 Next >>
Author Message
Chrysalis
 
Senior Member
Senior  Member
Avatar

Joined: 25 November 2007
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 2041
Quote Chrysalis Replybullet Topic: Impact of Indian Media on Subcontinental Muslims
    Posted: 19 March 2010 at 3:06am
The video is in Urdu, but you can still glean something by watching. A short piece on how the Indian Media is having an effect on the Muslims living in the Sub-Continent...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lo4O6RikUtE

If it weren't saddening and true, the little kid might have been amusing . . .


Edited by Chrysalis - 19 March 2010 at 9:15am
"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
IP IP Logged
seekshidayath
Female Islam
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 26 March 2006
Location: India
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 3342
Quote seekshidayath Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2010 at 4:12am
As Salamu Alaikum

Its very sad ! Even most of the Indian muslims are just carried away by it. May Allah swt steadfast us in deen and protect us from these kind of fitnahs.

Yahan kay kuch ma-baap khush hotay hain, jab unka ladka, ganaa gaata hai ! You know that.How sad !
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
IP IP Logged
abuayisha
 
Senior Member
Senior  Member
Avatar

Joined: 05 October 1999
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 4221
Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2010 at 7:20am
There was an Indian Muslim sister here in Los Angeles, who was collecting money for her sister in the UK.  The sister in the UK had only paid half of the dowry to the man, and after several years of marriage he was demanding payment of the other half, or he would divorce her.  Dowry practice adopted directly from Indian Hindus; completely mind blowing.  How to live with such a man?  I was told the higher the status of the man (doctor, professional, etc.), the higher amount families must pay for the man to marry the girl.  Amazing!
IP IP Logged
seekshidayath
Female Islam
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 26 March 2006
Location: India
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 3342
Quote seekshidayath Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2010 at 7:50am

Yes, brother. Here we Indian girls feel we are burden to the society, while Islam uplifted us. Its very true the higher the status / profession more we need to pay. This problem is not just of India but of Pak as well. This dowry system is the reason, why many girls are crossing their ages. Its not easy to eradicate this problem as its well rooted in the society. Its clearly impact of that hindu society over us.

Apart from dowry, we have many other expenses as well, Thats the reason why people cry {show negative emotions} when a daughter is born.

Alhamdullilah, my brother's marriage was acc to sunnah, but we had to face lot from the society for not taking dowry ! Can u imagine. Infact the girl's side was feeling bad that we did not take any dowry ! This is the state of mind here.

May Allah guide us all

Yes brother, there are few organisations for it, but as said, its not easy to eradicate
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
IP IP Logged
Chrysalis
 
Senior Member
Senior  Member
Avatar

Joined: 25 November 2007
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 2041
Quote Chrysalis Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2010 at 9:09am
Oh yes we Muslims in the subcontinent have borrowed a lot of Hindu aspects of culture after having lived together for so long ! Dowry is just one of the aspects. . .

However thankfully, I have noticed that in Pakistan, Dowry is becoming less rampant, and is not as big an issue as in India. Atleast in the urban cities. . .or maybe of what I have observed around me... especially compared to before.

Not only Dowry, but the whole concept of a multi-event wedding spanning over a week including weird traditions of "Mangni" (Engagement) , "Mehndi" (Henna), "Mayon" (Donno how to translate) is borrowed from Hindus. Infact the actual Nikah event seems invisible.

MashAllah Seeks that is so nice that your family broke the mould by rejecting the dowry. Even at our Uncle's wedding, we refused dowry, and none was exchanged. alhamdulilah.

Although I still don't like the fact that the girl's family has to pay for the Nikah Event . . . isn't that supposed to be a western/christian concept ? i.e Girl's family pays ?

In Islam, are both supposed to pay, or is the Man supposed to pay for the Nikah event ?



"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
IP IP Logged
seekshidayath
Female Islam
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 26 March 2006
Location: India
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 3342
Quote seekshidayath Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2010 at 9:18am
Insha Allah, there shall be no mehendi and Mayon at myside. I shall be the first girl in my community {qandaan} to abandon that, alhamdullilah. But the fact that, as we were groom's side during my brother's marriage, we cud stop that dowry system,

About Nikah event - its so simple. I envy my neighbourhood girl. We did not even know that it was her nikah. Few members from bridegroom's side visited her home and bride's close relatives {very few not exceeding 10} were invited. Nikah was in maghrib , at a masjid, and by Ishaa'n she was departed. Valima was at grand scale, i mean all relatives from both sides were invited. I hope this is exactly the sunnah, is n't it ?



Edited by seekshidayath - 26 April 2010 at 4:41am
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
IP IP Logged
seekshidayath
Female Islam
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 26 March 2006
Location: India
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 3342
Quote seekshidayath Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2010 at 9:22am

By the way we were talking of media. I heard that star plus was blocked at Pak ? Is n't that true? It seems that these serials are been dubbed and telecasted at Afghanistan.

And kindly note when i talk of Indian muslims, its not that all muslims are of that kind. Alhamdullilah, there are many families that stay away from these kinds

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
IP IP Logged
Chrysalis
 
Senior Member
Senior  Member
Avatar

Joined: 25 November 2007
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 2041
Quote Chrysalis Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2010 at 9:28am
Originally posted by seekshidayath

Insha Allah, there shall be no mehendi and Mayon at myside. I shall be the first girl in my community {qandaan} to abandon that, alhamdullilah. .


InshAllah Sister! May Allah always enable to stick to sunnah and stand up for sunnah!

You are right, the Bridegrooms' families are the ones that can break this tradition. Unfortunately not many do Confused.

About Nikah event - its so simple. I envy my neighbourhood girl. We did not even know that it was her nikah. Few members from bridegroom's side visited her home and bride's close relatives {very few not exceeding 10} were invited. Nikah was in maghrib , at a masjid, and by Ishaa'n she was departed. Valima was at grand scale, i mean all relatives from both sides were invited. I hope this is exactly the sunnah, is n't it ?



Wow! I have read a hadith, that the most blessed marriages are those that cost the least trouble to both bride & bridegroom's families...

But you know sis, sometimes even if the girl insists on having things the simple way - the relatives disagree. If I ever say something like "I wont do such & such things" my relatives get annoyed! especially grandmother. For them, having lavish weddings is expressing their joy. And some get superstitious about "solemn" weddings...




Edited by Chrysalis - 26 April 2010 at 7:26am
"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
IP IP Logged
Page  of 3 Next >>
Post Reply Post New Topic
Printable version Printable version

Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot create polls in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum

Disclaimer:
The opinions expressed herein contain positions and viewpoints that are not necessarily those of IslamiCity. This forum is offered to stimulate dialogue and discussion in our continuing mission of being an educational organization.
If there is any issue with any of the postings please email to icforum at islamicity.com or if you are a forum's member you can use the report button.

Note: The 99 names of Allah avatars are courtesy of www.arthafez.com

Advertisement:



Sponsored by:
Islamicity Membership Program:
IslamiCity Donation Program  http://www.islamicity.com/Donate
IslamiCity Arabic eLearning http://www.islamiCity.com/ArabAcademy
Complete Domain & Hosting Solutions www.icDomain.com
Home for Muslim Tunes www.icTunes.com
Islamic Video Collections www.islamiTV.com
IslamiCity Marriage Site www.icMarriage.com