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crissy

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Posted: 22 July 2005 at 5:53pm

Can a muslim man curse at his wife?

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Posted: 22 July 2005 at 5:56pm

Can a muslim wife have non muslim friends,please answer me someone I have a really good friend that is muslim,that totaly respect her husband but he does not want her to talk or associate with me,

whaT SHOULD i DO?

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Posted: 23 July 2005 at 7:13am

its really hard to say,i think what your friends husband says really is what she should do,i know it sounds hard but in islam women should follow there husbands wishes as long as it not against islam.its not against islam to have non-muslim friends but maybe he feels you will lead her astray.have you any thoughts on islam yourself.maybe you could share the wonderful islam with your friend.hope you find a solution

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Posted: 23 July 2005 at 8:45am

she doesnt share his beliefs,she has a mind of her own,I havent turned her against her husband or his beliefs, she chooses to talk to me, but he doesnt let her do anything with me nothing, he totaly invades her privacy, at times its as if she has no say in anything or her marriage,this guy has total control over her,and she alows it.

I think he is a coward that hides behind the religion for strength,he is very controling to the point that she totaly fears him.

That is not normal! Ill be back on at 8:pm today have a good day

crissy

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Posted: 23 July 2005 at 9:23am

Crissy,

The situation that you describe sounds terrible and Insallah your friend will find comfort in Allah(SWT). There is nothing wrong with having friends who are non-muslim as long as they are of the same sex. However as Aisha has said, a woman must follow her husband's wishes and a man must follow his wife's wishes (as long as it does not go against Islam). We do these things out of respect for our husbands and without respect there can be no love. If you friend truly feels that her husband is out of line, she should involve the local Imam.

I was wondering do you have a husband? If you do, you might want to invite your friend's family over for dinner or even tea. Maybe if he sees and knows who his wife is with, he wouldn't have so many reservations.

Peace, Lehua

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Posted: 23 July 2005 at 10:03am

This guy does not associate with anyone he has no desire to.

That is a great idea about dinner,Ill try,but her husband is really difficult,he is only happy with his studying thats it,this is what she told me,sometime I think that she makes her husband out to be this big scary monster to me and others, but when on the phone with him she sounds so loving when she speaks to him and she when she is home she is so respectful, I really dont understand because she makes it seem like he treats her like shi---

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Posted: 25 July 2005 at 4:22pm

Crissy first of all if he dosent want you to talk to his wife you shouldnot. Also she is not allowed to go against her husband wishes. Im also a covert muslimah and im not allowed to go again my husband. The only way that she can do that is if he is having her to do something wrong. I think you should leave her alone because if she wants to leave she will. ALso you should stay out of their business. And plus the husband is doing the right thing by studying.

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Posted: 25 July 2005 at 4:23pm

Also it is not right if he is cursing at her that is not allowed.

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crissy Newbie Joined: 22 July 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 7	Topic: marriage Posted: 22 July 2005 at 5:53pm
	Can a muslim man curse at his wife?
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crissy Newbie Joined: 22 July 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 7	Posted: 22 July 2005 at 5:56pm
	Can a muslim wife have non muslim friends,please answer me someone I have a really good friend that is muslim,that totaly respect her husband but he does not want her to talk or associate with me, whaT SHOULD i DO?
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aisha Senior Member Joined: 24 March 2005 Location: United Kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 113	Posted: 23 July 2005 at 7:13am
	its really hard to say,i think what your friends husband says really is what she should do,i know it sounds hard but in islam women should follow there husbands wishes as long as it not against islam.its not against islam to have non-muslim friends but maybe he feels you will lead her astray.have you any thoughts on islam yourself.maybe you could share the wonderful islam with your friend.hope you find a solution
	aisha
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crissy Newbie Joined: 22 July 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 7	Posted: 23 July 2005 at 8:45am
	she doesnt share his beliefs,she has a mind of her own,I havent turned her against her husband or his beliefs, she chooses to talk to me, but he doesnt let her do anything with me nothing, he totaly invades her privacy, at times its as if she has no say in anything or her marriage,this guy has total control over her,and she alows it. I think he is a coward that hides behind the religion for strength,he is very controling to the point that she totaly fears him. That is not normal! Ill be back on at 8:pm today have a good day
	crissy
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Lehua Newbie Joined: 04 July 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 37	Posted: 23 July 2005 at 9:23am
	Crissy, The situation that you describe sounds terrible and Insallah your friend will find comfort in Allah(SWT). There is nothing wrong with having friends who are non-muslim as long as they are of the same sex. However as Aisha has said, a woman must follow her husband's wishes and a man must follow his wife's wishes (as long as it does not go against Islam). We do these things out of respect for our husbands and without respect there can be no love. If you friend truly feels that her husband is out of line, she should involve the local Imam. I was wondering do you have a husband? If you do, you might want to invite your friend's family over for dinner or even tea. Maybe if he sees and knows who his wife is with, he wouldn't have so many reservations. Peace, Lehua
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crissy Newbie Joined: 22 July 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 7	Posted: 23 July 2005 at 10:03am
	This guy does not associate with anyone he has no desire to. That is a great idea about dinner,Ill try,but her husband is really difficult,he is only happy with his studying thats it,this is what she told me,sometime I think that she makes her husband out to be this big scary monster to me and others, but when on the phone with him she sounds so loving when she speaks to him and she when she is home she is so respectful, I really dont understand because she makes it seem like he treats her like shi---
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Muslimah4Life Newbie Joined: 13 July 2005 Location: Canada Online Status: Offline Posts: 8	Posted: 25 July 2005 at 4:22pm
	Crissy first of all if he dosent want you to talk to his wife you shouldnot. Also she is not allowed to go against her husband wishes. Im also a covert muslimah and im not allowed to go again my husband. The only way that she can do that is if he is having her to do something wrong. I think you should leave her alone because if she wants to leave she will. ALso you should stay out of their business. And plus the husband is doing the right thing by studying.
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Muslimah4Life Newbie Joined: 13 July 2005 Location: Canada Online Status: Offline Posts: 8	Posted: 25 July 2005 at 4:23pm
	Also it is not right if he is cursing at her that is not allowed.
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