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Quote xenophon Replybullet Posted: 23 November 2009 at 6:47am
Thanks for the advice. I'll be trying that.
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Quote fais Replybullet Posted: 23 November 2009 at 9:11pm
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thats is so nice of to accept my advice,Jazaa kullahu khair.
 
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Quote Full of Hopes Replybullet Posted: 01 December 2009 at 9:07pm
asslamu alikum
I 100% agree that u should be more patient with her. Allah is the only one who brings the islam in her heart. But u shouldnt give up. I believe the best way is to be a good example of a good muslim. Show her the great islamic good manners and kindness. Say the right word in the right place.
I also believe u need to ask a muslim scholar about ur case. We know Muslims can marry from the people of the book but how about the other religions? U should know.
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Edited by Full of Hopes - 01 December 2009 at 9:11pm
And whoever seeks a religion other than Islâm, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Quote fais Replybullet Posted: 01 December 2009 at 11:12pm

Assalam alaikum,

brother,keep praying for her in tahajjud,insha allah allah will turn her heart.to get hidaya from allah it is nesessary for her to have a soft corner in her heart for islam.

I heard this from a friend about firaun,when aasiya the wife of firaun who was a beliver showed him the little musa (Alaihu wasalam) and said he is the coolness of our heart on this firaun said no the little child is not the coolness of my heart and refused to accept him,it is said that if he had accepted little moses allah would have given him hidaya.so work on ways how you can bring her to deen,i have seen this many times that wives follow the deen of her husband.
 
about marying the people of book,it is not permitted to marry the woman of bani israel as they all have become idol worshippers and it is more dangerous to marry them in a non muslim country as a woman has more rights on the child than father unlike in muslim countries.so the future of your child is also in danger if you marry them.
 
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Quote honeto Replybullet Posted: 24 December 2009 at 5:16pm
Assalam Alykum,
praying for her guidance and becoming the best a Muslim example can be is the key as most of us agree and suggest.
I would also say have you mentally prepared yourself if she does not become a Muslim? What have you planned for that? Have you talked before what happens in case if you have children? what about the household, will it be a Muslim household or not regardless of her becoming Muslim or not?
The reason I bring these thing up is due to the fact that I was in a similar situation. When I married my first and only wife, she was not a Muslim, and I was not a practicing Muslim. But it must be a blessing and my mothers prayers that I showed my concern to my future wife about future direction of our household, and Children.  I  told her that I love her and want to marry her but if these conditions were not acceptable to her I cannot go on with marrying her, as to me she is important but so is what follows it. I promised her that I will not force her in becoming Muslim and it is not a condition for getting married.
We agreed and were satisfied and we got married. Alhumdolillah we have been married for almost 14 years and she took Shahadah more than seven years ago. She comes from Catholic and Christian backgrounds, but herself never into organized religion. Even before saying Shahada she was helping raise our kids Muslim, even taking them to mosque and teaching them about Islam. May Allah reward her for that.
Even though I had promised her that she don't have to become Muslim, I was ready, even though it was hard, in case if she does not become Muslim.
So, regardless of the outcome, have you set a clear direction for your household with her? If not, I would suggest, its never too late. And get to an agreement which is acceptable to her and to you without sacrificing  Allah's commands.
Meanwhile I will pray that Allah help you to overcome your faults, and open her heart to the truth, Ameen.

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Edited by honeto - 24 December 2009 at 5:18pm
39:64 Proclaim: Is it some one other than God that you order me to worship, O you ignorant ones?"
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