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    Posted: 06 October 2009 at 1:07pm
Dear brothers and sisters in Islam..

Pls. help me in finding a match for my sister age 23, height 5.3" Undergraduate, color medium fair, basically from a middle class family here in hyderabad, india separated within 3 months of marriage due to unavoidable circumstances.

Many proposals are turning down due to my sister's color and dowry demands here locally.

Pls. help me out........

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Quote fais Replybullet Posted: 07 October 2009 at 8:04am
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Brother my duas are for you,i have suggestion for you,ask her to continue her studies,give her some time do adjust and than think of second marraige,i mean dont just look for a life partner but rather look for a new life which will give her peace,its a hard time for her so just be with her emotionally and make her feel that she is not helpless.
 
Have faith in Allah,insha she will get better than what she lost.this is a hadith also.
 
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Quote md.faheem Replybullet Posted: 07 October 2009 at 10:07am
My dear brother,

From the bottom of my heart i thank you very much for your encouraging message. I feel proud to be a member of this forum and to know that there is  someone out there who could also feel the pain and agony of both me and my sister.

Presently we are going through a very tough time but, never losing trust in Allah Subhana wa taala. Insha'allah as you have said, she will indeed get better what she had lost..

Thanks once again and may allah bless you and in your future endeavors.
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Quote fais Replybullet Posted: 07 October 2009 at 10:47pm
Salam,
 
yes give her some time,dont hurry for another man,its not easy for a woman like men to forget her ex husband,so be patient.the best will knock your door when it is the best time.insha allah.and remember me in your dua when the best knocks your door.
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Quote ak_m_f Replybullet Posted: 11 October 2009 at 11:51pm
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Many proposals are turning down due to my sister's color and dowry demands here locally. Pls. help me out........


You people need to let go of Hindu pagan cultures.
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Quote martha Replybullet Posted: 12 October 2009 at 5:16am
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salam,
 
Brother my duas are for you,i have suggestion for you,ask her to continue her studies,give her some time do adjust and than think of second marraige,i mean dont just look for a life partner but rather look for a new life which will give her peace,its a hard time for her so just be with her emotionally and make her feel that she is not helpless.
 
Have faith in Allah,insha she will get better than what she lost.this is a hadith also.
 
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'Brother fais, my duas are for you, I have suggestion for you, continue to work, take time to adjust and then think of 2nd marraige, I mean dont just look for a life partner but rather look for a new life which will give you peace, it's a hard time for you and we are with you emotionally to make you feel that you are not helpless.
 
Have faith in Allah and insha'allah you will get better than what you lost...this is a hadith also.'
 
Brother...this was really my advice to you in another topic but you didn't seem to understand what I was trying to say.Unhappy  Allah hafiz
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Quote martha Replybullet Posted: 12 October 2009 at 5:21am
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Originally posted by md.faheem

Many proposals are turning down due to my sister's color and dowry demands here locally. Pls. help me out........


You people need to let go of Hindu pagan cultures.
 
Yes, too much pressure is put on families to come up with large dowry's. This is not Islamic teaching. SO many people in these Asian countries are starving whilst others spend thousands of dollars/pounds on a celebration. Most certainly if you are not a family of means your social status is practically non existant. This extravagence is a sin.
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Quote fais Replybullet Posted: 12 October 2009 at 5:58am
Yes sister,
 
i will consider your advise,finally what allah has decided will happen no matter how much i try,so lets hope for the best.
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