It is the responsibility of a parent to make sure that their daughters are married when they are of age.

Ahh but you see many of the reverts  don't have parents... or cannot find a Wali... folks, even Imams are opting out...

I say a game show! lol

There are two kind of Fate - One is Natural Fate, the other is Administered Fate. Finding spouse and making sure that our marriage works is Administered Fate.

Hope those are your views sister. {Not the saying of any sufis } Am of the opinion that its mostly, so called in your words - "natural fate". To strive in life thru right means, is all that matters and accounts. Rest all is followed by fate. To have faith in fate is one of the components of belief.


Putting on hijab should start from within. Do it for Allah not for anything else. Then you will feel comfortable physically and spiritually.

Coming to the subject of discussion, hijab shud be wore for the sake of obeying the commands of Allah swt.  Dawah is naturally done when we wear it. Hijabis shud be conscious that they now represent not themselves or there family, but the religion they belong to. I know a woman who was intrested to know of Islam. She was in a meeting where she found other muslimahs. She moved only towards a muslimah who wore hijab to get her doubts clarified. Eventually, after her rapport for about 2 months with that sister , she embraced Islam. She said that she felt as this muslimah wears hijab, she must be more conscious of God and that made her talk to her.

Ameen wa iyyak, sis/bro

and you are free to share it with whom you want  and may Allah accept it from all of us...

ameen thumma ameen

Well you guess right Hidayah. This is from the teachings of Tasawwuf or Sufism. Natural Fate from the phrase - LAHAULAWALA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAHILALIYILADZEEM - meaning - There is no power nor strength save in Allah; the Most High, the Supreme (in glory)"

And Administered Fate - Verily, never will Allah change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves" (Holy Quran 13:11

Take for example death. It is itself a Natural Fate as well as Administered Fate. Nobody can deny death but how we die, is administered by human, either ourselves or other people.

Man and woman naturally are made for each other. That is natural. How we find our partners, is administered fate.

AS we know the men are the protectors and the maitainers of women...
and per the following Sign injunction about covering of the women folks:

33:59 (Y. Ali) O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft- Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Now consider what happens when the Muslim men are not available for the Muslimahs' protection then what is the best approach to preclude molestation...Does the last part allows a waiver in such circumstances?
Why I am saying this cuz read in the following news report that involves  a murder/ martyrdom of an Imam and literal molestation his hijabi daughters on the high desert town of our state of California ...It makes me so perturbed about this for those families who have ended up due to economics in small towns USA...CLICK BELOW FOR WHOLE STORY

FBI investigating fatal blast at a San Bernardino County home as a hate crime

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The family, which includes seven children, lived on a large lot along Yermo Road for the last four years. Life hasn't always been peaceful. They reported being insulted based on their Arab heritage, having their religion mocked and being threatened.

Ahmad Mohd, 14, said a group of children at his school routinely challenged him to fights, used racial epithets and told him, "Go home, Arab." His father complained to school officials, who suspended some of the students, but the harassment continued, Ahmad said.

The school superintendent was on vacation and could not be reached for comment Thursday.

Asmaa Mohd, 18, who wears a traditional Arab head covering called a hijab, reported being taunted with a racial slur as some youths tried to tear off her head covering.


Should they be sitting ducks when there aren't very many Muslims there for their protection?
Isn't the requirement fulfilled by wearing a doctors coat under 33:59?


Edited by Sign*Reader - 10 July 2009 at 4:45pm