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samya

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Topic: Is this fair to expect wife to earn in Islam
Posted: 25 December 2008 at 4:29pm

In Islam Husband is responsible for bring food to table. If he has good job and still expects wife to work when she wants to be a housewife and devoted mother to kids What should a woman do in light of Islamic teachings . He says why u have to stay home and I work you better do as much hard work or more than me. Should a wife be obedient even then?

I know many women want to work after marriage but SHOULD THEY BE MADE TO WORK ?

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Posted: 03 October 2009 at 7:07am

Hello sister,

I hope everthing must be fine now,i know i am late but since this is there on the post stil so thought of replying,

in islam woman is not suppose to work as they have better responsibilities than working out,regardless of the finacial condition if husband forces his wife to earn he will be answerable on the day of judgment.husband has no right to ask his wife to work and at the same time handle the house.

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Posted: 03 October 2009 at 7:46am

Originally posted by samya

I know many women want to work after marriage but SHOULD THEY BE MADE TO WORK ?

Thanks

Allah Hafiz

No a woman should not be made to work. If she chooses to because there is little money coming into the house then that is acceptable. Any money a wife has is her own....to do with as she pleases....if to help to pay for things in the home then that is also good. Married couples should try to live as simply as possible...any extra money is a bonus and should be used wisely.

As this does not seem to be the case for you as husband earns well then he is not being fair. You have your hands full with the family.

Perhaps he is trying to live some western values.?I know my ex-husband wanted me to be a good muslim housewife and still work 72hrs a week(which I did)....he just wanted to mix up 2 cultures in 1 to suit himself.

Don't fall into that trap.

Edited by martha - 03 October 2009 at 7:50am

some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set

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Posted: 03 October 2009 at 4:00pm

Asalala Alaikukm Samya,

Did you discuss this with him before you married?

Why does he say she should work?

No, he should not make her work outside the home. Enough work to do at home.. Smile

Hayfa

When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi

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samya Newbie Joined: 02 December 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 23	Topic: Is this fair to expect wife to earn in Islam Posted: 25 December 2008 at 4:29pm
	In Islam Husband is responsible for bring food to table. If he has good job and still expects wife to work when she wants to be a housewife and devoted mother to kids What should a woman do in light of Islamic teachings . He says why u have to stay home and I work you better do as much hard work or more than me. Should a wife be obedient even then? I know many women want to work after marriage but SHOULD THEY BE MADE TO WORK ? Thanks Allah Hafiz
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fais Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Online Status: Offline Posts: 281	Posted: 03 October 2009 at 7:07am
	Hello sister, I hope everthing must be fine now,i know i am late but since this is there on the post stil so thought of replying, in islam woman is not suppose to work as they have better responsibilities than working out,regardless of the finacial condition if husband forces his wife to earn he will be answerable on the day of judgment.husband has no right to ask his wife to work and at the same time handle the house.
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martha Senior Member Joined: 30 October 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1141	Posted: 03 October 2009 at 7:46am
	*Originally posted by samya* I know many women want to work after marriage but SHOULD THEY BE MADE TO WORK ? Thanks Allah Hafiz No a woman should not be made to work. If she chooses to because there is little money coming into the house then that is acceptable. Any money a wife has is her own....to do with as she pleases....if to help to pay for things in the home then that is also good. Married couples should try to live as simply as possible...any extra money is a bonus and should be used wisely. As this does not seem to be the case for you as husband earns well then he is not being fair. You have your hands full with the family. Perhaps he is trying to live some western values.?I know my ex-husband wanted me to be a good muslim housewife and still work 72hrs a week(which I did)....he just wanted to mix up 2 cultures in 1 to suit himself. Don't fall into that trap. Edited by martha - 03 October 2009 at 7:50am
	some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set
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Hayfa Female Islam Senior Member Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 2370	Posted: 03 October 2009 at 4:00pm
	Asalala Alaikukm Samya, Did you discuss this with him before you married? Why does he say she should work? No, he should not make her work outside the home. Enough work to do at home.. Hayfa
	When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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