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Quote Hayfa Replybullet Posted: 05 December 2008 at 6:20pm
oh shopping.. .lol
 
I am impressed that people can do that.. .I am an in and out type of person..
 
So what do I do, just leave him alone for a long time and let
him sort things out?
 
Can you hit him over the head with a frying pan?? ooops... lol  But seriously.. people can be just SO frustrating.. like hello... make a decision and get on with it.  hmm maybe the frying pan may work??  Whay do you folks think?
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Quote sharonjundi Replybullet Posted: 05 December 2008 at 8:35pm
That is funny. I thought about if someone would just
hit him in the head, maybe he would realize what he is
doing, not only to me, but to this sons also.
You know, I have decided to just leave him alone.....
I am trying to totally cut him out of my life and move
on.   I am tired of what he has done to me. He just keeps leading me on........
So I told him never to call me or come by anymore.
LEAVE ME ALONE.............I told him.....
SO lets see what happens now.
Sharon   


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Quote Imani Replybullet Posted: 05 December 2008 at 11:56pm
hello sharon.
good to hear that from you.
So when you said that to him, did he do any sign of respond. I mean did his action showed that he was pleased with what you said.
Any way we are all looking forward to what happens next.
If he is going to come by to your house.
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Quote sharonjundi Replybullet Posted: 06 December 2008 at 6:19am
Hello,

His reactions was with anger. He said if I had the
money I would have already gotten a divorce. So that
is when I told him to never come by the house or call
me. I told him then to just leave me alone......
Let him enjoy his life and I will enjoy mine without
him.............It has been two days and I have not
heard from him..   He does this. And then about 1 week
later he usually calls or comes by the house. Let's
see what happens this time. I need to stay strong and
let it be. Whatever ALLAH wills, then it will happen.
I am going shopping today, because that usually helps
me to not think about him for a while.
Thank you a my ALLAH bless us all.

Sharon

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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 06 December 2008 at 6:36am
Originally posted by Hayfa

.. .I am an in and out type of person.. 
 
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Quote chkwf Replybullet Posted: 06 December 2008 at 7:58am

assalamu alaikum

you have to define at first the problem .
what make  your husband taking the  decision to leave you.
did he saw something bad from you?
try to discuss  with him to know  the problem . may be he misunderstood  you on some matters or you are too hard with  him on other matters.
from what I  see in your post ,  you really care about him its so nice too  see  that but you have to show him how much he means for you.
put  your beautiful clothes , invite  him to a beautiful  and calm place and  try to discuss with him the matter.tell him  how much his  kids miss him .
may  god help you.
 
 
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Quote jhaskell48 Replybullet Posted: 06 December 2008 at 8:18am
Assalam alaikum Sharon:
I have been following your posts and my heart goes out to you.  I also am admiring your strength and your faith in Allah.  You can get through this and you will, whatever the outcome.  I am going through a terrible time and reading the Qur'an is bringing me an incredible amount of peace and comfort.   I am praying for you.

Al Bafqarah 2:256 "...whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy Handhold, that never breaks.  And Allah heareth and knoweth all things."
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Quote sharonjundi Replybullet Posted: 06 December 2008 at 3:15pm
Hello

I tryed that in the past. We had a great time going
out and then all of a sudden he got just decided that
when I asked him if he wanted to come home, he said
yes and then he never came back. He just calls and
does not want to be with me. I know that in the past
that he has been stressed with a lot of things in his
life. I would say that our relationship with each
other was not the same for the past year before he
moved out. But then after he moved out, then we started
going out every weekend, as if we were on a date.
Then after I asked him to come home, he agreed and then
when it was time to move back, he avoided me for about
1 week. I do not know what is wrong with this man. I
think he is crazy. Mentally ill............

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