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Akhe Abdullah
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Quote Akhe Abdullah Replybullet Posted: 03 December 2008 at 9:26am
Originally posted by sharonjundi

I want to thank you for your prayers and support. I have
had a better weekend. Now, today I am asking my husband
what his intentions are in our relationship... It has
been over 4 months since our seperation. I need to know
what he wants, but I do not feel like it is his decision only to ask for a divorce. Is that correct?
Should it be both of our decisions, or can he make the
decision by himself. I am tired and stressed out over
what he is doing. I do not want this to become a divorce
but what can I do? It seems like he wants to make all
the decisions now. Please tell me is this correct, or
can I dispute it.
I pray to ALLAH for more guidance and let him decide what
is the right thing to do.

Please pray for me and thank you for being so kind and
replying back to me.

ALLAH bless us all and keep us strong and safe in our
lives.

Sharon
As Salaamulaikum.Sister Sharonjundi Im always pleased to hear from you.(Ahamduillah) you had a better weekend.If you are willing to ask a question,then you should be ready for the answer.Weather if you are wiiling to except the answer is another question.How about instead of asking what your husbans intentions are asks is there any chance of reconciliation.I pray that Allah will soften your hearts and your words and no matter what the out come is to be that you two will find peace with eachother and one day reconcile.Regaurdless Sister Sharon remain a good Muslim woman thats what Allah loves.Im sorry if things doesnt turn out the way you want them too.You have to remember (Ahamduillah) for everything good or bad.As for your Questions yes he can.But sister have patience you always say(it seems like he wants a divorce)you should indeed know for sure because he might just wants to be alone.Sometimes people get tired of making choices for more than one person it can seem like your brain is overcrowded.Forgive me for that I just had to give you and example of how I use to feel at times.Dont get discouraged keep faith in Allah and let him be your guide.
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Quote sharonjundi Replybullet Posted: 03 December 2008 at 1:48pm
Good Afternoon

Thank you for replying back to me. I am trying to be strong now and I do have stronger faith in ALLAH right
now, but sometimes I feel like I am lost and no one can
find me and help me. I have strong faith more than ever.
I will still pray that my husband will come back, but
I just get tired of dealing with this.
My husband avoids me when I ask him any questions about
our relations. Why does he do this?
I know that you said that sometimes people need time to clear
their heads and are stressed out about things. So what
do I do, just leave him alone for a long time and let
him sort things out?
I am getting to impatient now. It has been over 4 months
since he left. Did I do wrong by asking him to give me
an answer on whether he wants a divorce?
Please advise me what I should do.
May ALLAH bless us all and guide us and give us strength
that we indure.

Thanks again for replying back to me.
Sharon

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Quote sharonjundi Replybullet Posted: 03 December 2008 at 6:56pm
Hello again,

I know now that it will be over for my husband and I.
Thanks so much for all your prayers and support....

I really appreciate the effort and support that you
have given me in the past. I now know that ALLAH
does not want us to share our lives together any
more. Thanks again for all the support.

May ALLAH bless us all........
Thanks once again.

Sharon

Edited by sharonjundi - 03 December 2008 at 6:57pm
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Quote Akhe Abdullah Replybullet Posted: 04 December 2008 at 8:20am
Originally posted by sharonjundi

Good Afternoon

Thank you for replying back to me. I am trying to be strong now and I do have stronger faith in ALLAH right
now, but sometimes I feel like I am lost and no one can
find me and help me. I have strong faith more than ever.
I will still pray that my husband will come back, but
I just get tired of dealing with this.
My husband avoids me when I ask him any questions about
our relations. Why does he do this?
I know that you said that sometimes people need time to clear
their heads and are stressed out about things. So what
do I do, just leave him alone for a long time and let
him sort things out?
I am getting to impatient now. It has been over 4 months
since he left. Did I do wrong by asking him to give me
an answer on whether he wants a divorce?
Please advise me what I should do.
May ALLAH bless us all and guide us and give us strength
that we indure.

Thanks again for replying back to me.
Sharon
As Salaamulaikum Sister Sharon Jundi.As always I am Please to hear from you.I am also sad for you, I have prayed much for you lately.My Sister do not get obsessed over this I pray that no one has to ever go through this but it happens.Prophet (SAW)says:Your love for something can make you blind and deaf.Do not loose focus.If your husban no longer wants to be with you.Be the better person,support him and his decission,most divorces leave the man and women bitter at each other. maybe he does not know what he wants.(start with love end with love)It seems that you cant help yourself wanting to know an answer.I know its hard on you my dear sister.May Allah help you through your troubled times and give you strength.
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Quote Akhe Abdullah Replybullet Posted: 04 December 2008 at 8:43am
Originally posted by sharonjundi

Hello again,

I know now that it will be over for my husband and I.
Thanks so much for all your prayers and support....

I really appreciate the effort and support that you
have given me in the past. I now know that ALLAH
does not want us to share our lives together any
more. Thanks again for all the support.

May ALLAH bless us all........
Thanks once again.

Sharon
As salaamulaikum Sister Sharon Jundi.It's always good to hear from you.I want to know that you are doing good (Inshallah).Hey'If it is Allah(SWT) will then it is.But know that men have there own will and do what they want not what is right by Allah.How are (you) doing?Do you like pets?You need something to keep you occupied,Can you volunteer for anything at your Masjid.I know you have to have at least one friend you never answered that question?No one to talk to in person?
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Quote sharonjundi Replybullet Posted: 04 December 2008 at 2:23pm
Hello again,

I am trying to keep busy. I have a few friends, but they
are mostly from work. They like to go out to places that
I do not care to go.
I enjoy going out to eat and to the movies.
My son that lives here with me, took me out over the
weekend for lunch and shopping. I love to go shopping
even if I do not buy anything.
I have a grand daughter that is 3 years of age.
Her daddy is from my oldest son Ali.
She brings me lots of joy.
I also have a dog and a cat. They are very special to me. Thank you so much again for all your kindness.
I hope your life is not as sad as mine.
May ALLAH Bless you for being there for me lately.
You have become a good friend for me.......
Thanks again so much for your kindness and I will always
pray that ALLAH gives me more strength and peace from now on........
Sharon

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Quote Akhe Abdullah Replybullet Posted: 05 December 2008 at 6:02am
Originally posted by sharonjundi

Hello again,

I am trying to keep busy. I have a few friends, but they
are mostly from work. They like to go out to places that
I do not care to go.
I enjoy going out to eat and to the movies.
My son that lives here with me, took me out over the
weekend for lunch and shopping. I love to go shopping
even if I do not buy anything.
I have a grand daughter that is 3 years of age.
Her daddy is from my oldest son Ali.
She brings me lots of joy.
I also have a dog and a cat. They are very special to me. Thank you so much again for all your kindness.
I hope your life is not as sad as mine.
May ALLAH Bless you for being there for me lately.
You have become a good friend for me.......
Thanks again so much for your kindness and I will always
pray that ALLAH gives me more strength and peace from now on........
Sharon
As salaamulaikum Sister Sharon Jundi.(Alhamduillah).Once again I am pleased to hear from you, though sadden by the bad news.(Ahamduillah)You still have some joy in your life,thats great" to know you are not alone.May Allah continue to give you joy in this life and the next.(Inshallah)(Ameen)
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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 05 December 2008 at 6:55am
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 I love to go shopping
even if I do not buy anything.
 
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