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Quote abosait Replybullet Posted: 18 January 2009 at 6:58pm
Originally posted by Nabil

...........So how can we quite it now because its temptating to control..............
The following is a CP of a Fatwa issued by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid.
 
As for curing the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:

1) The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allaah’s orders and fearing His punishment.

2) A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet’s hadeeth.

3) Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.

4) Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden).

Allaah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet’s hadeeth (interpretations of the meanings):
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is all-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) ..... " 24.30-31
Allaah’s messenger said:
"Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look." Al-Tirmidhi 2777.
This is a general instruction by the Prophet to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haraam (forbidden).

5) Using one’s available leisure time in worshipping Allaah and increasing religious knowledge.

6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feeling of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation.

7) Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality.

8) Strengthening one’s willpower and avoiding spending time alone as recommended by the Prophet when he said
"Do not spend the night alone" Ahmad 6919.

9) Following the Prophet’s aforementioned hadeeth and fast when possible, because fasting will temper one’s sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allaah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one’s promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one’s oath to Allaah. Also, note that medication to diminish one’s sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one’s sexual ability.

10) Trying to follow the Prophet’s recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).

11) Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allaah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet explains in the following hadeeth:
"Whoever seeks chastity Allaah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allaah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience." Bukhari:1469. 12)
Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allaah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allaah.

13) Finally, Allaah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness will be accepted, by His will. Wallahu a’lam. And Allah knows what is best and most correct.



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Quote Ron Webb Replybullet Posted: 19 January 2009 at 6:29pm
Originally posted by abosait

6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain.
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Quote moekalsoon Replybullet Posted: 17 March 2009 at 3:18am
this is a great extract that i have found, i think there is alot of confusion on this topic presented by the more strict muslims, Rassullah(PBUH) ordered us to be moderate in all of our affairs,

It is reported that Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal regarded semen as an excretion of the body like other excreta and permitted its expulsion as blood letting is permitted. This view is also held by Ibn Hazm. (1) According to Hanbali jurists masturbation is permitted if one fears that not doing so would lead to fornication or adultery (2), this view is also held by some Hanafi jurists (3). Hanbali jurists also allow another condition of permission which is if a man does not have a means to marry. (4) However according to Ad al Rahman al Juzayri this view is weak and it should not be relied upon. (5)

According to Yusuf Al Qaradawi "We are inclined to accept the opinion of Imam Ahmad in a situation where there is sexual excitation and danger of committing the haram. For example, a young man has gone abroad to study or work, thereby encountering many temptations which he fears he will be unable to resist, may resort to this method of relieving sexual tension provided he does not do it excessively or make it into a habit."


the link to the full article is listed below just incase anyone wants to read it,

jazakumuallahu khayr.

http://www.angelfire.com/la/IslamicView/Mastur2.html

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Quote Saladin Replybullet Posted: 19 March 2009 at 9:05am
[QUOTE=Ron Webb] It can be done without lusting after a particular person, if that's what you mean.


Really? Got any tips?




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Quote abosait Replybullet Posted: 15 April 2009 at 9:51pm

Originally posted by moekalsoon

 
.............Rassullah(PBUH) ordered us to be moderate in all of our affairs,.............
 
Please provide proof such as name of the Sahih, narrator etc to prove itw authenticity. Above all the context in which it was said isalso necessary to fully understand a Hadith.

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It is reported that Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal regarded semen as an excretion of the body like other excreta and permitted its expulsion as blood letting is permitted.

An excretion of the body like other excreta and blood letting does not necessitate in the person concerned taking a full bath before standing for prayers or entering a masjid. Whereas this is not the Ruling if Semen ejects out of the organ. How then could you equate the two?
 
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Quote moekalsoon Replybullet Posted: 16 April 2009 at 12:51am
Salamz I am not the one equating both together. Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal is, and brother I don't think that u are wiser or know more than imam Ahmad bin hambal owner of one of the 4 schools of thought. Blood letting invalidates ones wudu and hence the person is required to do wudu again purifing himself for salah, so I would assume that there is a link between both
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Quote moekalsoon Replybullet Posted: 16 April 2009 at 12:57am
And I am by no means telling everyone that this action is ok don't get me wrongg but for every argument there are 2 sides everyone has heard one side now let them here the other so that they can make their own decision based on the complete evidence, I personally don't encourage this action but in the end we are all sinning humans and the best of the sinners are the repenters and escpecially being a man which has lived his whole life in Australia I know how hard it is foryoung men to fight the temptations but according to both the hanbali and hanafi schools it is better to comMit a small sin and repent then commit a great sin such as zina
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Quote abosait Replybullet Posted: 16 April 2009 at 6:10pm
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...........Blood letting invalidates ones wudu and hence the person is required to do wudu again purifing himself for salah, so I would assume that there is a link between both.........
 
On what authority do you
  • equate wudhu with Gusul?
  • Brand a great Imam as 'owner of a school of thought'?
No human is infallible. Only the Prophet Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam was specially protected from wrong doing by the Grace of Allah.
 


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