Uh John,

It sounds good in teory,  but I am on a board with women in polygyny and they would not agree... its very complicated.. one way is not good for all ..:)

asa..i agree that a husband should tell his first wife if he is interested in a second wife, sometimes the purpose is not just to have a second wife ,it may be because illness may have came over the first wife the she may not be able to give her husband due rights.  i want to know if the husband finds it difficult to marry another because so much time with frist wife has already been established and its hard on him to get another wife just because the first can not preform her wife duty in the bed...What should the husband do he has righ

This is perhaps the only intelligent comment in this thread: CONSULT A SCHOLAR!

Also, correct me if I'm reading too much into the Quran here. But is it possible to "deal justly" with a wife while in effect lying to her? Yes, yes. Your "culture" may permit and even encourage such things, gentlemen. I am asking, does your conscience? More importantly, does Allah? Islam---as a set of historically developed expedients for putting Quran and sunnah into practice--- is the way to Allah; it is scarcely Allah Himself.