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Quote seekshidayath Replybullet Posted: 19 June 2009 at 6:06pm

Also, i guess you are not regular to salah. else these kind of thoughts, never wander around. When you get those thoughts, seeks refuge from him. Busy your heart with remembrance of Allah swt. Where there is zikr of Allah swt', satan runs away.

Don't mind if any of my words seem harsh, but its really very bad Nycin. I pray Allah swt to bless you with guidance. Seek forgiveness from Allah swt and start up again, my brother.


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Quote seekshidayath Replybullet Posted: 19 June 2009 at 6:43pm

Here's a translation of Quran in Malayalam { Iguess it also has audio} Listen , ponder and reflect over it. Insha Allah, it shall help you a lot. If you are unable to get that link, go to Quran and Sunnah section of this site, and there you may easily find a thread - {Look for the word Malayalam, Bangla Quran}


http://www.islamicity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12806

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
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Quote Saladin Replybullet Posted: 20 June 2009 at 6:26pm
Originally posted by Nycin

Hello Patricia,I am feeling very lonely, even after my marriage. All that I can think about is, about my first love. The only love from heart.Nycin


So romantic but when you dont get or lose something, pray and hope for something else better, not make your's and others lives miserable. There's so much to live for in this world and the hereafter, you'd realise once you get out of that cage you've locked yourself up in....... Move on Romeo!

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Quote Pati Replybullet Posted: 21 June 2009 at 3:31pm
Hi again, Nycin
 
I found a text from Paulo Coelho, I don't know if you know about him... I want you to read it and think, please. It's inviting the reader to find the love as a gift, even if it was not completed... and not like a punishment. From every thing in this life, we can learn, but I don't know why, from the bad things it's becoming hard for us to understand the lesson... I know you will do one day, and you will open your eyes and realize that you wasted lot of time thinking about something impossible.
 
Read it, please (I read it in Spanish, and I don't know the quality of the translation. I hope it didn't lose the idea).
 
 
Convention of those wounded in love
 

General provisions: 

A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;

B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battle field, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;

It is hereby decreed that:

Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage.  Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.

Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”.  Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage.  In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while.  The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.

Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden.  In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor.  The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.

Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly.  Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one’s decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.

Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time.  It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things.  One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints.  Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day. 

Final determination : Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers.  They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.

And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”.  Because they haven’t.

http://paulocoelhoblog.com/warrioroflight/page/40/
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Quote Nycin Replybullet Posted: 23 August 2011 at 11:18am
Hi,

I am sorry to hurt you people again.

To be honest, I am completely lost in my life, with nothing to remember.

All I can think of is about Rejina only. I loved her that much.

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Quote Nycin Replybullet Posted: 19 October 2012 at 6:57am
Assalamu Alaikkum...

I am not expecting any miracle going to happen in this life... I will be in hell, and I know that well, than anybody else.

The pain in my heart is increasing day by day, and I am waiting for a heart attack, that will end my life, and relieve me from the non ending pain that I am having for the last few years.

I am not trying to disturb anybody with my feelings. Still, may be, Allah will hear somebody's prayer for me, and may be, if Allah is willing, Rejina will understand, how much I loved her!

You people may be thinking that I am mad. But sincerely, I am not, and the thing is that I am not able to forget her... and I cannot live without her... She is my only love, and I will be happy to die for her...

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Quote Caringheart Replybullet Posted: 19 October 2012 at 3:11pm
Nycin,

What comes to mind is that it is what we allow ourselves to dwell on, to think about, that controls our feelings.  You need to redirect your thoughts towards the life you have now, especially since you went ahead and married another.  You are being very unfair to that other.
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Now what also comes to my mind is, are you familiar with the marriage of Prince Charles to lady Diana?  If you are, then you know also that in the end Charles ended up married to his first love Camilla.  He did as was expected of him, and lived the life given to him, and in the end his patience was rewarded.  You are having to do the harder thing right now... being submitted to the life given to you by Allah, and trusting in His will for your life.  You must live today, thinking only of making the most of today, and trusting in Him for tomorrow.  Allah knows what is best for us.
You have a vision, a dream... what if you were given that dream only to find it is a shattered vision... like a mirror?
Trust Allah.
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Quote phuongtuanpy248 Replybullet Posted: 10 May 2013 at 6:50pm
hey guy, dont sucide for women, it's unworthy. If she don't love you, you can find another lover. Important that,make your life always funny and happy. Good luck to you.

Edited by phuongtuanpy248 - 10 May 2013 at 6:51pm
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