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Truth_light24

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Posted: 06 June 2008 at 4:20pm

Lovesakeenah, I don’t think I can do all that considering the fast moving life we have right now. LOL

Both man and wife got to work to support the family and be home too tired..but one thing I knew of that would make a family go on strong and can stand the test of time…. To have love, trust, respect and above all, Allah in the relationship…and never listen to satan’s enticing words and insinuations.

The wife should make her husband feel that his home is with her, making him feel at peace when he is home. Same way the husband too should make his wife feels that she is precious and cherished and all this can be felt by each and everyone if done with sincerity (thru the heart). To have time in everything, kids, work, home, husband ……you may not have perfect family life but at least you will be near perfection…inshallah! Smile

And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, bear (on themselves) a calumny and a glaring sin. Quran33:59

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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:37am

As-salaam alaykum warahamatullah wabarakatuh dear sisters

I wish i could I could answer all your questions,but I can't unfortunately...

I mean,I also question why there are more write-ups about being a good wife,polygamy(ignoring the aspect that says a woman has every right to oppose this idea if it will affect her deen&relationship with the husband) and why the duties of a wife make the headlines in relationships,almost all the time.So ladies,without further ado,I am working on making my contribution in changing that cliche,masha Allahu...I'd let you know when am done(it's going to take a while....).

There are many things women can do to liberate themselves from poverty say for instance, becoming a widow&being unemployed...matters could be worse if children're involved.My dear sisters, we might not be able to live a perfect harmonious marital life,but we can surely make our troubles minimal by being educated on things to know and do prior marital commitment,masha Allahu.So,I guess I can start here then.I am gathering the materials needed for my Book on Marriage and Women's rights in Islam (not the title,but the focus of the book) masha Allahu.And amongst the things I want to do is make 'Questionnaires'.I haven't got to that stage yet,but I also intend to ask Sisters' opinions about what they feel are been left out when writing about relationships(Islamic perspective).What should be included and considered.The provisions that should be put in place to make the wife comfortable in her relationship.

I also intend to look at Cultural influences masha Allahu,amongst other things.Like I said,this project will take a while because of other external factors causing time constraints.

So,if I asked you what you would like to be aired,read,written more on this subject,what would it be?

Need I remind you again that,we're looking at this Islamically,meaning-in compliance with Qur'anic injuctions&the teachings of Rasulullah(s.a.w).May Allah grant us adequate wisdom&useful knowledge.....Ameen!

"I have conviction that Allah has power over everything.Verily!Allah's knowledge includes and encompasses everything".

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Posted: 11 June 2008 at 4:15am

Originally posted by lovesakeenah

As-salaam alaykum warahamatullah wabarakatuh dear sisters

,I am working on making my contribution in changing that cliche,masha Allahu...I'd let you know when am done(it's going to take a while....).

Jazakallah Khair

"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."

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Posted: 18 September 2008 at 4:38pm

None of what you said applies to me. I hate dressing up and wearing jewelry and makeup. My husband prefers natural beauty as do I. He likes me for the way I am. As long as I obey him and clean and cook, and don't do anything haraam, he is leneit in what I'm allowed to do. The only thing my husband asks of me, is that I brush my hair every day, and wash my face with soap, because he says it makes me more beautiful to him.

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Posted: 27 September 2009 at 11:44pm

sama alaikum,

well sister Amina,masha allah it was great to read about your successful realtion may this continues till janna.

regards

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Posted: 02 October 2009 at 11:14am

Assalimu Alaikum Forum

Alhamdulillah....I've been married happily for 19 years and I like to think it's because I married a good muslim br. strong in his deen. age and beauty will fade with time if there's not a strong foundation the marriage will not last (Aminah)

Amen sister, and gravity will take over.

Zaharah

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Tupac A. Shakur...

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Full of Hopes
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Posted: 04 October 2009 at 1:08pm

Asslamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatu Allah

This is a wonderful nice post. We should pass it to all Muslim wives. May Allah be pleased.. Smile

And whoever seeks a religion other than Islâm, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)

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Posted: 26 October 2009 at 6:40am

Halleo..your advices are very interesting,I not married yet but if I found woman has thith values I willing to
marry her and not exploit her and respect her
by thith we can establish a nice family and successful
sons.I think the buteay doesnot importer than behavour
in woman,at last I thank you and please donot stop your useful advices and God bless you.

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Truth_light24 Senior Member Joined: 13 January 2008 Location: Philippines Online Status: Offline Posts: 270	Posted: 06 June 2008 at 4:20pm
	Lovesakeenah, I don’t think I can do all that considering the fast moving life we have right now. Both man and wife got to work to support the family and be home too tired..but one thing I knew of that would make a family go on strong and can stand the test of time…. To have love, trust, respect and above all, Allah in the relationship…and never listen to satan’s enticing words and insinuations. The wife should make her husband feel that his home is with her, making him feel at peace when he is home. Same way the husband too should make his wife feels that she is precious and cherished and all this can be felt by each and everyone if done with sincerity (thru the heart). To have time in everything, kids, work, home, husband ……you may not have perfect family life but at least you will be near perfection…inshallah!
	And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, bear (on themselves) a calumny and a glaring sin. Quran33:59
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lovesakeenah Female Islam Senior Member Joined: 13 June 2007 Location: South Africa Online Status: Offline Posts: 458	Posted: 11 June 2008 at 2:37am
	As-salaam alaykum warahamatullah wabarakatuh dear sisters I wish i could I could answer all your questions,but I can't unfortunately... I mean,I also question why there are more write-ups about being a good wife,polygamy(ignoring the aspect that says a woman has every right to oppose this idea if it will affect her deen&relationship with the husband) and why the duties of a wife make the headlines in relationships,almost all the time.So ladies,without further ado,I am working on making my contribution in changing that cliche,masha Allahu...I'd let you know when am done(it's going to take a while....). There are many things women can do to liberate themselves from poverty say for instance, becoming a widow&being unemployed...matters could be worse if children're involved.My dear sisters, we might not be able to live a perfect harmonious marital life,but we can surely make our troubles minimal by being educated on things to know and do prior marital commitment,masha Allahu.So,I guess I can start here then.I am gathering the materials needed for my Book on Marriage and Women's rights in Islam (not the title,but the focus of the book) masha Allahu.And amongst the things I want to do is make 'Questionnaires'.I haven't got to that stage yet,but I also intend to ask Sisters' opinions about what they feel are been left out when writing about relationships(Islamic perspective).What should be included and considered.The provisions that should be put in place to make the wife comfortable in her relationship. I also intend to look at Cultural influences masha Allahu,amongst other things.Like I said,this project will take a while because of other external factors causing time constraints. So,if I asked you what you would like to be aired,read,written more on this subject,what would it be? Need I remind you again that,we're looking at this Islamically,meaning-in compliance with Qur'anic injuctions&the teachings of Rasulullah(s.a.w).May Allah grant us adequate wisdom&useful knowledge.....Ameen!
	"I have conviction that Allah has power over everything.Verily!Allah's knowledge includes and encompasses everything".
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Chrysalis Senior Member Joined: 25 November 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 2031	Posted: 11 June 2008 at 4:15am
	*Originally posted by lovesakeenah* As-salaam alaykum warahamatullah wabarakatuh dear sisters ,I am working on making my contribution in changing that cliche,masha Allahu...I'd let you know when am done(it's going to take a while....). Jazakallah Khair
	"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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ayisha098 Starter Joined: 17 September 2008 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 9	Posted: 18 September 2008 at 4:38pm
	None of what you said applies to me. I hate dressing up and wearing jewelry and makeup. My husband prefers natural beauty as do I. He likes me for the way I am. As long as I obey him and clean and cook, and don't do anything haraam, he is leneit in what I'm allowed to do. The only thing my husband asks of me, is that I brush my hair every day, and wash my face with soap, because he says it makes me more beautiful to him.
	www.silentlair.com www.freewebs.com/wintesunmission www.myspace.com/spottedjaguar www.myspace.com/islamdawa
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fais Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Online Status: Offline Posts: 281	Posted: 27 September 2009 at 11:44pm
	sama alaikum, well sister Amina,masha allah it was great to read about your successful realtion may this continues till janna. regards
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Zaharah Female Islam Senior Member Joined: 01 June 2008 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 273	Posted: 02 October 2009 at 11:14am
	Assalimu Alaikum Forum Alhamdulillah....I've been married happily for 19 years and I like to think it's because I married a good muslim br. strong in his deen. age and beauty will fade with time if there's not a strong foundation the marriage will not last (Aminah) Amen sister, and gravity will take over. *Zaharah*
	CHANGE- Let's change the way we eat, the way we live and the way we treat each other. You see the old way wasn't working, so it's on us to do what we gotta do to survive. Tupac A. Shakur...
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Full of Hopes Female Islam Senior Member Joined: 06 August 2009 Online Status: Offline Posts: 860	Posted: 04 October 2009 at 1:08pm
	Asslamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatu Allah This is a wonderful nice post. We should pass it to all Muslim wives. May Allah be pleased..
	And whoever seeks a religion other than Islâm, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Ali77 Male Islam Newbie Joined: 19 April 2009 Location: Sudan Online Status: Offline Posts: 29	Posted: 26 October 2009 at 6:40am
	Halleo..your advices are very interesting,I not married yet but if I found woman has thith values I willing to marry her and not exploit her and respect her by thith we can establish a nice family and successful sons.I think the buteay doesnot importer than behavour in woman,at last I thank you and please donot stop your useful advices and God bless you.
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