IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Family Matter http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum This is an XML content feed of; IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Family Matter : Last 10 Posts Wed, 19 Jun 2013 06:14:45 +0000 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 05:40:53 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 8.04 30 www.IslamiCity.com/forum/RSS_topic_feed.asp?FID=89 IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_images/ICForum_Logo.gif http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum Family Matter : seeking advice for my married life..... http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23966&PID=176439#176439 Author: Empiricist
Subject: seeking advice for my married life.....
Posted: 16 June 2013 at 5:40am

As a Christian man, I have valued the phrase in the bible,  Women respect your husband, men love your wife.  The point of this is men do not so want to be loved but respected.  Women want to be loved.  If you respect your husband he will be inclined to give you love.  I have noticed this often when women show respect to me.  But when women (my wife) criticizes me, complains to me, questions my decisions, tries to control me, it really causes hard feelings.  But other women show me respect and I find myself feeling very warm to them.  ]]> Sun, 16 Jun 2013 05:40:53 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23966&PID=176439#176439 Family Matter : help please http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25351&PID=176063#176063 Author: NABA
Subject: help please
Posted: 16 May 2013 at 8:44am

No,there is no effect of jinn or magic,yes jinn do exist,sister I know it is difficult time for U,only thing that will help U is faith in Allah,Allah never forsakes any prayer,it take a lot of faith and patience to solve a problem,this is test for U,as Allah says in Surah Al Mulk ch 67 v 2-its Allah who created life and death to test you which one of U is best in deeds,so this life is a test for us.In Sha Allah everything will be fine.

]]> Thu, 16 May 2013 08:44:23 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25351&PID=176063#176063 Family Matter : help please http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25351&PID=175968#175968 Author: semar
Subject: help please
Posted: 10 May 2013 at 11:32pm

Salam,
No Jin, no magic. Don't blame Jinn or magic to magic if you fail to do something. Because to can be fall to shirk (someking you belive that Jinn or magic can overcome Allah willl or sunatullah). Secondly there is no anygood to do so. Just to do the best and pray to Allah. 29 is not ald.
]]> Fri, 10 May 2013 23:32:59 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25351&PID=175968#175968 Family Matter : help please http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25351&PID=175922#175922 Author: proud2bmuslim
Subject: help please
Posted: 09 May 2013 at 7:34am

Assalamalaikum,
I am a 29yrs old female muslim, my parents are trying hard to find alliance for me & settle my marriage, but none of them is getting finalized. please can some one help me how to know if there's any effect of magic or jinn.. please any one plz tell me how can i find it out without committing any shirk. i will be very much thankful to you.. thanks in advance]]> Thu, 09 May 2013 07:34:58 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25351&PID=175922#175922 Family Matter : angry wife http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25268&PID=175716#175716 Author: abuayisha
Subject: angry wife
Posted: 28 April 2013 at 7:41am

I think most importantly is that you try not to allow her moods and criticisms to effect your motivation.  You have no control over her mindset and expectations, but do have control over your own. Stay positive, don't totally ignore her dark moments - give validation (I know how you feel) and move on.  The reality of life has a way of forcing maturity upon us.  We all from time to time become frustrated from unmet expectations, and know that if it wasn't; 'oh woe is me' about money, it would be; 'why is your career more important to you than me and the kids - money isn't everything'.  In other words, humans will find something to complain about simply because nothing is perfect in this life.  Smile, and be thankful she only has her moods twice monthly and not twice weekly, or daily.... hang in there and allow her to vent without becoming irritated with her.  She is a willing partner, working, and I assume contributes to your household, which isn't really her responsibility. ]]> Sun, 28 Apr 2013 07:41:45 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25268&PID=175716#175716 Family Matter : angry wife http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25268&PID=175695#175695 Author: jgreene
Subject: angry wife
Posted: 27 April 2013 at 11:12pm

So the three of us, my wife, our two-year-old daughter, and I went out shopping for shoes for our little girl. And I noticed that my wife's mood darkened but I didn't know why. Then when we got home she made dinner for herself and sat down to eat it without saying anything to me. So I asked why she was doing that and what was going on because obviously she was angry and I didn't know why. About half an hour later she suddenly looks up at me and says you really don't know why I'm angry? And I said that I had already told her I didn't know why, at which point she said it was because I didn't make any money. She can't buy what she wants, I've talked about making money through a business but nothing has panned out, and so on. Mercifully, that was the end of it although since we've had this argument many times before it could've gone on for much longer.

Short of bringing in a six-figure income starting tomorrow, I don't know what to do about this situation. It isn't as though today for the first time she suddenly realized we don't have all the money we want and need. And in point of fact we're doing much better now than we have in the last three years. We both have steady jobs now and our income has lifted us out of qualifying for food stamps and related assistance.

Nevertheless, this anger and resentment about our finances bubbles up more or less continuously, at least twice a month. I don't know how to get her to relax and be happy with what we have, even even as I continue to strive for more. I don't know how to get her to have faith in my entrepreneurial efforts and be supportive of them and interested in them. And I don't know how to get her to stop being so angry. By the way, we did go to couples therapy maybe a year ago, at my insistence, and the first thing she did in our first therapy session was unload about our finances, crying as she did so.

Part of the problem is that what we have is not what she expected when we got married. The recession has not been kind to us. I don't want a divorce but I don't want things to stay the way they are, either. So I'm hoping some of you can help me figure something out.

Shokran]]> Sat, 27 Apr 2013 23:12:55 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25268&PID=175695#175695 Family Matter : need urgent help plz http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25135&PID=175390#175390 Author: samrana
Subject: need urgent help plz
Posted: 15 April 2013 at 1:26am

no problem is just his bhabhi ...no i dont have children]]> Mon, 15 Apr 2013 01:26:04 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25135&PID=175390#175390 Family Matter : Please Help A Sister http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24993&PID=175368#175368 Author: SisterInNeed
Subject: Please Help A Sister
Posted: 13 April 2013 at 10:24am

I would speak to him but he won't talk to me. His parents are pressurising him. I believe one should respect their parents but if parents are telling you to leave your wife and child then that's wrong. Alhamdulilah I do pray and I'm closer to Allah swt than I've ever been.

Just wish my husband would realise what he's doing and get strength to do what's right. Just don't know what to do]]> Sat, 13 Apr 2013 10:24:59 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24993&PID=175368#175368 Family Matter : need urgent help plz http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25135&PID=175364#175364 Author: irfiaffu123
Subject: need urgent help plz
Posted: 13 April 2013 at 6:28am

sister, Is there any problem between you both ?

do you have children ?
]]> Sat, 13 Apr 2013 06:28:12 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25135&PID=175364#175364 Family Matter : Wife Who Beats Husband http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25119&PID=175348#175348 Author: irfiaffu123
Subject: Wife Who Beats Husband
Posted: 12 April 2013 at 11:12pm

Because my wife hates my parents to the core.
 
She use to think about them and use to fight(beating) with me daily.
 
Eg:- she use to come closer to my face as good and tell your face is looking like your mom/dad . can you please do plastic surgery for me? 
 
when i say. now its going too much.!
tats it she will start like, your mom did tat,your dad did tat,
 
if i reply anything:- she will start speaking bad words and say why are you supporting them, they are bad.!if i say dont use bad words, she will start beating.
 
If i dont reply and sit calmly:- she will say, why are you not at all speaking anything, do you love them this much?, i hate you.
 
After sometime when she become cool down, i will ask, dear wife(with her short sweet name), We have very good life here, im earning vgood, will be happly , pls cooperate with me dear.
 
Her reply, i was good only but i know your mom have done black magic to seperate us one Astrologer told us.tats why i am like this now.
 
when i denny/say we sld not belive, again she will start a fight from scratch like you support your mom? you like her this much ?...
 
But at day end, finally she is spoiling her health, her mom knows everything abt her, so she is fearing to send her because she mght do repeat the same thing now also.
 
Now pls advise me,
 
 


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